Being In The Flow of Life: 3 Ways to Embrace the Beginning of Flow Within

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Do you find yourself often going through the routines of life with no concern for the actual essence of all that surrounds you?

Does anything that happens ‘out of the ordinary’ throw you for a loop and gives you an excuse to have a bad day?

Does your flow seem more like a muddy pool of water that has a filmy substance covering it with a gentle aroma that seems slightly unpleasant to the senses?

Flow. Everyone talks of it. Most embrace it as a way, or as a desire, as a way to live their lives. The truth, however, is crouched in a security mindset that leaves nothing for flow at all in your life.

Life, then, becomes nothing more than for an accumulation for the shinny things that somehow, then, constitute a way to make life exciting. Be it the latest electronic gadget or the immersion into the latest sports team that we seem to desire to live vicariously through or some television program that diverts us from any sense of flow.

Now, i am not being a ‘you kids, get off of my lawn’ here, i assure you. I love great movies and tv that entertains. However, sometimes, when you fill you mind with all of the trivialities of life and wonder why a sense of flow is interrupted, you have to begin to take notice.

Flow Begins With the Questions We Ask

The question then becomes one not so much of the external, but one of the internal and the place the soul’s growth is within your life. Do you take care of the internal in places that only silence and reflection can truly take you? Do you release yourself to a higher level of living in that you are mindful of the Universal Way of life for all of creation? Do you truly release yourself and your ego long enough in any given period of time to truly care about life or are you so invested in your own trials and tribulations that life becomes a one-dimensional look from only your perspective.

Essentially, i am asking you if you see beyond yourself and actually enjoy what you see?

3 Ways to Embrace the Beginning of Flow Within

It is funny how most expect struggle and desperately seek a release of that struggle in terms of just being in the flow. It seems as if they so enjoy the essence of the struggle that flow then becomes a place or a condition of circumstances of things and people. Yes, these things may be part of the enjoyment of flow, but they are not flow that comes from within.

Way 1: Be Willing to Understand that Flow is Always an Inside Job

A penny on the track will derail a train. Well, that is what i thought when i was a kid. I was once walking along side of some railroad tracks with some friends when i was a kid and found a series of about ten mishapped pennys along a certain stretch of track. As i picked them up, one of my friends excitedly asked if some one was trying to derail a train. I looked at him as he told the story of derailing a train by putting a penny on the track and how he had heard about it from a cousin.

I still laugh at the story and how excited that made my friend at the time. That a tiny little copper piece could actually derail a huge, heavy train. But, in retrospect, is it any different than what happens to us on a daily basis? A small little change in our daily routine can cause us to ‘go off the rails’ in such a way that everyone around us suffers in the process,

Flow, then, begins with that place within that understands that you are the train and no penny can derail you.

Way 2: Understand that Circumstances Don’t Define You

In the great poem by Rudyard Kipling, “If”, he talks about the virtue of keeping your head when he penned, “If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs and blaming it on you” and goes on to illustrate that circumstances should never rule the day.

In the final verse, he talks of being the same to all when he wrote, “If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch, If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you…Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it.”

There is no circumstance that should define you. There is an old saying that says ‘that it is not so much what happens to you, but how you react to it that counts’, is so very true. It is always about your reactions and the way you are in peace with the moments.

Way 3: Be Willing to Release Judgement of Situations and People

One of the greatest killers of flow in one’s life is the judgement in all situations and the people you deal with. Judgement is life the eternal water on the flame of life that seeks to snuff out flow in allowing life to manifest within you all that your heart desires. When you judge situations and people and make assumptions based on those judgements, you are damming up any chance for flow to become your existence.

When you simply release any preconceived notions of people, groups and situations in general, you allow flow to become your very existence, you begin the process of truly living in the flow.

The old expression, ‘Before criticizing a man, walk a mile in his shoes.” applies here and, while the ego may persuade you to live in these judgements, or life experiences as it may be called, instead, allow new experiences to become your norm.

Allow the flow of life to envelop you and give you a new perspective, a new appreciation for the excellence of the journey of life for, therein, lies the heart of flow and of living in truth.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

The Battle Within; Why Do We Fight Ourselves – 3 Ways to Balance Our Life Approach

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There is a duality within us all that we fail to embrace that will, ultimately destroy us if not dealt with.

The duality is constant fodder for TV and movies in the way of good and evil, Yin and Yang, and our male and feminine side, among other things. It is this duality that ‘keeps us in line’ or keeps us from stepping on toes so we can have a life full of no hassle.

But is that a way to truly live?

This is what we have been taught by parents, the way we have been schooled and the way our laws are designed all in the name of a harmonious existence as a society.

While i am not here to debate the nuances of the way societies are structured, i am on a mission to embrace the inner dynamic that allows us to function and it is this inner conflict, that if fully embraced, would have a far-reaching effect on the very fabric of society.

If every soul attempted to embrace the duality that we are endowed with, quite frankly many of our laws would become obsolete. Many of the scriptural references make mention to the fact that there is a certain aspect of our nature that is written upon our heart, essentially we know all we need to know to function without senseless laws that seek to control us.

In other words, we are endowed by our creator to know the way but it is when we release ourselves to the egoic tendencies that we then tend to become more at war than in balance with life and within ourselves.

What is it that pulls us? While that is a different question for most, it is a question that must be asked.

Again, just look at reality shows, and while most scoff at their heighten attempt at drama, it is a compressed look at the nature of souls when put in certain conditions that allow the process to unfold in a way that is all of our natures.

There is a battle that wages, but it need not be. It is like we are constantly bargaining within ourselves for a certain percentage of the company so that one part can retain control over the other.

3 Ways to Begin the Process of Alignment Within

 

Way 1: Embrace the Emotions

I lose many men here as men, by and large, have been taught that emotions are not the realm of ‘real men’. That emotions make us weak and that we are to ‘power through’ them and ‘man up’.

Have i used enough cliches here?

This is a fairly dynamic aspect of the unification process as there is a certain aspect of your nature that must me expressed emotionally; be it happiness or sadness or frustration or whatever else we experience within. It is when we bury these feelings that we become detached from that balance.

Now, notice i said to embrace them. They are nothing more than guideposts to the truth that the emotions are hiding. That truth that is the real you that seeks a way out through the balance within.

Acknowledge that they are there. Respect them for showing you the way and then look to the way they are pointing. They are the off-ramps for the truth. Allow them to lead you for t is when you pull off within the emotions that cause you to go astray.

Get past them and see the truth they obscure.

Way 2: Understand that Life is a Moving Target

Where many get caught up is in the granite-like approach they seem to take to life. There is right and wrong, good and bad, and this way and that way and , my favorite, my way or the highway. Of course no one ever explained where that highway would lead one.

More importantly, within the very framework of this approach, seems to be an ever-increasing amount of judgement that seems to come along with this way of thinking.

Shakespeare penned in Act 1, Scene 3 of Macbeth, “This above all: to thine ownself be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.”

What is true for you, may not be another’s truth. That does not make it good or bad, right or wrong, it just is what it is. If nothing else, if we live life as our own truth, others will respect it and desire to model it.

More importantly, when we reside in our own life of inner balance there comes naturally a peace that many see in you, but, more importantly, you see in the way you now live. When you live within your own truth, you are on the journey of a life of balance.

Way 3: Understand That in any Situation, Lead, Follow or Get Out of the Way, is the Answer

In an given situation, we must understand that if we are in a state of balance and awareness of who we are, there are situations that we do indeed lead. But in other situations, we follow, not with a spirit of anger for not leading, but because we can because of our inner truth.

We know when we are able to become a driving force and when we need to simply become a team player. And, more importantly, we know when to get out of the way. The key here is not allow the ego to become involved in such a way so as to assert itself as the one who should always lead.

A soul with a sense of inner peace knows the exact moments to become the Yin to anothers Yang but it is only from a sense of inner balance.

This is a process, but all stems from within.

Begin the journey, if you have not already, for life awaits you. You await you.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

3 Ways To Stop Being Held As A Prisoner of War Within Your Mind

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When i was a kid, i remember seeing the old comedy show, Hogan’s Heroes, about a prisoner of war camp during the Second World War.

The shows premise was that the POWs were actually active war participants, using the camp as a base of operations for Allied espionage and sabotage against the Germans or the German Armed Forces.

The prisoners could leave and return almost at will via a secret network of tunnels and had radio contact with Allied command. They were aided by the incompetence of the camp commandant, Colonel Klink, and the rather more complex motivations of Sergeant of The Guard Sergeant Schultz.

Colonel Hogan would routinely manipulate the incompetent Klink and get Schultz to look the other way while Hogan’s men conducted secret operations. Klink and Schultz were in constant terror of being transferred to the Russian Front, and Hogan took pains to keep the hapless German duo firmly in place.

Schultz was quite aware that the prisoners were carrying out some sort of mischief, but deliberately ignored it in order to maintain the status quo.

It was all fun and games as the actual war was now 20 years over at the time the show was broadcast and time to start having fun with it all, i suppose.

But i am struck with the similarities of how we are POWs within our own minds.

You see, i believe us to be prisoners to our egoic nature and, like the show, we seem to be willing to allow ourselves to be used by allied command, the ego, for all kinds of shenanigans.

Unfortunately, we will never be allowed to leave as the ego has decided that you are not worthy to become the expansive creatures who relish living in the beauty of each Now Moment.

You see, by keeping you forever trapped by a guilt-ridden past and a future that is full of angst, for the details of your life must always be planned out or you are just a failure, we are kept as POWs forever hoping the war might end.

But like in the show where the POWs were content to stay put to do the secret operations, we too, seem to be content with ceding our lives to the ego to manage. I mean, isn’t it just easier to live in guilt and regret of the things we should have done and to put our desires into some hope of a glorious future that will happen when our ship comes in?

3 Ways to Release Yourself to Live Free

The ego is never a tyrannical dictator as the aspect of divine providence within for freedom would always rise to the surface.

No, instead, the ego is indeed like Allied Command, making it seem as if you are part of the overall plan for success.

Way 1: Understand the Way You Are Being Held Captive

This is indeed different for everyone as the ego is subtle in its design. It is forever dwelling on that which will make you stay put as a prisoner but making it seem as if you are a full participant in the process. If it is guilt about something in your past, regret about some situation that you had no control over or whatever it is your ego has decided that t needs to keep you bound, you need to understand for yourself the way you are being kept prisoner.

The key here is to understand the feelings and emotions, yet never judge them. When you allow yourself to judge them, you become the victim and then the prisoner. Judgement always reflects on the one who judges.

Way 2: Understand that the Tunnels that Lead Away Have Always Been There

Believe it or not, there is a symbiotic relationship that you have with your ego. You know the tunnels are there, the ego knows you can be free, yet does not try and stop you from using them. However, the ego tells you that the tunnels are simply used for missions but that the place of safety and security is always behind the barbed wire of the camp.

When you can make sense of the “why” then the access to the tunnels becomes a bit easier to begin to see that the true freedom can only come when you decide to use the tunnels for a one-way trip out.

There is never any safety and security as a Prisoner of War but there is clarity when you understand that life begins when you do. This means shedding your reliance on the ego and allowing yourself to step into the fresh sunlight of your Present Moments. Only there can you find yourself waiting.

Way 3: Understand that There is No Safety Ever in the Realm of the Ego

The tendency to retreat back into the camp is so dominant as you come to truly live free. The ego has assured you that the missions were as free as you needed to be, but that you will always be the safest behind the barbed wire that encloses it. The ego will tell you that it is in charge but that everything you do is vital to the success of the war.

You believed it.

Well, you used to, but no longer. Yes, the freedom of accepting yourself for who you are can be daunting. The freedom to be free of judgement of yourself and of others can be exhilarating, yet scary, at the same time. It has been such a fall-back position that the ego has used to bolster your view of yourself, right?

But once you have lived in the realm of freedom of yourself, from yourself, you begin to see the uselessness of the ego and the temptation to retreat back into the tunnels.

It is not a journey back you should ever desire. It is like when someone loses weight and gains it back and it is more difficult, or so it seems, to lose the weight again. It is just easy to retreat back into old patterns of guilt, regret and judgement.

Don’t go there.

Be a person who is free of the encampments of the mind and of the ego, for there, in the details of each Now Moment, life is waiting.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

Preparation of a Life Well Lived: 3 Ways to Frame the Process

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There is an old expression that says that Victory Loves Preparation, and to a degree, that is true.

But where this saying goes awry is the way folks go through extremes to plan their lives out to the minute details desiring to influence the process in such a way that if it doesn’t go according to plans, then all kinds of discourse then ensues. Life then becomes one disappointment after another in that it should be as the ego has decided for you and if it is not, then you are being slighted.

This gives you all kinds of excuses, then, to not live in a way that truly means that you are going in the way the river is flowing. You are living a way that comes naturally without a struggle against the current.

The Reality Is That The Future Doesn’t Yet Exist

This is where i lose many in the discussion because they look at people who are Present Moment thinkers as ‘Pie in the Sky’ types who are not grounded in reality; The reality of planning to the detail a future that does not exist except in the minds of those that desire it.

You see the disconnect here?

Of course we are expansive creatures always conceiving expansion for ourselves and for those around us, but there is the place that most succumb to the ego. While the ego is there for the betterment of self, it hardly desires expansion of others as it might somehow take away form it.

When you are ever-present in the Now Moment, you are aware of the possibilities for yourself and for those who surround you as you are aware that a rising tide lifts all boats. Life then becomes a beautiful ride on a river with others who are enjoying the ride with you.

So how do we make the leap from living in a detailed account of a future yet lived to an existence where we are ever-aware of the beautiful possibilities that are in this Present Moment alone.

3 Ways to Frame the Process of Preparation of a Life Well Lived

I remember the first time i saw a movie based on H.G. Wells, Time Machine. What struck me as a kid that seemed to give me an early view of Now Moments was that when the time machine would travel back and forth in time, it was not hurled into someplace into the future. Time passed all around the time machine right where it was. It seemed that H.G. Wells understood quantum physics even if he didn’t realize it.

Time passes as a series of Now Moments lived with an expectation that better surroundings will overtake our time machine as well. It is up to us to become an active participant of the Now Moments we are in.

Way 1: Understand that the Journey of a Thousand Miles Begins with a Single Step.

Actors know the process of rehearsing once they are into it and understand that it is the rehearsal that gives any performance its truth. It takes great actors a total immersion into each Now Moment to give a riveting performance when the cameras roll or the curtain is opened.

It would be beautiful if we had a time machine and were able to propel us into the future where we would have a desire to be manifested, but we have to inch ourselves along.

But really do we desire that? Think about repeats of TV shows and movies you have seen. I mean the thrill is gone if you have seen it right? OK, maybe Star War is exempt here, but really, think about a thriller you have seen and you have a friend that has not. they tell you ‘not to spoil it for them’ right?

The joy truly is in the journey, but it is our journey to live with a passion for excellence.

Way 2: It Is Self Betterment That We Desire

Often times, i am asked to categorize the posts i write and will the obvious choice is Self Improvement, or Self Help, i really look to it as Self Betterment. It is my mindset that improvement is so subjective and is often used by others to direct you in some way, or tell you to improve yourself.

You don’t need to improve, or help yourself. It is the betterment of yourself for the larger vision that matters. Betterment is so internal as it describes something that we seek to become more aware of. When i would direct actors, it is not that the constant rehearsal of a scene improved them as an actor, it made them a better person as well as a performer.

Way 3: Leave Judgement to Others for it is Not Your Destiny

I believe that when you take it upon yourself to judge situations and others in any way, you are not judging them, but you are making a judgement on your view of the world and the possibilities for a life well lived.

Why is it that we are think we are here to judge how anyone desires to live their lives? Yes, parents guide so as to give their children a way to make beautiful choices, but why do we feel the need to become “The De-Terminator” for every ones journey?

It is as if some we become some machine gun welding robot with our words and thoughts by thinking that by judging the journey of others and making some determination on their intent, we are ‘helping’ them by talking about them behind their back.

We are helping our ego to become more inflated as we would never do anything like that, right?

Everyone is on their own journey and it is up to us to live in a way that when our time machine comes to rest, a paradise awaits us from the preparation we gave to every Now Moment along the way.

There is an old saying that goes, “No one cares how much you know unless they know how much you care. When you can be the one who cares and not cross over into judgement, you will indeed lift all boats that surround you on your journey to a higher level in your wake.

It is Nature. it is Nurture. It is the Preparation of a Life well Lived.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

Breakaway From Limiting Thoughts: 3 Ways To Begin Anew Now

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My Pandora played me a song by Kelly Clarkson, Breakaway, and i thought that the words of the chorus fit perfectly into the place we must all decide to do to really advance ourselves into each fantastic Now Moment.

Breakaway From Limiting Thoughts

The lyrics of the chorus are:

I’ll spread my wings and I’ll learn how to fly

I’ll do what it takes til’ I touch the sky

 

And I’ll make a wish

Take a chance

Make a change

And breakaway

 

Out of the darkness and into the sun

But I won’t forget all the ones that I love

 

I’ll take a risk

Take a chance

Make a change

And breakaway

 
These words struck me as a way to release yourself into a new Now Moment in a way that seeks to honor the experiences of the past.

However, to really release yourself, you must indeed breakaway from the anchors that sometimes keep you in a place that is not necessarily a bad place, but a place that is maybe too comforting. You have to release you have to breakaway.

It is funny as i coach people from all walks of life, sometimes it is the very comfort of what they see as a place of security that are the limiting thoughts that bind them in a place in their lives.

Sometimes it is the very security that you desire in a relationship, a station in life, or whatever, that keeps you from spreading your wings. Sometimes letting go is indeed the risk that others decide for you is crazy.

But the point is that others are deciding for you.Are you deciding for you?

Limiting thoughts are that place within you that is nothing more than the ego telling you that you are not worthy of a better experience. It is so-called security that binds you to an image of what is safe and secure.

You know, as i love the watching of reality shows, i watch with interest “The Biggest Loser” and hear to tell of how Americans have allowed that very thought of security and a sedentary lifestyle to become their reality. We become creatures that are then based in the image of security instead of the expansion of our selves into a better creature of the world.

During “The Biggest Loser”, the trainers usually get into the heads of the various folks at the ranch where they train. As they train them, they come to discover that the overweight individuals have become creatures of limiting thoughts in that they have retreated within themselves and put a certain amount of trust in the food as it judges them not.

It simply is there and is a place that they can find a comfort as the limiting thoughts that brought them there are now solely at the behest of the food.

Most have done this, if not with food, with relationships, or careers or anything else that seems fairly innocuous on the surface. Anything that keeps you at a place in your life and does not allow for your expansion is at the core of limiting thoughts.

3 Ways to Breakaway From Limiting Thoughts

Remember if you are allowing yourself to be kept in a place that you do not expand your soul, then you are limiting yourself. We are creatures of expansion of a soul level and that expansion brings forth the creation of the world we share with other enlightened souls.

Way 1: The Past is the Past. Forgetaboutit!

There is this feeling i first heard my mother describe as being “out of sorts”, meaning that something is just not right in your soul. You are unsettled but can’t really understand why.

That something is always the past that is rippling onto the Present Moment. Most live in such a place of regret and guilt with things that happened or did not happen in some distant past that they are ‘out of sorts’ with the Present Moment. The ego loves this. The Now Moment then is forgotten about and the past and future, then, are the essence of living, according to the ego.

You have to let go in love. This is the key. There must be only love for the experiences and lessons of the past alone. Yes, everyone has heartbreak and tragedy in their lives, as that is the natural order of things, but you have to, as the Italians say, “forgetaboutit!” Which in Italian means, leave it or die. Usually when you don’t forgetaboutit, you die. So make sure you “forgetaboutit”.

It was best described in the Movie from 1997 called, “Donnie Brasco” when an FBI technician asked Donnie Brasco what it meant. This was his response. “Forget about it is like if you agree with someone, you know, like Raquel Welch is one great piece of ass, forget about it. But then, if you disagree, like A Lincoln is better than a Cadillac? Forget about it! you know? But then, it’s also like if something’s the greatest thing in the world, like mingia those peppers, forget about it. But it’s also like saying Go to hell! too. Like, you know, like “Hey Paulie, you got a one inch pecker?” and Paulie says “Forget about it!” Sometimes it just means forget about it.”

The Past is the Past, Forgetaboutit!

Way 2: Understand That You Are the One Who Allows All in Your Life

This is a tough one to grasp, but this takes you to a place of responsibility in your life and frees you from the trap of not going froward with a knowledge that you can be expansive in thought, word and deed.

You are a creative being meant to be expansive and to create your own reality. To not allow that to happen is to allow the ego and those in your sphere to determine for you your existence.

If you have decided that life, the economy, a relationship or anything else that is ‘holding you back’ is responsible for your limiting thoughts and actions, then rethink it.

Believe it or not, you are the creator of your greatness and you are meant to live a life not based on excuses of why you can’t move forward. If you have retreated into some type of comfort like food or alcohol, you might want to stop and ask yourself why.

If you are constantly saying that this or that happened to you, you might want to understand that nothing happens “to” you but “because of you”.

There is no judgement here and no reason for self-incrimination or blame. Just release yourself to it and become a person that desires to know that there are no limitations. You can create your own reality, but begin the process now, for this is the only moment you have.

Way 3: Let Your Mind Go Free

You have to, as the song, Breakaway, says, take a risk, Take a chance, Make a change And breakaway.

Where do you want to go? Who do you desire to be Now? Who do you desire to become when you have released yourself to be so?

What is stopping you?

Here is the answer to the last question…You.

Create your own reality, not one self-imposed on you by a set of beings who have themselves, limited thinking and perceptions of what is and could be. You are better than those kind of thoughts.

Be aware, though, this step requires the full commitment to truly unleashing yourself. I usually describe this process to clients as the realization that the room that you have been locked in is finally open for you to leave, but you enter the hallway with your hand still on the door frame, just in case.

Just in case of what?

Step into the hallway and thank the room for the experience of solitude, if nothing else. Don’t look back for it was but a place that kept you from expanding.

You are free. You did Breakaway and now the world is your oyster. It is up to you to find the Pearl within it that is right for you alone.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

Know Love, Know Life: 3 Ways To Begin Taking the Ego From Love

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In movies and TV shows as long as the medium as been produced, love, it seems, has mostly been portrayed as a bunch of long-flowing robed individuals gently moving about talking in gentle, flowing statements.

In Star Trek, when ever Kirk or Picard, would happen upon some loving, Utopian-type planet that was being threatened in some way, it always seemed that the inhabitants of the planets had decided that the garb of pure love is, indeed, long flowing gowns for everyone.

Maybe that is why we struggle with it within our own lives, especially, men; The official dress of love freaks us out. Damn ego!

Know Love, Know Life; No Love, No Life

Now, all joking aside (or am i?), i am not going to presume to become a purveyor of love in a way that i am going to show you the perfect way to live love. Although, it is my contention that love is indeed the way of the Universe, i will attempt to come at it in a different perspective.

Of course, that is the way of the ego and its nasty way that it infiltrates and takes you from the joy that is living in love. It truly is the very nature of love to live it with a passion that, in everything we do, it becomes who you are. Love, then, becomes the only true compass heading that you live. For in life, everything leads to love and everything must lead from love in all you do.

Now, with love seemingly on display and depicted in so many different ways and with so many views of love being dispensed as the ‘right’ way in which to do it, it is a far too personal of a journey to lay down one set of rules that unite all factions within it.

Love is Like Art

It seems as if artists (or anyone who truly lives their passion) are really the ‘long-flowing gowns’ among us when it comes to living love. You have long heard the ‘Starving Artist’ designation as someone who has this innate passion and love for expression of their inward soul. Some make it as big-shot celebrities and then get so lost in the fame of it all that they easily dispense of the long-flowing gowns.

Essentially, they sell out to the egoic nature within them as they enter the life of a star.

Many Hollywood types then go on crusades for some cause as they seemingly have lost touch with the very nature of the love that brought them there, or worse, become enslaved to a life of substance abuse ending up on shows such as “Celebrity Rehab.”

It is no wonder we lose sight of love as we do and it is no wonder the ego then uses it against us common folk in such a way that we, too, have cast off the ‘long flowing gowns.’

Houston, the Ego has Landed

So, it is no wonder that we allow the ego to become the sole arbiter of love within us . I suppose it is just easier to allow it as then we can make the necessary excuses when love doesn’t work out as we planned or we allow some reaction to some situation in our lives that comes not from a place of love.

3 Ways To Begin Taking the Ego From Love

This is definitely a process as it means, in many cases, removing layers upon layers of misconceptions about yourself and the very nature of love within you. If you need to consult with a coach or a mentor of some kind, that would be a great start, but there is really no option here.

There is no other way to live your life than from a place of love. The ego has been in charge and it is tome to do some spring cleaning. Let’s start the process here in the 3 Ways and grow from there.

Way 1: Know Thyself

This seems fairly self-explanatory, or does it?

While the past is something i never encourage you to stay within, it is, nonetheless, like the wake of a boat; it shows us where we have been and by experience, we have learned to steer clear of certain obstacles that are inherent of riding in a watercraft. The past, then, is nothing more than a guide to who we are and the experiences we have taken away from the journey itself.

Nothing more than that.

The ego would tend to keep you forever in the past by constantly reminding you of some obstacle you did hit or nearly hit. But the egos sole intent is to keep you from living in this Present Moment in the very nature of love and for you to depend on it to keep you from examining everything from a prism of love, but, instead from the view of the egoic-nature based in the past..

Way 2: Release Judgement

This is one of those things that so many talk about, yet so few seem to be able to get their heads around. In its very nature, judgement is at its apex, fear-based in its conception and the way it is lived.

But, by far, the way most use judgement is against themselves.

The ego welds it like a scalpel as it slices and dices you to keep you forever in line. Self-Judgement is like the promise of plastic surgery to be performed on you by the ego, but the surgery goes horribly wrong and many times you think yourself better for it, but most who see the effects of the surgery know differently. The self-judgement then manifest itself in many ways within your life. However, none more damaging that in the judgement of others.

Way 3: Understand that Love is Simple; It Just Is

The ego will tell you so many things about love; it’s a game, there is no such thing as true love anymore, everyone is out for themselves, and on and on it goes. The ego is right…from it’s perspective and if you live in the ego-based universe, that is the truth.

But you desire a different view, a more ‘long-flowing gowns’ sort of view, right? You see, love really is quite simple in that we are love by our very nature. But it is when the ego steps in and tries to manipulate it that it becomes so damned difficult, does it not?

It need not be that way. Yes, it may take a bolt of  inspiration or something similar to shake you to your core to make you finally understand this truth, but truth it is. Just because we choose a different journey doesn’t change it.

Love is simply the Present Now Moment unfolding in a natural way within us and us not allowing the ego to mutate it into something hideous. It just is.

Maybe the Starship Enterprise is right to take us on the journey to the land of long-flowing robes. Maybe in the end, it is just that simple.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Strategic Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking directyourownlife@gmail.com

Removing The Shell That Surrounds You; 3 Ways To Begin The Process

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Have you ever seen a magician cover a balloon with shaving cream and then shave it without popping it? The idea, of course, is that the balloon is so tender and that the magician is so cool, calm and collected that he can shave it without popping it.

Pretty cool, i suppose.

But it got me to thinking that it is not unlike the layers upon layers that we, too, apply to ourselves to keep us ‘protected’ from the world, or probably more often than not, protected from ourselves,

You see, the ego’s main goal is to protect itself from extinction, therefore protecting you. Though that seems like it is a worthy pursuit, it is a maniacal descent into the abyss as most become encased in the insecurities that are now used to keep you from obtaining all that is meant for you in the Universal Stream of Life.

Here’s the thing. Most have become so encased in the various protection modes that the ego has set forth initially, and then our own insecurities begin to multiply them layer upon layer, that we hardly even recognize the truth of who we are in life.

We have become nothing more than the sum of our parts obscuring the beautiful and perfect circle of life that we are underneath it all.

It really becomes about the questions you ask yourself about the layers and whether they serve you. In reality, most begin the transition from their true selves to the layers as they see themselves as the very layers themselves.

The truth is that we need to shave the layers, if need be, one layer at a time. But since the identification with those layers has so become us, we wouldn’t even know where to begin.

3 Ways to Begin the Process of Removing the Layers That Surround You

So, like the magician, we need to just shave the balloon all at once, probably. It is kind of like when you had a little injury as a kid and it was time for the band-aid to come off. The bandage had now become almost a part of your skin while the cotton bandage part was ‘protecting’ your injury as it healed. The slower it was taken off seemed to be the more painful. But the one-fell-swoop approach, always a quick sting, was easily forgotten as we saw the healing that had taken place. This is the approach we must look upon for our own healing to take place

Way 1: The Layers are What They Are

Here is the cleverness of the egoic layers, as i like to call them. Yes, they may not all be egoic in nature, but i can guarantee the ego had a hand in their application. I often think of the ego as the old mob boss depicted in old Hollywood movies that gets his henchmen to do the ‘dirty work’ while remaining untouchable.

The ego will, as you attempt to start to self-examine the layers, pile on guilt and other insecurities about the removal of the layers themselves. It is like when someone tells you that you can’t break up with them because they are the best thing that happened to you, and you start to believe them.

You are the best thing that ever happened to you.

The layers are what they are and shall be given no judgement from you as to how or why they were applied. The important thing here is to know that the layers have no longer a purpose in your life and it is time to shave them off. Lamenting for the reason they exist is only an attempt by the ego to tell you that you need them. Don’t believe it.

Way 2: You Are Worthy

This is one of the most important points that must be made here for this is one of the most devious aspects of the egoic nature. Worthiness.

You see, Worthiness is what i call a Super Layer, in that, it is used to coat all of other layers in such a way as to make them impenetrable. That is the biggest challenge with layers; most see them as cement upon cement, unbreakable. But the fact is that cement is very easily broken by a vibrational method. As all of the Universe is vibration, we too can get through our layers by merely finding the right tool to use.

The fact is, however, is that Worthiness is the illusion of cement, really. Actually each layer is really nothing more than shaving cream or a very light foam that can easily be shaved off with the right tool.

Once you allow your worthiness, you then see the layers for what they are

Way 3: Allow Yourself to Expect The Best

Once you have allowed yourself to feel worthy of all that life has in store for you, you can then allow nothing but the best to become your natural state. However, that is usually easier said than done.

Here is the danger zone where simple platitudes will not serve you. Repeating over and over that you are worthy and that you will do this or that is not going to do anything for you. in fact, it is as if the ego expects you to do this. It is almost like the old image of the King and the Court Jester.

The King (the ego) desires to be amused and the Court Jester prances around in bright, colorful costumes doing things that he thinks will amuse the King to appease him.

What really has to happen here is that the King must be dethroned and you must become worthy of the layers to be removed in an honest view of who you truly are. It must be natural, not forced, and you must truly Expect the Best for yourself.

The removal of the layers, no matter the method, is the only way you can guarantee that life is the joy that has been designed for you.

In the end, it is your journey. But you are not alone, if nothing else than to seek the encouragement of a coach to get you to see under the layers and to discover that you are indeed, worthy.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

*******

directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Strategic Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking directyourownlife@gmail.com

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