What Pulls You Forward? 3 Questions to Ask

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I get a sense that there is an easiness within the souls i have encountered as of late. Maybe it speaks to a larger sense that we are on the edge of something, like a butterfly getting ready to emerge from its cocoon.

I sense this from those i encounter and sense a larger dynamic within the ebb and flow of the world-at-large. I am not saying it is good or bad as i care not to label it, but merely come as an observer of the human condition.

You, too, must be careful to label any uneasiness you may be having within your own life as it may be an indicator of a breakthrough of some kind. Labeling something as good or bad, especially bad, tends to shut off the stream of higher consciousness that seeks to be your destiny.

Most resist, but the more you ask questions about the journey, the more clarification becomes your very existence. It seems to be an oxymoron as we are a society that always wants answers, but the truth is that it is the questions we ask that are the essence of living in beautiful Now Moments.

3 Questions to Ask in Moving Forward

Now when we speak of moving forward, especially in light of living in this Now Moment, there is a danger that we become future-based alone, which is where the ego desires you. But only in the stillness of this Now Moment do your questions become a guide to the connecting Now Moments.

Question 1: What is Your Truth?

At the heart of all moving forward, you must ask if you are being truthful to who you are. Essentially, are you where you want to be within that manifest without in your environment? This may require that you step aside, get out of your own head, and really discover if the core values that you have identified as important to you are truly being lived in a way that makes sense.

Remember that externals do not determine who you are; that your surroundings are only an indicator of you, they are not you. You are not your career, but the essence of your career is who you are.

Make sense?
To begin here with this question, you have to go within and get a sense of your truth.

Question 2: Do You Inspire Others With Whom You Are?

Sometimes the greatest way you can inspire yourself is to be of service to others with whom you are. Do people seek your advice or wisdom? Are you open to be approached?

Sometimes the mere aspect of getting out of your own way and to quit worrying about the future  is to be of service to others. When you are open and allow your spirit to shine in such a way that people can sense that from you, you will be surprised as to how you will begin to see others around you in a more loving light.

Question 3: Are You Able to Define Your Desires and Then Release Them?

Yoda said to a transcendent Obi-Wan in “Star Wars, The Empire Strikes Back” about Luke, “”always looking to the future this one is. Never his mind on where he is, what he is doing.”

The point was that the force gave you an insight into the future as an awareness, but it is only when you truly release your constant future-based thinking can you be mindful of living Now Moments alone.

Sometimes to move forward, you have to release the forward nature to become a connected string of beautiful Now Moments. There is a connection to all Now Moments and it is the essence of peace, love and joy that is who you are within.

Once understood and fully lived, life takes on a newness and your truth is ever-present and any uneasiness melts away.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

Killing Happiness With The External: 3 Ways to Look Within

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I was coaching a client the other day who was telling me the boredom that had beset her and that there was “nothing to do” that brought her joy.

Even a casual follower of this blog knows where i will go with that, but in case you are of the mindset that the external; the vacations, the special occasions, the parties, etc, etc, will bring you some sort of peace within your life, you probably need to re-evaluate your thinking.

As i told my client, there is nothing “out there” that can ever bring you a joyful countenance if you  first are not living in some kind of place where love, joy and peace are at least a small reality.

There can never be an event, an occasion or even another person, that can bring you to a place of joy in your life if you first don’t come to grips with the essence of love within first.

The Goal Line is Constantly Being Moved

Maybe it is the idea that we are always in the pursuit of happiness and that it lies in the obtaining. But isn’t the goal line always seemingly being moved on you? Or maybe it is more like the Charlie Brown character who expects different results every time he goes to kick the football as Lucy is holding it.

3 Ways to Look Within for Happiness

That is the fleeting expression of happiness that is always an external pursuit. The truth is that we are happiness, love, peace and joy, first, and then the truth of that happiness will then manifest outside of ourselves.

Way 1: Find Your Happy Place

Understand that within us all is that place that we are our own truth. Maybe it has become obscured by life, by the opinions of others, by your expectations of what exactly happiness is supposed to be.

Whatever the reason, you must understand that there is a truth that is your joy that may be as simple as understanding that your very nature is love, first. There is a place that you go to, whether you know it or not, that gives you a sense of peace. It is not the place so much as who you are within that place. That is your happy place.

Way 2: Know That Who You Are in All Situations is the Joy You Bring

When a situation that is supposed to bring you a happiness within comes to you, understand it is you that brings any sense of joy to that place to begin with.

A situation, a place or a romance is not the happiness but simply an extension of the peace you bring into it. If you go to a party and everyone is standing around with scowling looks on their faces, was it the party that was bad?

One might say so, but have you ever been in a place where there is one soul that is so dynamic that they change the atmosphere of the room when they enter?

You are that one who can bring joy to a place where there may be none, but you have to believe it first. If it is an act, it will eventually fade away. It must be genuine.

Way 3: Live Your Joy When No One is Looking

This plays into Way 2 in that there must be a genuine expression of that joy found within for this to all make sense. Many would say that this is a process.

Yes and no, but i am more of the mindset that it is a decision that is strictly internal. There are no conditions that must be in place for you to understand that it is your birthright to be joy, to be love and to be peace.

No one must be in your life, no amount of money must be within your reach, you are not at the whims of others and their opinions of you in order to begin this process. It is simply an understanding that you are already that soul of love, peace and joy and you must embrace the essence of that within so as to live it without.

Sometimes it as simple as a decision. Let the process begin there.  In the end, it is a solitary journey that you must understand exists. Your journey then involves others on their solitary journey as well and joy becomes a manifesting destiny.

Live yours well.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

Do You Settle For Less? 3 Ways to Begin to Expect Better

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Several years ago there was a rather crude movie that i found disturbingly funny. One, that is was from the mind of Mike Judge of Beavis and Butt-Head fame, but also he penned one of my favorites, Office Space.

The movie was called, “Idiocracy” and the premise was that the lead actor, played by Luke Wilson, was Private Joe Bauers, the definition of “average American”. His character is selected by the Pentagon to be the guinea pig for a top-secret hibernation program. Forgotten, he awakes 500 years in the future. He discovers a society so incredibly dumbed-down that he’s easily the most intelligent person alive.

What makes this movie even more prescient is that we seem to be in the midst of that very same thing now.

Now, this is not a rant about the current state of affairs within our country or in the world. No, this is all about individual power and the directing of that power to become a better you and a better person of the Universe. It is all about being that one soul that makes a difference.

At the heart of that thought is the idea that we settle for less sometimes within ourselves. We settle for less, so we get less. We then begin the harrowing process of not only lamenting that we are less than we know we should be but, along the way, we begin to make the excuses for settling for less within our lives.

But the only one we are truly trying to convince is ourselves.

To Be or Not to Be, That is the Question

Trust me, i have been there and, probably, most have. It is that still small voice that finally rouses you up to face it. That is the proverbial “fork in the road” moment, i suppose, where we decide to be better for ourselves or, we allow our ego to convince us that we should be like in the movie, “Idiocracy” and just settle for a lesser vision of greatness for ourselves.

But it is a slippery slope and for every time we decided on less than greatness for ourselves, we become a bit more accustomed to not being the greatness that the Universe has designed for us all.

3 Ways to Begin to Expect Better For Ourselves

 

Way 1: To Thine Own Self Be True

There is a danger here to want to frame this argument in a materialistic sense as if somehow having financial abundance and nice things is the way we look at greatness.

Know this, any kind of abundance is merely an extension of your greatness and is a part of the picture, not the complete painting.

You have to know yourself and the qualities of your greatness that you desire. Most may not be able to be expressed as a single word, but more of a feeling, an expression of our character as a way that we are when no one is looking.

Understand yourself and the defining qualities that make you want to continue your quest towards enlightenment and begin the process of not settling for anything than less in your life.

Way 2: You Are Not at the Mercy of the World

The world does not define you or your role within it. Often, people allow the world to become their definition for their lives. They settle for what is supposedly “Normal” but that is like playing beach volleyball. The ball is always changing speeds and the sand is always shifting.

Being caught in the trap of being like everyone else is living the world’s existence for your soul. We are snowflakes. We are all different and bring different gifts and abilities to the table. It is our uniqueness and the ability to be as we are that makes our greatness shine.

Don’t settle for the world’s vision, or your family or friends idea of your greatness. It is yours and yours alone to be. Don’t settle for less.

Way 3: Stop and Listen

Sometimes we get so lost in the technology and social aspects of living in the modern society that we don’t realize that we have within ourselves the ability to connect to Source power that is always calling us to a greater version of ourselves in every Now Moment.

It is as if we have become afraid of the silence of our own thoughts and you can bet that the ego has no interest on you becoming connected to Source in any way as it is then no longer needed.

It is indeed, that still small voice that seeks to be a constant companion to you that desires that you allow yourself not to settle for anything but your personal best in any given moment.

Again, it is your definition of greatness alone, not the worlds, that matters. But it is one that you will know intrinsically as you begin to develop the rapport with your inner guidance system that is the connection to Source and it is found in the silence of the soul.

Stop, listen and live in the beauty of this Now Moment and don’t settle for less for here lies the essence of living your greatness.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

The Intention to Manifest: 3 Ways to Begin the Process

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Manifesting, The Secret, The Law of Attraction.

All words that seemingly dissuade most from even attempting to look at the Universal Law of Manifesting as a way to live life. I mean, it is just too “Out There” for most, right? Just the creative-types and the ones who are in touch with their inner feelings are the ones who do “that kind of stuff”.

Really?

What the basis of goals in general? A plan to fulfill a desire within you that is given to you that expands your horizons in some way. Be it a new car, a relationship or a new career, we plan and set things into motion that, hopefully, put us on our path towards that which we desire.

When things happen that propel us along, some say they get “lucky breaks” and “were in the right place at the right time” and all other fancy way of saying that there was a manifesting principle that was working to propel you along your desired course.

The Universe makes no mistakes and for a true heartfelt desire to become your reality, there  is a truth that cannot be denied; You have indeed manifest your reality.

Gravity and Manifesting are Both Universal Principles

Like gravity, it is a Universal principle and one that when allowed to become your dominant thought process, you can begin the process of pursuing life in the flow of manifesting, not against it.

This is, on the outside, a very simple thought process, but most complicate it to the point that it becomes a complicated and convoluted way of existence that “doesn’t work for me” as most would say.

3 Ways to Begin to Internalize the Manifesting Process Within

Manifesting your reality is the stuff that the higher conscious souls do, but it is available for all who desire it within their existence.

Way 1: Begin Small

Even though you have manifest desires your entire life, it is when someone tells you that you can manifest your reality that the ego pulls you aside and tells you to “be real” and to “stay in the real world” that things begin to not make sense.

For me, it was a nickel. I was at a low point and had been studying and delving into living at a higher consciousness. But it was when a teacher told me to let go and to begin again in a small way. The key was to let it go and let it happen naturally and in an organic way.

I remember thinking about it as i shifted thoughts to it as i drifted off to sleep. A nickel clearly popped into my mind and i almost laughed at the simplicity of it.

You see, it has to make sense and it cannot be something then that you then manufacture in a way that is senseless.

The next morning, being one of the first in my local coffee shop, i went to plug in my computer and there it was. A nickel sitting there. The truth is that this part of the restaurant was swept and mopped every night before closing. This i knew as i knew the night manager and that she insisted on it from her crew.

You understand that it was not the nickel, really, but that it was manifest into my reality. If it can be a nickel in an organic manner, anything is possible. It is only the mind that keeps us tied to a small reality for ourselves.

Way 2: Let it Go

So often when people delve into the teachings of The Law of Attraction, they quickly become disenchanted as it doesn’t happen as they think it should be, usually in the time they think. This is the “It doesn’t work for me” mindset that fills the reality of those who think in the smallness of the egocentric life that most find themselves in.

Like in the story of the nickel, i had to “Let it go” to the point that i said it and released it but that i would know exactly when it was fulfilled into my reality. The Universe knew i needed it immediately and in such a way that it was evident.

It was!

You have to be willing to release it and live in the moment. If you are truly aware, then you will be ever mindful of the actuality of the manifesting as it occurs. It will make sense and your spirit will have a sense of peace and calm.

Way 3: Be Present and Have Faith

I cannot stress enough the Now Moment you are within. If i would have been constantly looking for the nickel, searching in all places, looking in every nook and cranny, then really it was a senseless display of faith and the very act of searching was a display of faithless living.

If you are in harmony with your true nature, the manifesting you will undertake will be in harmony with who you are as a Universal Creature. Living in a faith of expectancy will allow your manifesting to deliver your reality in such a way that others will say you are “lucky”. But you will understand that your manifesting has delivered the reality that you desired for yourself that serves the common good.

Living in the Now Moment and knowing deep within your core that all is happening as you expect it to, and that the Universe makes no mistakes, is the truth in manifesting a beautiful life for yourself.

Now go and manifest the life you desire, for as you do, you shall lift those around you in the process.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

Action vs Inaction: 3 Ways To Be Inspired

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Some days i feel so uninspired, until i don’t! Does that make sense?

Let me give it to you another way.

The very act of being inspired to take any action is not so much a compulsion in which to do something, but a desire to be a person of action that comes from a place of grace within. The very act of being a person that comes from a place of power within means that there has been a release to a power greater than myself.

Then inaction becomes the opposite of grace. Desperation is really the key of inaction and when you are desperately “trying” to do something, you are actually paralyzed with the inaction that you presently feel within that situation.

It is as if inaction begets a force to become action that most often is rooted in desperation.

I know that feeling all too well as a writer who is constantly carving out creative blocks to create my masterpiece. When i get that desperate feeling to create, i start feeling stress and tension in my body. My mind begins to scramble for options and solutions to the situation and I feel fear and struggle and confusion often increases as to the way in which to create.

The Ego Seeks to Dominate You

So, then i become inactive and, if i am not fully aware, that state could lead into doubt and worry. But as a Now Moment thinker, i am way ahead of the ego’s attempt to label me as a failure or a slacker, or lazy or whatever else the ego has up its sleeve to maintain its control.

To be quite honest, the ego is essentially the process of edging God out (ego) of your consciousness so as to make you reliant on it instead of being connected to the Universal Source that knows the perfection that is right for you.

3 Ways To Be Inspired

To know the difference between inspired action and that of desperation is to know when you are in that state of mind immediately.

Way 1: Understand Desperation Within You and the Conditions That Cause It

Understand that desperation is rooted in fear and is driven by the mind/ego in an effort to create a desired change. Desperation, then, is the ego’s attempt to control, manage, or avoid something that is perceived as bad and is anticipated to be an experience of suffering.

Action, then, taken in desperation, creates resistance and results in suffering and, usually, is a feeling or set of emotions that the ego then uses to define you.

Being self-aware means that you are aware when the conditions arise that bring you to this point and you are now able to begin the process of turning your focus.

Way 2: Become Aware of the Now Moment Alone

When this desperation feeling starts to become your existence, become acutely aware of the Now Moment alone. Focus on being ever present and understand the very nature of Inspired Action.

You see, Inspired Action solely comes from within and you will know it by the way that it creates an awakening within you. You will feel intuitive nudges, subtle repetitive thoughts, sensations and a deep sense of knowing and trust in the Universal Stream. Things that feel Divinely guided come as a sense of peace in your heart, even if the action is uncomfortable.

Way 3: Release, Let Go and Flow

Now that you are operating from that place of awareness, you must stop and release your resistance to the inaction and come from a place of Inspired Action. You must then Let Go of the emotions that the ego is trying to pin on you and simply not allow to be defined by them.

From here, you begin the process of flowing into a new way of living life and that is from a place of confidence and trust in being inspired from a Universal Design for your life. It is from here that the heart of Inspired Action begins to be released within.

Let life happen naturally and without struggle for this is where you find your truth.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

3 Ways To Begin To Understand How To Fully Live In Abundance

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When most think of abundance, of course, the natural tendency is to think in monetary ways as it seems that financially, that is the way of the world.

Unfortunately, in the process of this limiting thinking, comes an actual lack of abundance. For it is when we limit ourselves in the fullness of an abundant life, we actually look for ways to not be abundant. You could say, it was our lack attitude, then, that is actually causing our disconnect from the abundant way.

Now, this is an area that most seem to acknowledge within their awareness, but, for whatever reason, seem to believe they are not worthy of.

Let me explain it in this way and for a moment, keep the monetary thinking clear form your thinking, even though the images are obviously of a monetary nature.

We all live in a mansion that is the way we have been designed to live. This mansion is not ostentatious, but, instead, impeccably kept and surrounded by beautiful acreage that is manicured and reflective of our true nature.

We are completely at home here, but we get bored or all of a sudden feel that we need some excitement of some kind. We then leave our mansion and venture out into the world to explore. In the process of the exploration, we attract ourselves to a rather unsavory element that seem to follow us back to the mansion at some point.

They invade our mansion as we have allowed them to do and attack us where we feel safe. We then no longer feel worthy of the mansion and then live in the expectation that only the unsavory element is all we are destined for.

Finally, we come to understand the significance of the mansion and what it represents and decide to take a stand against the gang that is surrounding us. When we finally stand up to them, it is the very nature of the standing up to them that makes them leave. We simply go out to meet them and, by doing so, we dissolve them and they leave.

3 Ways to Begin to Fully Live in Abundance

We accept our inheritance as creatures of abundance and we allow ourselves to become that which is already ours.

Do you see my point here?

Way 1: First Understand That You Are Naturally Abundant Creatures

Most operate from a place that they must crawl and scratch their way to the top of some magical hill called “Abundance”. That we are, at the core, worthless creatures that are fortunate, at best, to ‘luck into’ some sort of abundant life. That we get some sort of break and are able to get abundance.

The truth is that we are already living in this perpetual state as that is how we have been designed. That we have allowed various gangs of thugs to somehow give us an impression that we are not worthy of it is egoic in nature. The ego will always tell you that everyone is out to get you and that what ever you crawl and scratch for is yours to keep.

So abundance, then, become this trophy, of sorts. As soon as we think we get it, we then go about seeking how not to lose it.

The beautiful mansion, then, that is open to all, becomes walled up by a huge wall with barbed wire and guard dogs to make sure we don’t lose that which everyone is out to take.

Understand that it is the exact opposite. We are given all abundance within ourselves in all ways and then it is the ego and life that seeks to turn it into some sort of treasure that must be guarded for fear of loss.

Way 2: Know You Are Worthy

This is probably the biggest way the ego uses to keep its all-consuming control over you.

You are not worthy, the ego will tell you. You have to claw your way to the top and you have to earn respect and when you are so very abundant, people will respect you for what you have become, for the hard work you have put into getting where you are.

But what happens if your ‘hard work’ doesn’t pay off and who is the arbiter of the level of success that is to determine this abundance that has been achieved?

It all comes down to your feeling of worth.

Think about it. So often we see this very worth factor in relationships. It seems that it is our own worthiness factor that determines if we are successful within the relationship. I have often heard clients tell me that they are not worthy of a certain relationship for this or that reason. That worthiness, then, can be traced to other facets of their life. Many times when some one desires that a parent feel proud of them, it is that they are feeling an unworthiness that must me validated by someone they look up to.

When i watch reality shows, often times a contestant will say that they are seeking some one to be proud of them and that is why they are doing it to an extent.

To be validated, to be worthy, to be abundant…they all go hand-in-hand. Know you are already worthy as you are here to fulfill a purpose in life. You are already abundant, and even if your bank account doesn’t reflect a level that you may desire at this moment, know that it is not reflective of your overall abundance, for you have already been given abundance.

Way 3: Release Yourself to Your Natural Abundance

This is one of the hardest aspects that must be understood about abundance. Since the ego and society tells us that it is a struggle to achieve, that for some reason abundance is like a big pie and that you must do what you must to get you slice before it is all gone.

Releasing into abundance, then, is not natural because the ego will tell us that ‘if we snooze, we lose,’ right? We have to get it before someone else takes it from us.

From a financial standpoint, it can be said as Sophie Tucker, a famous actress at the beginning of the 20th Century, said, “I’ve been rich and I’ve been poor. Believe me, honey, rich is better.”

Yes, we all have a desire to be “rich” but, again, many times it is a societal pressure to have or to accumulate a certain magical number that means we have arrived at the doorstep of abundance, but really, it is the freedom we are seeking that is the very nature of financial abundance.

Abundance, then, really becomes a state of mind and a sense of worthiness and at the core of it all, is a release into that state of mind that is all abundance. When we release ourselves into that thought of a natural state of abundance, then you will find that the abundance we so often have clawed for becomes a natural state of being.

But you must release, let go and flow. For therein lies the heart of living in the natural abundance that is yours for the asking.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

Why Do You Do The Things You Do? 3 Ways To Relieve The Stress of Life

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Life is filled with one reaction after another. Everything seems to be stressful and the aspect of ‘flying off the handle’ or ‘having a knee-jerk reaction’ to something seems to be fairly acceptable these days. Well, if happens too often, we can always get a pill prescribed as seems to be the way in these stressful times..

But really there seems to be a heart condition that is far more spiritual, in nature, than is physical. Although, it has been proven that our stress of being reactive to every thing can, indeed, lead to physical ailments.

What, then, is at the heart of such a rapid decline of civility within ourselves that translates outward into our reality? Why do we find ways to be insulted and grouped together in our victimization?

Is it that we really desire that connection, even if it is through stress of living? Maybe technology has spread us out so far and wide that it is difficult to truly be connected as we are designed to be, one heart to another.

You know, where i sit and write often, there is a group of older, retired men that sit in the local coffee shop and, together, they solve the town’s, country’s and even the world’s challenges in a matter of minutes over a nice cup of coffee.

These men sit together and are seemingly unconnected, except through the coffee club that has connected them. Yet it seems as if there is a peaceful connection that they bring to the restaurant and to each other that cannot be spoken. It is a place of peace within them.

While it is fascinating to hear them as they solve the crisis of the world, there seems to be a far-reaching truth here; the connection that binds them is a connection of the heart and therein lies the truth to a stress-free existence.

Now, some would indeed argue that often relationships are the source of all stress, but i am of the mindset that the relationships that are truly bound together are seldom built on verbal discourse, but of a heart-to-heart connection that is at its source, the place where stress is seldom experienced.

3 Ways to Relieve the Stress of Life

Think about a relationship with a pet. Never words are spoken, but there is a connection that transcends words and lives within the spirit, does it not?Does it not relieve a stress within you?

Way 1: Understand Your Part in the Stream of Life

Now i am certainly not going to sit here and tell you to ‘buck up’ and not to experience life in the ways it is to be experienced, but i am here to lead you to a new reality of your part in the stream of life.

Nothing happens to you as life is not out to get you.

It s easy to get caught up in being a victim to circumstances, to people, to the challenges that seem to surround you on a daily basis.

But, quite frankly, its not them (not life), it’s you. Most have experienced those little words in terms of a relationship gone awry, but it is time for you to say it to life, “it’s not you, it’s me.”

You see, when you can back off and understand that you, and only you, are the responsible party when it comes to living life in the fullness that is our mission in which to do, life becomes a sweeter version of itself.

Life does not happen to you, you are the captain that steers the course. Yes, often times storms can seem to take us away from our course, but if we release the ego and take back the helm from being a victim, we can command the ship return to the designated course that has been designed for us.

You are still here and therefore your course is still as viable as ever.

Way 2: Find Your Happy Place

It has become quite a cliche that we have a ‘Happy Place’ that we go to in times to conflict, but understand that there is a place that many do retreat to that seems to manifest on the external, often times in ways that seem detrimental such as drugs, alcohol, and unhealthy relationships, just to name a few.

However, these things are just an extension of the internal desire to find that place of bliss that is our inner core of peace. Really, then, it comes down to the questions we ask at this point.

What is the external seeking to manifest from within?
What is the stillness that must be found within that gives me peace on the outside?

Where is that place within me that is my calm?

There is a danger here to give another that power which you must resist. Understand that the person or place or thing that you associate with your happiness factor is an extension of something within.

Really sit and source it out for yourself, for at the heart of that understanding is the key to living stress-free.

Way 3: Release Yourself to the Moment of Now

Life happens now and at the source of most stress are the future events that are supposed to happen in some perfect completion or some past that did not happen as planned and is now infecting your Now Moment existence.

This existence of Now is your Happy Place as you are here, are you not? Anything that was supposed to cause you some type of dire consequences has not kept you from this Now Moment. There is nothing that the past supposedly was matters to this exact Now Moment. There is no future as of yet that can not be dealt with.

Ask, “What is the worse that can happen?” if you must, and find a place in this Now Moment to live free of it all, because whether you know it or not, you already are doing so.

Enjoy the sights and sounds of your surroundings. Meditate silently in the conversations of those around you and just listen to the way they speak, the way they reflect as they speak. Notice the nuances of every little action and reaction for when you become ever-present in the Now Moments of life, there is little left for the stress of what should or might be or has been.

Live, now, free of the reactions of living and become the action of living free within yourself. For here alone, is the place of peace that transcends into a life of serenity.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

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