What Pulls You Forward? 3 Questions to Ask

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I get a sense that there is an easiness within the souls i have encountered as of late. Maybe it speaks to a larger sense that we are on the edge of something, like a butterfly getting ready to emerge from its cocoon.

I sense this from those i encounter and sense a larger dynamic within the ebb and flow of the world-at-large. I am not saying it is good or bad as i care not to label it, but merely come as an observer of the human condition.

You, too, must be careful to label any uneasiness you may be having within your own life as it may be an indicator of a breakthrough of some kind. Labeling something as good or bad, especially bad, tends to shut off the stream of higher consciousness that seeks to be your destiny.

Most resist, but the more you ask questions about the journey, the more clarification becomes your very existence. It seems to be an oxymoron as we are a society that always wants answers, but the truth is that it is the questions we ask that are the essence of living in beautiful Now Moments.

3 Questions to Ask in Moving Forward

Now when we speak of moving forward, especially in light of living in this Now Moment, there is a danger that we become future-based alone, which is where the ego desires you. But only in the stillness of this Now Moment do your questions become a guide to the connecting Now Moments.

Question 1: What is Your Truth?

At the heart of all moving forward, you must ask if you are being truthful to who you are. Essentially, are you where you want to be within that manifest without in your environment? This may require that you step aside, get out of your own head, and really discover if the core values that you have identified as important to you are truly being lived in a way that makes sense.

Remember that externals do not determine who you are; that your surroundings are only an indicator of you, they are not you. You are not your career, but the essence of your career is who you are.

Make sense?
To begin here with this question, you have to go within and get a sense of your truth.

Question 2: Do You Inspire Others With Whom You Are?

Sometimes the greatest way you can inspire yourself is to be of service to others with whom you are. Do people seek your advice or wisdom? Are you open to be approached?

Sometimes the mere aspect of getting out of your own way and to quit worrying about the future  is to be of service to others. When you are open and allow your spirit to shine in such a way that people can sense that from you, you will be surprised as to how you will begin to see others around you in a more loving light.

Question 3: Are You Able to Define Your Desires and Then Release Them?

Yoda said to a transcendent Obi-Wan in “Star Wars, The Empire Strikes Back” about Luke, “”always looking to the future this one is. Never his mind on where he is, what he is doing.”

The point was that the force gave you an insight into the future as an awareness, but it is only when you truly release your constant future-based thinking can you be mindful of living Now Moments alone.

Sometimes to move forward, you have to release the forward nature to become a connected string of beautiful Now Moments. There is a connection to all Now Moments and it is the essence of peace, love and joy that is who you are within.

Once understood and fully lived, life takes on a newness and your truth is ever-present and any uneasiness melts away.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

The Kindness in Abundance – 3 Ways To Live In The Kindness of Abundance

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Abundance has its own cadence that seems to echo within the far reaches of the soul. Within this rhythm of life, there is a kindness that must be exhibited in all ways that stems from the very heart of the abundance within or it is as shallow as life itself then becomes.

Most don’t seem to make the connection to kindness and abundance as they seem to believe that one becomes kind because of the abundance. This, too, is somewhat of a fake mission of the soul as the ego goes about its work in your general unworthiness as you struggle with any abundance that you may receive.

For example, you see this in many an actor who struggles for years doing odd jobs as they try to put together a career as an actor. When they become an “overnight success”, or so it would seem, their new financial abundance comes with a price of guilt and a general feeling of unworthiness. Having struggled for so long, they then many times become involved with causes and concerns that seemingly come from left field as well as their display of a lavish lifestyle.

While i fault no one for achieving as is the human condition to expand, create and flourish, it is when the ego takes over where kindness should have already been in place, that it then becomes problematic.

Kindness is something that is so deep and beautiful within you that you cannot help but to lift all around you within the very abundance that you are; financially and in every other way. Kindness is a condition of the heart and an extension of the soul that transcends the abundance.

3 Ways to Live Within the Kindness of Abundance

Abundance, then, becomes simply another way to empower humankind magnetized by the kindness that gives it its beauty.

Way 1: Understand That Kindness Transcends Abundance

Abundance is always a heart condition before it is ever manifest in the physical world. Abundance is neither a station in life or something that is out there to obtain, even though society and your ego seek to tell you differently.

The very definition of kindness is compassion and generosity and without those traits exhibited, abundance becomes nothing more that a life expression such as hording. Abundance, then, is parceled out from you like some sort of rare concert ticket to all around you.

Unfortunately, you then become nothing more than the substance of your abundance lacking kindness, lacking integrity and lacking heart.

Way 2: Be Willing to Lose Yourself in the Grace of Kindness

Kindness cannot be taught or learned, really, but must be experienced in the depths of soul that could never be explained.

Yes, parents and authority figures seek to establish a taste of kindness within you by instilling in you the traits of kindness, but without a genuine experience that contains the essence of what kindness produces within you, it is like shaving cream on a balloon; when it pops, the shaving cream goes everywhere leaving only traces of what was.

Usually, this grace is an overwhelming experience that washes over you and shows you a newness of life and then becomes the core of who you are. More often than not, people can point to that exact moment in life when the grace of kindness became their reality and then became a guide that fueled their Now Moments of Kindness.

But you must lose yourself in this grace. No one can teach you this but only show you the way, but the secret is in the losing, for it is in the losing that you gain.

Way 3: You Must Be Willing to Make a Shift in Kindness

In this world, we honor when souls go out of their way to be kind. It is held up as a true testament to the soul of the person that exhibited the kindness, but it is available to all. Abundance does not produce kindness, but the other way around.

If you truly lose yourself in the kindness that is soul based, then the world becomes a sweeter existence in your living of your Present Moments. Kindness then becomes not a mere doing of things, but of living in the ways of graciousness and goodwill with an eye on humanity.

Kindness, then, becomes the way the world has now been transformed into because you have become the kindness that the world needs.

Abundance now becomes second nature to you because you have allowed the powering source of kindness into your existence. You have made the shift.

Kindness is always a true reflection of the soul that becomes it and when you allow kindness to manifest the ways of your life, then abundance will naturally follow in ways you could have never imagined. Just be willing to allow it to flow and grow in each Now Moment for only there will you truly live.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

Define Yourself: 3 Ways to Maintain Clarity of Focus

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There are a sea of floating definitions of ourselves at any given moment just waiting to become your primary focus.  They are individual traits and characteristics, and yes, even some insecurities thrown in for good measure, floating on little rafts just shouting at you to ‘pick me, pick me’.

And we do for whatever moment seems to apply, we reach to the raft that seems to be making the most noise at any given moment.

You see, there is a definition of yourself that is the one that all other definitions should revolves around. However in our disposable society where we get cell phones as often as we change underwear, it seems as if the very definition comes and goes like the tide as well.

Where this presents conflict within your soul is in the very definition of who you are is being compromised and so the ego uses this as a way to become the soul arbiter of all that surrounds you.

Often times it is just not pretty.

To become so enamored with who you are by the terms others set for you, be it at work or in your personal life, is to surrender the better part of yourself in the process.

We Are To Play The Role We Define Ourselves As

When i was doing a fair amount of directing, there was a sign that i had on the door leading into rehearsals that simply stated, “What ever you have done today, leave it on this side of the door, for when you walk through this door, you are defined by the role you are playing.”

What i was telling the actors was that they were to leave the trouble of the day behind them as this was their clarity of focus for the next several hours.

Such can be said for life in general. We are defined by the role we are playing and that role should then become the sun of our universe that has the subsidiary hats that we adopt at any given moment as our planetary system. Essentially, our definition of who we are gives warmth and energy to the other traits that we may be at any given moment.

3 Ways To Define Yourself With Clarity of Focus

 

Way 1: The Center of You is What Gives Warmth to Your Soul

This can not be stated enough. You must define your true core and then live it in such a way so as to impact all other definition who desire to be you. To find this simply look at what it is that brings you the most joy in your life. I am not talking of the external, because most would say their family and friends.

No, what i am talking about is the truth of who you are. If you are having trouble, start by looking at the qualities that your family and friends bring to you and the joy aspect that are the relationships. There is a joy-factor that must be ferreted out to determine your core. Focus on that and really examine the feelings they they bring to you and you can then begin to piece together a soulful journey to your core.

Way 2: Do Not Allow the Voices of Other Definitions to Define You

This is one of the hardest aspect of your journey as others and the ego seeks to remake you in their own image. The sad part is that we often allow them so that we can simply ‘get along’ and ‘not make waves’.

This is a tragic way to live as, many times, we start to believe ‘own press’ as the old expression goes. We fall into the trap of the loudest voice of the definition of ourselves and we become jaded and out of step with who we are internally.

This is where the internal conflict then begins as we struggle to combine realities but never successfully doing so. Find your sun and allow it to become the guiding influence.

Way 3: Understand That the Further You Go From Your Core Concept, the Weaker You Become.

Often times when i am coaching a client, they seem as if they almost become a victim to the various definitions in that it becomes easy to blame the definitions as they are not really them. Being a victim is, then, very, very easy always giving you a way to say like the old expression from comic Flip Wilson, ‘The devil made me do it.’

It is just easier to have a scapegoat when you haven’t given your focus on what the defining aspect of who you are is and it is not front and center in your life.

Sometimes it is just easier to succumb to the pressure because it is the way you have always done it.

But it is as i have often described anyone of creative intellect; Your creative self is like a blade of grass covered with cement. No matter what the talent, no matter how much life and the people in your life cover up that blade of grass (your creative self, your core) with cement, at some point in time, it must poke through. It must find the sun, the energy that sustains it. It must.

In the end, life and who you are at your core will become your truth. Maybe it will finally arrive later in life, but no matter when it arrives, allow the growth to flourish.

For in the end, the only you that must exist is the you that is meant to reach a greater plane of existence.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking directyourownlife@gmail.com

The Art of Motivation: 3 Ways To Treat It As A Reality Show

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Motivation comes in all shapes and sizes and, quite frankly, you can never really tell what it is that motivates someone, as it is not a one-size-fits-all frame of mind.

Everyone has a different place where motivation seems to hit them and to try to fit the very word of Motivation into a preconceived idea that fits the masses, is a crazy concept.

But we seem to do it.

The way most parents seem to motivate their kids, the way managers motivate their staff and the way advertisers use different tactics on us to motivate consumers to buy.

In any political season, especially, you see what seems to be a mass motivation for candidates that propel is to care about issues that other times we don’t concern ourselves with as we are on the daily mission to simply live in the Universal Way of abundance.

Motivation: Running To or Running Away

At its core, Motivation is the designation of one of two possible concepts; the running away from something or the running to something. And more often than not, they are aimed directly at our insecurities about ourselves or our situation. Basically, our ego.

Now, don’ get me wrong here. Motivation at its core has a place but should come from a far deeper place than the egoic tendency of appealing to some insecurity. Motivation is really a larger look at who we are in the Universal Way.

I love reality shows. I do. I watch most of the main ones from Survivor to Amazing Race to Top Chef and Hells Kitchen, Celebrity Apprentice to even, Big Brother. Reality shows are a study of the human ego on trial and believe it or not, Motivation is the glue that holds it all together. Motivation is also on display as the way people run from a situation or run to a situation or other people.

What i love about the shows is that they offer a compressed look at what is usually played out in life, but it is in a heightened atmosphere of loss and reward.

Life is the same way, it just plays out at a more casual level unless we are ‘forced’ out of our comfort zone and have to act, or should i say, react.

Ways Reality Shows Can Show Us Motivation

While some may roll their eyes at reality shows, like it or not, they give is a peak into our own psychology of the way we might me motivated.

Believe it or not, there is a lot of psychology that has gone into the way the game is structured; to the way the people are separated into groups to the challenges that are devised along the way for ‘rewards’.

With that there are lessons, or takeaways, that we can apply to our own reality show called our lives.

Way 1: Look at the Way You are Motivated to Play the Game.

It is funny to watch the reality players enter with a certain ‘strategy’ and then as soon as they get there, all of a sudden there is some twist or some quirky personality they had not intended on and their strategy goes out the window.

The challenge with strategies is that they are often like playing sand volleyball. The shifting sand always presents a challenge as to how you will react and it is only after years of playing that someone seems to master the concepts.

The way you play the game is a reflection of who you are. If you go in with a set core strength as to who you are, there is no need for strategies. You operate from your center and you are free to adapt to changing circumstances as they arise. You then take the reaction and change it to positive action.

Way 2: What is the Motivation of Who You Make Alliances With?

It always intrigues me when these reality players within the first microsecond of starting the game, decide to forge an alliance not even knowing who is playing along side of them. They like the way they look, or talk or whatever, and decide to cast their lot with them. What is always amazing is when it comes to the end of the game and the people who were sent packing from the game decide to cop an attitude form someone who went against the alliance.

Really? it is a game and there can be only one left standing. The ego always lashes out when it thinks it is being attacked. But what is really happening is that the ego needs to be always first and when someone stands in its way, then it becomes insulted.

Life is like that as well. We make shaky alliances that go against our core and then we are ‘thrown under the bus’ because of those alliances, we blame the alliance, the people, the way the game is played…everything but the person in the mirror.

By the way, I am of the mindset that when they interview folks for the reality shows, a question they ask them is that, when they were a kid, were they told to be good sports if playing a game? If the answer is “No” they get to be on the show.

Don’t fall victim to being a victim of alliances you have made. Be strong to who your core self is.

Way 3: What is the Motivation for You to Change Your Way of Playing?

There comes a point where we have to adapt, to change, to evolve to a higher level of life, of living. It is really our driving desire to become more than we think we are.

To truly think outside of yourself. It is only the acceptance of the lack attitude that keeps you where you are. The attitude that doesn’t give you the Motivation to move forward as you have seemed to have lost your zeal for doing so.

In reality shows, there are usually alliances, teams that ‘stick together’ through thick or thin, or until its time to win.

The last season of Survivor had a beautiful portrayal of that very point. The one team had gotten the upper hand on the other by a one person shift to their side and managed to pick off the opposing team one-by-one until they were left by themselves to fight it out to the end.

At that point, someone had to decide to change their strategy and make bold moves to Outwit and Outplay the rest. The “this-team-loves-each-other-no-matter-what-happens’ became the most cut-throat bunch that ever played the game. Someone had to be motivated beyond the team and reach within themselves to get to the end.

In life, the motivation really is to keep our truth and be able to adapt to the shifting sands of time. Examine what it is that motivates you to change your strategy, but always be sure it is not something that goes against your core values.

In the end, it is always the ones with the quiet resolve that tend to garner the respect of the other players. It is you inner core values of who you are, without the ego, that defines your truth.

Live it with the fullness that you are for you are truly worth it.

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking directyourownlife@gmail.com

A 3-Step Process to Reignite the State of Being Connected to Yourself

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The Disconnect of Your Connections

A casual look at the simple word, “connection” finds that there are page after page of definitions that associate themselves with “connection”, as well as the associated words that each definition brings.

There is the connection of a person who aids another in achieving goal.

There is the connection of something that communicates, relates.

There is the connection of affiliation, association with an organization.

There is the connection of affinity, having a similarity with someone or some thing.

There is the alliance aspect of connection where there is a friendly association or agreement.

There is the attachment aspect of being connected and the word connected is also associated with the word, bearing, or having significance within the connection.

The list goes on and on. It seems as though we are so connected these days that the very state of being connected has become muddled within the very context of the word. I mean, it is just a natural state, right? Or least it should be.

Then, why is it that with all of the positive aspects of our connected world, we have become so estranged from our very core. We have become so connected in the world of technology, that we have seemed to lose ourselves in the very connectedness we seek so hard to maintain.

I suppose the best way to look at our connectivity is in this quote from an American Indian Chief, Chief Seattle, who said, “What befalls the earth befalls all the sons of the earth. This we know: the earth does not belong to man, man belongs to the earth. All things are connected like the blood that unites us all. Man does not weave this web of life. He is merely a strand of it. Whatever he does to the web, he does to himself.”

By the way, he was not talking about the World Wide Web, but you know, it could apply here. We are indeed strands of the web within our connections and it is true that when the web is used for ideas that are insidious, we are indeed doing it to ourselves.

It is the same with our connections. the ones that we so desperately seek to maintain not only our idea of being part of a larger world, but, in many regards, the ego seeks to define itself within these connections. Be it as a platform that seeks to enhance our prestige or as a way to become the one who is the prestige that everyone seeks.

But at the core of it all is the connection we have to ourselves.

No matter how many Facebook friends you may have people in your contact or email list, there is a common denominator with them all.
You.

You see, if the connection to yourself is so distasteful to your own inner being, you can hardly expect a quad-rillion friends on the old Facebook or Google+ accounts. For you see, there is a correlation to the expression of the inner to the outer. No matter how you may wish to hide around your multiple expression of some connectedness through the Web, if you are not fully vested in you first, in the end, it just won’t matter.

3 Ways to Begin to Look at the Connection Within

Way 1: Rediscover What makes You, You

When i would direct a play, the process of getting an actor to relate to the character was to get them connected to the characters traits that the actor thought through the words. Often times in scripts, a rough description of the character is given so as to give the actor some leeway as to the intentions of the character within the play. But, often, usually somewhere in the middle of the scheduled rehearsals, there was a shift from the written to the actor..

What i mean is that the good actor seemed to become the character to a degree and seemed to bring the character to life. You could say that the person playing the character connected with the part.

This is what you need to do with yourself. Take the time to evaluate the source of your connections. It was the Buddha who said, “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”

Way 2: Reassess Your Connections

Why are you connected to anyone, outside of family. What part of you do you bring to the character that you are playing in the play. Why are the connections so vital?

This self-assessment allows you to see yourself as sometimes we are defines by our connections. It is like when you were a kid and your parents didn’t want you to hang out with this person or that one because they might be a bad influence. The old ‘guilt by association’ complex that is in the parents manual.

But for whatever the reason for the connection, understand it for what it is and make no judgements here on the associations themselves. It is not the connections, but what you are to the connections that matter. Be honest here for

James Thurber said it so well when he penned, “All men should strive to learn before they die
what they are running from, and to, and why.”

Way 3: Be Willing To Disconnect From Your Connections

This is a release, of sorts. This is the place where you have taken yourself to better align with the truth of yourself and be willing to disconnect from the connections that are not advancing you.

I mean that not in a callous or egotistical way, but from a soulful way. You see, if the true you is connected to things outside of yourself that take you away from you and your journey, it is not egotistical to be true to yourself so as to be better for the connections that matter.

It is as i tell a client who is very wrapped up in the opinions of others for her life, “Those that matter, don’t care. Those that care, don’t matter.” Essentially, if someone is a true connection, they will take you as you are and encourage you along the way. The connection is organic and natural and adds to you, such as you are to connections that matter to you.

Life is too short to try to be connected to everything as if everything matters. everything does not matter for it is only our determination on what everything is.

Find your connection with yourself and bring the characteristics to the part that are truly you, for at the end of the show, we all bow alone.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking directyourownlife@gmail.com

Bubbles and the Ego; 3 Ways to Allow Your Bubble to Float Freely

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google plus circlesThe newest rage in Social Media circles is, well, circles. When Google+ introduced the concept of grouping together people in the logical way that we arrange people in our lives, it made sense.

Have you every blown those bubbles you get at the Dollar Store just for fun? Kids love doing it but why do we lose the simple joy of doing so as adults? Purchase a jar of bubbles soon and just enjoy them so that you can free yourself to think in a Universal Way for a bit.

You see, life itself is really, in a sense, a constant arrangement of circles that seem to float about like bubbles. When two or three or whatever intersect they form a new circle, but the bubbles are fluid and ever changing. Some float seemingly alone for a bit and then others are interconnected always, it would so seem, with other bubbles as that is their nature.

The ego tends to want to control you in such a way as to label the very movement of the bubbles and the way they are connected.

How does the ego do it?

The ego uses various aspects of life that seemingly make sense to us, on the surface, but insecurities are at the heart of all egoic tendencies. The ego takes feelings and emotions and heightens them to become almost seemingly irrational aspects of the way we feel and act.

However, it always makes sense to us. The secret is to allow the bubbles to float free to begin with and never even allow the ego to become involved in anything.

3 Ways To Allow Yours and Others Bubbles to Float Free of Ego

When you notice the very beauty of a bubble, you can see that it seems to be a little piece of perfection floating in time and space. Why then would you allow anything such as the ego to label it or try to control it.

Way 1: Understand the Very Nature of Bubbles

They do best when made and allowed to just float. Yes, we try to control them by giving them waves of our hands or blowing on them to keep them afloat, but usually, when left alone, they will complete their journey that they are destined for. The ego is always trying to control the very nature and path of the bubbles of life. Understand that we are all on our own journey and that each life, each bubble, is a perfection unto itself. Allow people to take their own journeys by not becoming an ego-driven creature based in insecurities.

Way 2: Never Force Connections as They Will Occur Naturally

One thing the ego loves to do is force connections where there are none. I suppose we best see this played out in the aspect of love.

In reality TV, in movies and TV shows, we see that very set-up as a way to enter into a drama situation that is suppose to rivet you to your seat. Well, as that is the intent, it grabs us because, while we may scoff at the antics of some TV or movie character that is mismatched in love, and we know it, it is familiar ground as most have been there in some way within their own bubbles. The forcing of love where there need not be.

The idea that we force any connection, be it a relationship or some event in time and space that is not a natural fit for us, is a way to misshape your bubble.

You have done that while blowing bubbles have you not? Tried to blow many together in such a way that the circle is almost hideous looking and it very seldom last. In fact, often times the bubble cannot even float and drops to the ground and disintegrates before our eyes.

This is the very nature of forced connections in life and in love.

Way 3: Every Bubble Will Travel and Complete its Journey

As much as we allow the ego to try to manipulate others with our words and actions, ultimately we must decide to not become that creature who is so concerned with the actions of others that it causes our actions to be nothing but reactions. That is never a journey worth taking as it is fraught with insecurities in every aspect of living.

Like the bubble, the journey will start at its creation and end with its bursting at its predestined time. But here is the beauty of the bubble. It does not ever truly end. Like us, it just becomes too big for its soapy casing and must become something else.

Like the bubble, we, too, expand past our shell at what many think is the ending, but is truly a new beginning. Allow your bubble and everyone you interact with, to be free of the ego that tries to manipulate and control its course with forced connections.

Live free and float naturally on the winds of time free from the egoic nature that tries to control us all. For there is where life truly exists in its simplicity.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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Living Joyfully: 3 Ways to Begin the Journey

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In life, as in love, the truth is usually very, very simple. It is the joy that inhabits your soul.

However, having said that, it seems that the joyful journey, for many, seems to be lacking.

Why is it that in a modern world where technology has made us all related to one another as Friends, Followers and Likes, we still seem to be disconnected from our real purpose – Joy.

Has the very act of becoming so intertwined muddled up the joy-train?

Questions i do but ask as we are all on this journey together in joy. But what has come to my attention is that many of my clients seem to be missing this one component called joy. Now, i am not speaking of those momentary joyful moments, but the soulful, deep and resounding joyful experience that moves you to a new place in love and in life. It is this place that we all must recognize that we must embrace fully or decide to allow the ego to have the moments alone and settle for them as the only joy we shall have.

We are better than that, i believe.

First, you may not even know the real essence of joy. So what is it?

In many ways, the dictionary calls it a “state of being” but inadvertently, the correct implication is stated when it is alluded to as a ‘source’.

Joy is, the emotion of great delight or happiness caused by something exceptionally good or satisfying; keen pleasure; elation: She felt the joy of seeing her son’s success.

A source or cause of keen pleasure or delight; something or someone greatly valued or appreciated: Her prose style is a pure joy.

The expression or display of glad feeling; festive gaiety and as a state of happiness or felicity.

These are typical meanings and, yes, we intrinsically know them about joy. But the truth is that few embrace the source of joy, the deep reservoir within us that moves us to that place where ego is not invited, but the truth is that ego cannot go.

You see, true, deep joy is that well well where love springs forth and life becomes one glorious Now Moment after another.

Look back in your own life at moments of joy and ask yourself, “What is the common denominator?” Usually, it is the going outside of yourself in some way. it is why thrill-seekers go to the extreme to find that moment of joy; that loss of control and the letting go of all ego. The true experience of being connected to something greater than themselves. Even if it is but for a split second, they sense it. Often the continued journeys into new and even more outrageous ways to excite is not so much the extreme sport, but the attempt to reach that essence once again, even if but for a moment.

But the real truth is that joy is never garnered from outside, but from within.

As a writer, i found great joy in this quote form another writer, Henry Miller, who said, “Whatever I do is done out of sheer joy; I drop my fruits like a ripe tree. What the general reader or the critic makes of them is not my concern.”

The essence of this quote is as i tell my coaching clients, “It is not your business what other people think of you. Live the life you have imagined and live it it your joy. Only there can you find yourself.”

3 Ways to Begin the Internal Joy Process

This is not a journey for you that would be nice for you to take. It is a journey that you must take. At the heart of the journey is love and from here your life becomes the source for a life that has a new direction

The First Way: Identify the Characteristics of the Joyful Moments You Have had.

Understand the difference form joyful moments and the eternal joy from within. At first this may be difficult, but it needs to be ferreted out. You see, often joyful moments are steeped in the ego. While they may seem to satisfy, they are nothing more than the cotton candy of your life Looks great, taste great, satisfies on many levels, but it seems as soon as it is consumed, the joy has passed, it is forgotten.

However, within the joyful moments, there are characteristics of those moments that are truth, but the ego has so hid them from you that you can’t ascertain them.

The Second Way: Ask Why These Moments Brought You Joy

There is something that the joyful moments have in common, i assure you. The key is to discover the real heart of joy. Ask yourself what was the real reason the moments brought you joy. What emotions did they illicit? What were the activities that you were engages in? Were the joy moments achievement based? Or where the joys contained mostly in a relationship context.

When you identify the moments, you get a real sense of the passion you have for life.

The Third Way: Align the joys with core values and reinvent yourself in the Stream of Joy

This way may seem a bit out there for some but aligning yourself with your joy-source is aligning yourself with life itself. It may be that you are doing something simply for the sake of doing it, not because you get joy from it. Stop doing it, then.

We are all on a journey and that journey is a set period of Now Moments. Live life like you mean it. Live in the joy that every Now Moment brings to you. I guarantee that no one on their death bed looks up with regret at their loved ones and says, “If only i would have spent more time at the office…”

Live in Joy, Live in Love. Be Love.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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