Are You M.A.D.? 3 Ways You Should Always Be

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Living in a perpetual state of being mad seems to be the place of many souls on this journey and it seems odd for me to encourage such a state.

Being mad can mean many states, did you know that? The actual definition of the word here can mean anything from being insane to actually being crazy about something; very excited, if you will.

In these days, it seems that many are perpetually looking for a reason to be upset and mad about life, about the country in which they live, about their condition, about their relationships… and the list goes on.

The ego plays a large part in that, as it is nothing but a protected of you, or so it tells you. It is always looking for a reason to be pissed about something, but to truly live an excellent life, madness must become different.

Let’s Always Be M.A.D.

Admittedly, i have been playing with you here. Yes, being mad is a state of mind and that state should actually be encouraged in another way. You see, being M.A.D. as the way i define it, is to always be Manifesting (an) Abundant Destiny.

It is not only your mission to be M.A.D. but it is as the Universe has so designed us to be. To constantly be manifesting an abundant destiny is to truly live the life that we are all capable of doing, but so few have decided they can not have for whatever reason.

3 Ways to Begin to be M.A.D.

 

Way 1: Decide First that Abundance is a State of Mind

You see, it begins in the mind that we are abundant creatures deserving of an abundant existence. Life is too short to think you don’t deserve the best state of mind that is your continued existence. The first prerequisite to Manifesting an Abundant Destiny is to always understand that it is within you as you must know that you are always abundant.

Don’t get caught in the egoic trap of your surroundings dictating to you your mindset. Just because your immediate surroundings may not have the toys of the world that are supposed to indicate an abundant state, believe me they are only an extension thereof.

Recently, there was a big lottery that millions desired to win. I literally mean, millions, as many who usually decided against playing the lottery, now decided to get in on the action.

Now for a country that is supposedly against the “rich”, as the media has droned on about, and the way being rich is used as a political football as class-warfare is the tool of the day, it seems a lot desire to be there, doesn’t it?

But don’t be deluded in thinking that money is abundance. It all begins within. Why do you think people like Donald trump who was millions in debt in the 90’s, turned it around to become the billionaire he is now?

It is about a mindset first, always.

Way 2: Know that You Are Not Your Present Conditions

As was said, it is easy to get in a trap that says your current situation or surroundings are your abundance. In Manifesting an Abundant Destiny, you are to be all about living in the knowledge that life is as magnificent as you decide to make it.

One of the richest persons in modern times was certainly Mother Theresa. She gave with such an abundant mindset, that it affected everyone she ever met. People were drawn to her because of the Manifesting Abundant Destiny she lived in the service to the poor in Calcutta and everywhere she went.

Her abundance was her service but she did so with a heart that was only abundance.

You, too, are of the same star stuff as Mother Theresa and are abundant beyond your nature. Live it for that is the Universal Way.

Way 3: Go Beyond Yourself to See Your Abundance Become Manifest

The best way to always be Manifesting an Abundant Destiny is to live with others in mind. If you are constantly giving yourself away and looking for opportunities to become the face of abundance, then you will become it in ways you may never fully comprehend.

Look for ways to live your abundance. Pay for the food of the driver behind you in the drive-thru. Be of service. Love the skin you are in by loving the skin of others even more.

We are all the same no matter what the color of skin or the nationalities that separate us. The Universe makes no mistakes and we are all here to be always Manifesting an Abundant Destiny.

It is the mission to share of ourselves in the process.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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Spring Has Sprung – 3 Ways to Begin the Renewal Process of Abundance

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Spring is really a state of mind, is it not? I mean, yes, it is a date on the calendar but those kind of things have always made me reflect as to how locked into a certain mindset we have become.

It is as if we cannot enjoy a certain feeling of hopefulness and enthusiasm unless it is a certain time of the year or a special season. Like the Christmas season is a reason to be kinder to your fellow human.

Do you really need a reason? Do you need a reason to feel a sense of life surging through your veins in this Now Moment?

Life Begins When You Do

Yes, the Spring season brings about a renewal in the earth that does give us a sense of our own renewal, at least it should, but it doesn’t happen all at once, although it seems as if suddenly there is green everywhere and the smells of freshness invade your senses that the winter season seems to bury.

3 Ways to Begin the Renewal Process of Abundance

So, with the Spring season there comes an understanding that life is more than what you feel, is it not? It is an explosion of your senses as the freshness of life awakens within you. It is time to think differently and to think more with an eye towards expansion of self and of all that you are to the world.

Way 1: Have and Enjoy Life

What is it that we fail to have and enjoy life in this modern age with all of the so-called enlightenment that seems to be all around us. Never in our history have we been more aware of the way to calm our souls and become a more enlightened species.

Never.

But it seems as if with all of this knowledge, we have become more territorial, more prideful, more egocentric in the ways of living in a heightened state of consciousness and more self-absorbed in the ways of pleasure that seems to take us away from the advancement of the human condition.

To have and enjoy life means we are to become fully invested in the living at a higher level with an eye towards the lifting of others along the way.

To have and enjoy life means to shed yourself of shame, guilt, apathy, grief, fear, desire, anger, and pride and to rid yourself of limiting thought patterns that take you away from living fully in this Now Moment.

Way 2: Live Abundance in All Ways

Many are under the delusion that once you have a lot of money, you then have an abundant mindset. As i said, it is a delusion in that it first begins in your mind. Napoleon Hill said that whatever the mind of man can conceive, it can believe. Meaning that we are first within before it manifest without.

If we fail to have a wealth consciousness, then what ever perceived wealth we receive will quickly vanish as it was never part of who we were in the first place. It is the reason so many lottery winners are broke within a short period of time as they never believed themselves wealthy.

Money does not equate to wealth, but a wealthy mindset always equates to money.Get it? It is the same in all areas of your life. Think yourself abundant in all ways first within and the abundance will manifest in your surroundings in ways that most will call “luck”.

It is not. It is just the way you roll when it comes to abundant living.

Way 3: Allow Your Abundance to Overflow

This is the truth in all living…Let it overflow. Hold Nothing Back!

When you truly allow yourself to manifest with an abundant heart towards all things, you can’t help but to experience a truth of life. That when you begin to live abundantly in an overflowing nature, life explodes in ways you could never imagine.

Give it away and you will receive back in ways that will make your manifesting nature pale in comparison to what you may have been used to. When you live in such a way that manifesting from within becomes second nature, you will get a sense of the “overflowing” nature of abundance. It is the nectar to the soul that produces a garden of abundance that leave a sweetness to everything you touch.

Overflow and live the life you have imagined for when you do, the world will rise to meet you in the most uncommon of circumstances.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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The 3 Components of Living the Truth of Financial Abundance

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We are forever caught in an attitude of being trapped between the emotions of what the financial aspect of abundance does to us with what we are taught, what we have experienced and what we have felt within the emotions of any sort of Financial Abundance.

There is a war currently against those who have money, therefore giving the impression that money is somehow this evil entity and even the very expression of the belief of money has been misquoted in various scriptures.

It is talked about money being the root of all evil, when that was never actually said of it. It was the LOVE of money, or what ever is denoted as riches, that is designated as such. The concept here is that anytime you allow the ego to determine a worth of yourself, another human being or of a circumstance and you place a high value on it as to the perceived value it is in modern day designations, then your love for the concept of money has replaced your abundance attitude in general.

It comes down to when you love the power or the influence that a money designation brings, you have lost the concept of real abundance. The truth is that money is a tool and its value is based purely on the value we bring to it through our own experience.

Several years ago, there was a movie starring Will Smith, called, “I AM Legend”. It was a typical zombie-like movie where humanity is wiped out by a virus and now it is all about survival. One scene that illustrates my point about money was when Smith’s character enters a bank vault and on the floor of the vault is millions of dollars in cash. The cash, once a testament to influence and power, is now nothing more than meaningless paper that means nothing to anyone.

3 Components of Financial Abundance

The point here is that you need to get out of your own head when it comes to the financial abundance that may have eluded you to this point and become abundant in all ways. To thine own self be true when it comes to the truth of financial abundance within you.

Money is just a way to keep score, nothing more. The sooner you believe that it is part of the whole concept of abundance, then it will no longer be something just out of your seeming reach.

Component 1: Belief

There is a real lack attitude here when it comes to believing in your worth to actually become financially abundant. So many inane associations and teachings have prevailed against the overall attitude about money, but none more vacuous than the idea that there is a pie graph of money, that if some “rich guy” has a bunch, then there is less for you.

Incredible. Your ability to obtain financial abundance is no way dependent on what some one else does and is just a way the ego works against you to tell you that you are a victim for some reason, that society is conspiring against you to keep you down.

It is your belief, and yours alone, that gives you the impetus to achieve any level of financial abundance you desire. Don’t get lost in numbers, but instead focus on the abundance of abundance itself. Believe in yourself and your Higher Consciousness that is always at work within you.

Ultimately, it is all about the service you bring that allows abundance into your realm. Be better than any number that you assign yourself as to some perceived value financially. Believe a better you and abundance will beat a path to your door.

Component 2: Trust

This component takes the cynicism out of your rear view mirror and truly allows you to support the Belief that is Component 1. When you trust yourself to be true to who you are and you trust the Universe to provide because of that truth, there is a release factor that must then take over your very being.

Most trust with what i call a “one eye open” approach. Always expecting the other shoe to fall, or even believing that because something good happens, then something bad must be right around the corner.

The most famous of all statements and the way the ego keeps you off of this trust aspect is the “what if” statements. I had a client tell me that they did trust but what if this happens or what if that happens, then what? Then all of the trust is gone, right?

Trust is always a Now Moment experience. Trust is knowing that regardless of what transpires, the core of who you are could never be shaken. People and events will never work out as you may have expected, but if you have the trust in who you are in an given situation then you shall always be truth to your self.

Component 3: Listen

This is a dynamic that most get lost in, especially with the distractions of modern day society. Listening these days means music, TV, movies, social media and what ever else takes you from the listening that must be done in Harmony with Component 1 and 2.

The listening that must be a vital part of the financial abundance that you desire is the listening to your inner self.

The listening to that little voice inside of you to be still in moments that you think you should speak.

Listening to the silence of the day that calls you to release yourself to it.

Listening to those around you in a way of being genuinely vested in what and who they are as part of the human experience, for in the mere emotion often that accompanies listening you will find truths that could give you new insights into a financial path that may have eluded you.

There is an old proverb that says that God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason; Listen twice as much as you speak. This goes to listening to your inner self as well. If you are always berating yourself and never just taking the time to listen in silence, then you are not giving the Universe an opportunity to speak.

Listen and you will find your way, but allow the truth to always be in your thoughts and actions as a result. Financial Abundance is a tool to finding your real truth, just don’t get caught up in the numbers for behind every number there is an emotion that precedes it.

Believe, Trust and Listen and the way to Financial Abundance is filled with clarity. You will attract the Financial Abundance you desire by the Universal Law of Attraction into your life.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

The Kindness in Abundance – 3 Ways To Live In The Kindness of Abundance

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Abundance has its own cadence that seems to echo within the far reaches of the soul. Within this rhythm of life, there is a kindness that must be exhibited in all ways that stems from the very heart of the abundance within or it is as shallow as life itself then becomes.

Most don’t seem to make the connection to kindness and abundance as they seem to believe that one becomes kind because of the abundance. This, too, is somewhat of a fake mission of the soul as the ego goes about its work in your general unworthiness as you struggle with any abundance that you may receive.

For example, you see this in many an actor who struggles for years doing odd jobs as they try to put together a career as an actor. When they become an “overnight success”, or so it would seem, their new financial abundance comes with a price of guilt and a general feeling of unworthiness. Having struggled for so long, they then many times become involved with causes and concerns that seemingly come from left field as well as their display of a lavish lifestyle.

While i fault no one for achieving as is the human condition to expand, create and flourish, it is when the ego takes over where kindness should have already been in place, that it then becomes problematic.

Kindness is something that is so deep and beautiful within you that you cannot help but to lift all around you within the very abundance that you are; financially and in every other way. Kindness is a condition of the heart and an extension of the soul that transcends the abundance.

3 Ways to Live Within the Kindness of Abundance

Abundance, then, becomes simply another way to empower humankind magnetized by the kindness that gives it its beauty.

Way 1: Understand That Kindness Transcends Abundance

Abundance is always a heart condition before it is ever manifest in the physical world. Abundance is neither a station in life or something that is out there to obtain, even though society and your ego seek to tell you differently.

The very definition of kindness is compassion and generosity and without those traits exhibited, abundance becomes nothing more that a life expression such as hording. Abundance, then, is parceled out from you like some sort of rare concert ticket to all around you.

Unfortunately, you then become nothing more than the substance of your abundance lacking kindness, lacking integrity and lacking heart.

Way 2: Be Willing to Lose Yourself in the Grace of Kindness

Kindness cannot be taught or learned, really, but must be experienced in the depths of soul that could never be explained.

Yes, parents and authority figures seek to establish a taste of kindness within you by instilling in you the traits of kindness, but without a genuine experience that contains the essence of what kindness produces within you, it is like shaving cream on a balloon; when it pops, the shaving cream goes everywhere leaving only traces of what was.

Usually, this grace is an overwhelming experience that washes over you and shows you a newness of life and then becomes the core of who you are. More often than not, people can point to that exact moment in life when the grace of kindness became their reality and then became a guide that fueled their Now Moments of Kindness.

But you must lose yourself in this grace. No one can teach you this but only show you the way, but the secret is in the losing, for it is in the losing that you gain.

Way 3: You Must Be Willing to Make a Shift in Kindness

In this world, we honor when souls go out of their way to be kind. It is held up as a true testament to the soul of the person that exhibited the kindness, but it is available to all. Abundance does not produce kindness, but the other way around.

If you truly lose yourself in the kindness that is soul based, then the world becomes a sweeter existence in your living of your Present Moments. Kindness then becomes not a mere doing of things, but of living in the ways of graciousness and goodwill with an eye on humanity.

Kindness, then, becomes the way the world has now been transformed into because you have become the kindness that the world needs.

Abundance now becomes second nature to you because you have allowed the powering source of kindness into your existence. You have made the shift.

Kindness is always a true reflection of the soul that becomes it and when you allow kindness to manifest the ways of your life, then abundance will naturally follow in ways you could have never imagined. Just be willing to allow it to flow and grow in each Now Moment for only there will you truly live.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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The Art of Motivation: 3 Ways To Treat It As A Reality Show

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Motivation comes in all shapes and sizes and, quite frankly, you can never really tell what it is that motivates someone, as it is not a one-size-fits-all frame of mind.

Everyone has a different place where motivation seems to hit them and to try to fit the very word of Motivation into a preconceived idea that fits the masses, is a crazy concept.

But we seem to do it.

The way most parents seem to motivate their kids, the way managers motivate their staff and the way advertisers use different tactics on us to motivate consumers to buy.

In any political season, especially, you see what seems to be a mass motivation for candidates that propel is to care about issues that other times we don’t concern ourselves with as we are on the daily mission to simply live in the Universal Way of abundance.

Motivation: Running To or Running Away

At its core, Motivation is the designation of one of two possible concepts; the running away from something or the running to something. And more often than not, they are aimed directly at our insecurities about ourselves or our situation. Basically, our ego.

Now, don’ get me wrong here. Motivation at its core has a place but should come from a far deeper place than the egoic tendency of appealing to some insecurity. Motivation is really a larger look at who we are in the Universal Way.

I love reality shows. I do. I watch most of the main ones from Survivor to Amazing Race to Top Chef and Hells Kitchen, Celebrity Apprentice to even, Big Brother. Reality shows are a study of the human ego on trial and believe it or not, Motivation is the glue that holds it all together. Motivation is also on display as the way people run from a situation or run to a situation or other people.

What i love about the shows is that they offer a compressed look at what is usually played out in life, but it is in a heightened atmosphere of loss and reward.

Life is the same way, it just plays out at a more casual level unless we are ‘forced’ out of our comfort zone and have to act, or should i say, react.

Ways Reality Shows Can Show Us Motivation

While some may roll their eyes at reality shows, like it or not, they give is a peak into our own psychology of the way we might me motivated.

Believe it or not, there is a lot of psychology that has gone into the way the game is structured; to the way the people are separated into groups to the challenges that are devised along the way for ‘rewards’.

With that there are lessons, or takeaways, that we can apply to our own reality show called our lives.

Way 1: Look at the Way You are Motivated to Play the Game.

It is funny to watch the reality players enter with a certain ‘strategy’ and then as soon as they get there, all of a sudden there is some twist or some quirky personality they had not intended on and their strategy goes out the window.

The challenge with strategies is that they are often like playing sand volleyball. The shifting sand always presents a challenge as to how you will react and it is only after years of playing that someone seems to master the concepts.

The way you play the game is a reflection of who you are. If you go in with a set core strength as to who you are, there is no need for strategies. You operate from your center and you are free to adapt to changing circumstances as they arise. You then take the reaction and change it to positive action.

Way 2: What is the Motivation of Who You Make Alliances With?

It always intrigues me when these reality players within the first microsecond of starting the game, decide to forge an alliance not even knowing who is playing along side of them. They like the way they look, or talk or whatever, and decide to cast their lot with them. What is always amazing is when it comes to the end of the game and the people who were sent packing from the game decide to cop an attitude form someone who went against the alliance.

Really? it is a game and there can be only one left standing. The ego always lashes out when it thinks it is being attacked. But what is really happening is that the ego needs to be always first and when someone stands in its way, then it becomes insulted.

Life is like that as well. We make shaky alliances that go against our core and then we are ‘thrown under the bus’ because of those alliances, we blame the alliance, the people, the way the game is played…everything but the person in the mirror.

By the way, I am of the mindset that when they interview folks for the reality shows, a question they ask them is that, when they were a kid, were they told to be good sports if playing a game? If the answer is “No” they get to be on the show.

Don’t fall victim to being a victim of alliances you have made. Be strong to who your core self is.

Way 3: What is the Motivation for You to Change Your Way of Playing?

There comes a point where we have to adapt, to change, to evolve to a higher level of life, of living. It is really our driving desire to become more than we think we are.

To truly think outside of yourself. It is only the acceptance of the lack attitude that keeps you where you are. The attitude that doesn’t give you the Motivation to move forward as you have seemed to have lost your zeal for doing so.

In reality shows, there are usually alliances, teams that ‘stick together’ through thick or thin, or until its time to win.

The last season of Survivor had a beautiful portrayal of that very point. The one team had gotten the upper hand on the other by a one person shift to their side and managed to pick off the opposing team one-by-one until they were left by themselves to fight it out to the end.

At that point, someone had to decide to change their strategy and make bold moves to Outwit and Outplay the rest. The “this-team-loves-each-other-no-matter-what-happens’ became the most cut-throat bunch that ever played the game. Someone had to be motivated beyond the team and reach within themselves to get to the end.

In life, the motivation really is to keep our truth and be able to adapt to the shifting sands of time. Examine what it is that motivates you to change your strategy, but always be sure it is not something that goes against your core values.

In the end, it is always the ones with the quiet resolve that tend to garner the respect of the other players. It is you inner core values of who you are, without the ego, that defines your truth.

Live it with the fullness that you are for you are truly worth it.

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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A 3-Step Process to Reignite the State of Being Connected to Yourself

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The Disconnect of Your Connections

A casual look at the simple word, “connection” finds that there are page after page of definitions that associate themselves with “connection”, as well as the associated words that each definition brings.

There is the connection of a person who aids another in achieving goal.

There is the connection of something that communicates, relates.

There is the connection of affiliation, association with an organization.

There is the connection of affinity, having a similarity with someone or some thing.

There is the alliance aspect of connection where there is a friendly association or agreement.

There is the attachment aspect of being connected and the word connected is also associated with the word, bearing, or having significance within the connection.

The list goes on and on. It seems as though we are so connected these days that the very state of being connected has become muddled within the very context of the word. I mean, it is just a natural state, right? Or least it should be.

Then, why is it that with all of the positive aspects of our connected world, we have become so estranged from our very core. We have become so connected in the world of technology, that we have seemed to lose ourselves in the very connectedness we seek so hard to maintain.

I suppose the best way to look at our connectivity is in this quote from an American Indian Chief, Chief Seattle, who said, “What befalls the earth befalls all the sons of the earth. This we know: the earth does not belong to man, man belongs to the earth. All things are connected like the blood that unites us all. Man does not weave this web of life. He is merely a strand of it. Whatever he does to the web, he does to himself.”

By the way, he was not talking about the World Wide Web, but you know, it could apply here. We are indeed strands of the web within our connections and it is true that when the web is used for ideas that are insidious, we are indeed doing it to ourselves.

It is the same with our connections. the ones that we so desperately seek to maintain not only our idea of being part of a larger world, but, in many regards, the ego seeks to define itself within these connections. Be it as a platform that seeks to enhance our prestige or as a way to become the one who is the prestige that everyone seeks.

But at the core of it all is the connection we have to ourselves.

No matter how many Facebook friends you may have people in your contact or email list, there is a common denominator with them all.
You.

You see, if the connection to yourself is so distasteful to your own inner being, you can hardly expect a quad-rillion friends on the old Facebook or Google+ accounts. For you see, there is a correlation to the expression of the inner to the outer. No matter how you may wish to hide around your multiple expression of some connectedness through the Web, if you are not fully vested in you first, in the end, it just won’t matter.

3 Ways to Begin to Look at the Connection Within

Way 1: Rediscover What makes You, You

When i would direct a play, the process of getting an actor to relate to the character was to get them connected to the characters traits that the actor thought through the words. Often times in scripts, a rough description of the character is given so as to give the actor some leeway as to the intentions of the character within the play. But, often, usually somewhere in the middle of the scheduled rehearsals, there was a shift from the written to the actor..

What i mean is that the good actor seemed to become the character to a degree and seemed to bring the character to life. You could say that the person playing the character connected with the part.

This is what you need to do with yourself. Take the time to evaluate the source of your connections. It was the Buddha who said, “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”

Way 2: Reassess Your Connections

Why are you connected to anyone, outside of family. What part of you do you bring to the character that you are playing in the play. Why are the connections so vital?

This self-assessment allows you to see yourself as sometimes we are defines by our connections. It is like when you were a kid and your parents didn’t want you to hang out with this person or that one because they might be a bad influence. The old ‘guilt by association’ complex that is in the parents manual.

But for whatever the reason for the connection, understand it for what it is and make no judgements here on the associations themselves. It is not the connections, but what you are to the connections that matter. Be honest here for

James Thurber said it so well when he penned, “All men should strive to learn before they die
what they are running from, and to, and why.”

Way 3: Be Willing To Disconnect From Your Connections

This is a release, of sorts. This is the place where you have taken yourself to better align with the truth of yourself and be willing to disconnect from the connections that are not advancing you.

I mean that not in a callous or egotistical way, but from a soulful way. You see, if the true you is connected to things outside of yourself that take you away from you and your journey, it is not egotistical to be true to yourself so as to be better for the connections that matter.

It is as i tell a client who is very wrapped up in the opinions of others for her life, “Those that matter, don’t care. Those that care, don’t matter.” Essentially, if someone is a true connection, they will take you as you are and encourage you along the way. The connection is organic and natural and adds to you, such as you are to connections that matter to you.

Life is too short to try to be connected to everything as if everything matters. everything does not matter for it is only our determination on what everything is.

Find your connection with yourself and bring the characteristics to the part that are truly you, for at the end of the show, we all bow alone.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking directyourownlife@gmail.com

If A Frog Had Wings

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Growing up i was a child of two worlds; A father who was more a Now Moment thinker and a mother who was really a “If a frog had wings” kind of person.

While most would call this a relationship that was one of those ‘opposites attract’ situations, i was not as inclined to see that sort of relationship play out between them.

You could say that i was cured at an early age of the “What If” scenarios that life seemed to bring when i would parrot a “what if” situation my mother was so inclined to dispel. My father would say to me when i would approach him with a ‘what if’ things like, “Son, if a frog had wings, then he would not bump his ass on the ground when he hops.”

My dad was a pithy retort kinda guy and i would often put that statement along side of the little sayings that my grandmother had on her wall like, “I once complained when i had no shoes, then i met a man that had no feet.” They were cute and all, but it was only when i thought with my soul rather than my egoic nature did i begin to see the sense it actually made.

Now, i don’t believe my dad meant it to be so thought-provoking, but used the sayings more as a way to get rid of me for a minute. Let’s just say he had to get more creative as he went along with me as i tended to be a bit more reflective than my siblings, but it was in those moments that i embraced the beginnings of the concept of Now Moment thinking. Even though my dad was torn between two worlds as he tried to appease my mother’s “what if” scenarios, in his moments with me, he seem to reach out as much as he could with the beauty of Present Moment thinking.

The point here is that the ego is a “what if” sort who tries to paint a Ying/Yang pairing of ‘what ifs’ and Now Moments. It as if the ego is saying, “Its OK to be a Now Moment person, but you need the ‘what ifs’ to keep you ‘grounded.’

Now, that is a favorite word of the ‘what if’ crowd; “You gotta stay ‘grounded’ or “Get you head out of the clouds by living in the moment, You need to be grounded.” I am sure you have heard them all as well.

But it is here that we find ourselves at odds with the world if you are so inclined to be living in the Present Moment. The ego loves to play out ‘what if’ scenarios to the point that often times you have no memory of the original thought process that provoked the original ‘what if’ to begin with.

That is the confusion of the ego at its core. To keep you always teetering on confusion so that you depend on it to truly guide you in the circumstances of life. I deal more with the ‘what ifs’ with coaching clients that it seems with any other egoic tendency as most ‘what if’ their lives to a point that it is hard to get to the true core that makes people as they are.

But ‘what ifs’ are to be dealt with if you are desiring an existence that is free of the egoic nature that tends to lead you down dark allys that you don’t deserve to be traveling. It really comes down to the questions you ask more than anything.

At its core, ‘what if’ is nothing more than disguised worry. It desires that you conjure up all scenarios that are usually, by nature, negative in their conception. The ‘what ifs’ are the egos way of telling you that no matter what dire circumstance might happen, it can handle things for you.

So you let it. You give your ego complete and total charge of your company know as ‘You, Inc.’

But the funny thing is, you still assert that you are so ‘in control’ to anyone who will listen. You’re in charge. You are the big cheese.

Yeup, you are your OWN person, that’s for sure.

It is only when you release all the ‘what ifs’ of your life and life truly grounded in this Now Moment will you retain control of ‘You Inc.’

But it is a choice you must make for yourself. I make no judgements as we all are all on our own journey. It is my journey to assist you in Directing Your Power to a place that brings you joy if you so desire, but you must choose.

Choose well.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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