Having A Joyful Mission of Abundance: 3 Ways to Frame Your Vision

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I spoke of in a previous post, about having a Vision, really of abundance, as it related to goals. Briefly i discussed goals as merely a subset of the larger vision of a life with a purpose, an abundant life which should be a Mission for your eternal pursuits.

However, in this ego-driven culture, Mission is often left to those ‘starving artist” and those who dedicate their selves to helping those in need in some remote part of the world or in some place of dire need in our own country and the most intriguing aspect is that we often look upon those types as lacking abundance.

When we look at Mission then in the eyes of a cynical world, and with an ego that is constantly looking out for your own interest, it seems that a Mission of Abundance is not really something that everyone is involved in, or should be, for far too many have corrupted the very meaning of the word.

The Universe Makes No Mistakes

The eternal creator of the universe did not set us adrift to be at the whim of a society that cares not but, in the eternal scheme of it all, desires nothing more than people with vision to lead them into a new age of enlightenment.

Here is where the ego usually shuts the discussion down as enlightenment, vision and a Mission of Abundance is certainly not practical. To the egoic mind that desires only to keep you forever tied to the past and worried about the future in a way to keep you focused on self-preservation, there will certainly be no talk of a Mission outside of yourself, for that is the very act of acknowledging an eternal presence that has no place in the ego-centric mind.

Yes, seek personal abundance but this Mission stuff is “out there” and reality is nothing more than your failures of the past and of the future, which is always to be worried about.

3 Ways to Be Confident and Joyful in Your Mission of Abundance

 

Way 1: Know That You Are Worthy of Abundance and That it is Your Mission

Often the heartaches of the past, the ego will tell you, would not even allow you to think that YOU, of all people, could have a Mission of Abundance that could impact the world. This is precisely why you should think of a Mission of Abundance for your life and more importantly how you could impact others in your thinking and your actions.

Yes, it is tied to Vision and the two are usually so interwoven that it seems to be a daunting task to even conceive of it.

Way 2: Know That You Can Change the World With Your Mission of Abundance

The ego tells you that you are not worthy for greatness, that you can’t change the world, that “out there” pursuits are best left to those who are rich, or are crafty or whatever else the ego tells you to disavow that need within divinely given to you to create.

The ego is crafty as them all by telling you that until you get to a certain status, income or whatever, that this Mission stuff be best left to those who have the ability to do so.

Way 3: Know That Your Small Role Can be The Star Performance

In the theatre, there is a much heralded saying that says, “There are no small parts, only small actors.” Of course, it has been misused as a quote used to those who get small parts in a production who desired bigger roles, but the concept is not without merit.

I learned the lesson early on in my fledgling acting career when i, too, desired a bigger part but, instead, got a smaller role. In a sense, it was that role that turned on a switch for me as i discovered the power that having a smaller part in a show could truly manifest opportunities for greatness. It was as if the pressure of not having a bigger role opened me up to becoming great at the role i was given.

So the truth is to become great at the role you are given.

I illustrated this point to a cast of actors during a production once. It seemed they were being a bit disrespectful to the backstage crew, essentially being talent-snobs, as i would call them.

I set out to prove the dynamic of the lesson of each part of the show being a vital part of the total production. I told the actors that they would do the show at the rehearsal while the crew was watching since they seemed to be able to do it without anyones support.

As the show progressed, the actors struggled doing all of the things they took for granted that the crew did to make them look good.

It proved a point that those actors learned about appreciation for all who were involved in the show at every level. There is even a larger lesson that came from that lesson, and that was appreciation for the Mission in general.

The ego is such a controlling core that appreciation is lost for living in general. Life is a struggle, the ego tells you, and there is no way to appreciate EVERYTHING.

This is at the very core of your Mission of Abundance. Appreciation for the journey and for the freedom to allow the Mission of Abundance to become you in every way..

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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The 3 Components of Living the Truth of Financial Abundance

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We are forever caught in an attitude of being trapped between the emotions of what the financial aspect of abundance does to us with what we are taught, what we have experienced and what we have felt within the emotions of any sort of Financial Abundance.

There is a war currently against those who have money, therefore giving the impression that money is somehow this evil entity and even the very expression of the belief of money has been misquoted in various scriptures.

It is talked about money being the root of all evil, when that was never actually said of it. It was the LOVE of money, or what ever is denoted as riches, that is designated as such. The concept here is that anytime you allow the ego to determine a worth of yourself, another human being or of a circumstance and you place a high value on it as to the perceived value it is in modern day designations, then your love for the concept of money has replaced your abundance attitude in general.

It comes down to when you love the power or the influence that a money designation brings, you have lost the concept of real abundance. The truth is that money is a tool and its value is based purely on the value we bring to it through our own experience.

Several years ago, there was a movie starring Will Smith, called, “I AM Legend”. It was a typical zombie-like movie where humanity is wiped out by a virus and now it is all about survival. One scene that illustrates my point about money was when Smith’s character enters a bank vault and on the floor of the vault is millions of dollars in cash. The cash, once a testament to influence and power, is now nothing more than meaningless paper that means nothing to anyone.

3 Components of Financial Abundance

The point here is that you need to get out of your own head when it comes to the financial abundance that may have eluded you to this point and become abundant in all ways. To thine own self be true when it comes to the truth of financial abundance within you.

Money is just a way to keep score, nothing more. The sooner you believe that it is part of the whole concept of abundance, then it will no longer be something just out of your seeming reach.

Component 1: Belief

There is a real lack attitude here when it comes to believing in your worth to actually become financially abundant. So many inane associations and teachings have prevailed against the overall attitude about money, but none more vacuous than the idea that there is a pie graph of money, that if some “rich guy” has a bunch, then there is less for you.

Incredible. Your ability to obtain financial abundance is no way dependent on what some one else does and is just a way the ego works against you to tell you that you are a victim for some reason, that society is conspiring against you to keep you down.

It is your belief, and yours alone, that gives you the impetus to achieve any level of financial abundance you desire. Don’t get lost in numbers, but instead focus on the abundance of abundance itself. Believe in yourself and your Higher Consciousness that is always at work within you.

Ultimately, it is all about the service you bring that allows abundance into your realm. Be better than any number that you assign yourself as to some perceived value financially. Believe a better you and abundance will beat a path to your door.

Component 2: Trust

This component takes the cynicism out of your rear view mirror and truly allows you to support the Belief that is Component 1. When you trust yourself to be true to who you are and you trust the Universe to provide because of that truth, there is a release factor that must then take over your very being.

Most trust with what i call a “one eye open” approach. Always expecting the other shoe to fall, or even believing that because something good happens, then something bad must be right around the corner.

The most famous of all statements and the way the ego keeps you off of this trust aspect is the “what if” statements. I had a client tell me that they did trust but what if this happens or what if that happens, then what? Then all of the trust is gone, right?

Trust is always a Now Moment experience. Trust is knowing that regardless of what transpires, the core of who you are could never be shaken. People and events will never work out as you may have expected, but if you have the trust in who you are in an given situation then you shall always be truth to your self.

Component 3: Listen

This is a dynamic that most get lost in, especially with the distractions of modern day society. Listening these days means music, TV, movies, social media and what ever else takes you from the listening that must be done in Harmony with Component 1 and 2.

The listening that must be a vital part of the financial abundance that you desire is the listening to your inner self.

The listening to that little voice inside of you to be still in moments that you think you should speak.

Listening to the silence of the day that calls you to release yourself to it.

Listening to those around you in a way of being genuinely vested in what and who they are as part of the human experience, for in the mere emotion often that accompanies listening you will find truths that could give you new insights into a financial path that may have eluded you.

There is an old proverb that says that God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason; Listen twice as much as you speak. This goes to listening to your inner self as well. If you are always berating yourself and never just taking the time to listen in silence, then you are not giving the Universe an opportunity to speak.

Listen and you will find your way, but allow the truth to always be in your thoughts and actions as a result. Financial Abundance is a tool to finding your real truth, just don’t get caught up in the numbers for behind every number there is an emotion that precedes it.

Believe, Trust and Listen and the way to Financial Abundance is filled with clarity. You will attract the Financial Abundance you desire by the Universal Law of Attraction into your life.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

The Kindness in Abundance – 3 Ways To Live In The Kindness of Abundance

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Abundance has its own cadence that seems to echo within the far reaches of the soul. Within this rhythm of life, there is a kindness that must be exhibited in all ways that stems from the very heart of the abundance within or it is as shallow as life itself then becomes.

Most don’t seem to make the connection to kindness and abundance as they seem to believe that one becomes kind because of the abundance. This, too, is somewhat of a fake mission of the soul as the ego goes about its work in your general unworthiness as you struggle with any abundance that you may receive.

For example, you see this in many an actor who struggles for years doing odd jobs as they try to put together a career as an actor. When they become an “overnight success”, or so it would seem, their new financial abundance comes with a price of guilt and a general feeling of unworthiness. Having struggled for so long, they then many times become involved with causes and concerns that seemingly come from left field as well as their display of a lavish lifestyle.

While i fault no one for achieving as is the human condition to expand, create and flourish, it is when the ego takes over where kindness should have already been in place, that it then becomes problematic.

Kindness is something that is so deep and beautiful within you that you cannot help but to lift all around you within the very abundance that you are; financially and in every other way. Kindness is a condition of the heart and an extension of the soul that transcends the abundance.

3 Ways to Live Within the Kindness of Abundance

Abundance, then, becomes simply another way to empower humankind magnetized by the kindness that gives it its beauty.

Way 1: Understand That Kindness Transcends Abundance

Abundance is always a heart condition before it is ever manifest in the physical world. Abundance is neither a station in life or something that is out there to obtain, even though society and your ego seek to tell you differently.

The very definition of kindness is compassion and generosity and without those traits exhibited, abundance becomes nothing more that a life expression such as hording. Abundance, then, is parceled out from you like some sort of rare concert ticket to all around you.

Unfortunately, you then become nothing more than the substance of your abundance lacking kindness, lacking integrity and lacking heart.

Way 2: Be Willing to Lose Yourself in the Grace of Kindness

Kindness cannot be taught or learned, really, but must be experienced in the depths of soul that could never be explained.

Yes, parents and authority figures seek to establish a taste of kindness within you by instilling in you the traits of kindness, but without a genuine experience that contains the essence of what kindness produces within you, it is like shaving cream on a balloon; when it pops, the shaving cream goes everywhere leaving only traces of what was.

Usually, this grace is an overwhelming experience that washes over you and shows you a newness of life and then becomes the core of who you are. More often than not, people can point to that exact moment in life when the grace of kindness became their reality and then became a guide that fueled their Now Moments of Kindness.

But you must lose yourself in this grace. No one can teach you this but only show you the way, but the secret is in the losing, for it is in the losing that you gain.

Way 3: You Must Be Willing to Make a Shift in Kindness

In this world, we honor when souls go out of their way to be kind. It is held up as a true testament to the soul of the person that exhibited the kindness, but it is available to all. Abundance does not produce kindness, but the other way around.

If you truly lose yourself in the kindness that is soul based, then the world becomes a sweeter existence in your living of your Present Moments. Kindness then becomes not a mere doing of things, but of living in the ways of graciousness and goodwill with an eye on humanity.

Kindness, then, becomes the way the world has now been transformed into because you have become the kindness that the world needs.

Abundance now becomes second nature to you because you have allowed the powering source of kindness into your existence. You have made the shift.

Kindness is always a true reflection of the soul that becomes it and when you allow kindness to manifest the ways of your life, then abundance will naturally follow in ways you could have never imagined. Just be willing to allow it to flow and grow in each Now Moment for only there will you truly live.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

3 Ways To Begin To Understand How To Fully Live In Abundance

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When most think of abundance, of course, the natural tendency is to think in monetary ways as it seems that financially, that is the way of the world.

Unfortunately, in the process of this limiting thinking, comes an actual lack of abundance. For it is when we limit ourselves in the fullness of an abundant life, we actually look for ways to not be abundant. You could say, it was our lack attitude, then, that is actually causing our disconnect from the abundant way.

Now, this is an area that most seem to acknowledge within their awareness, but, for whatever reason, seem to believe they are not worthy of.

Let me explain it in this way and for a moment, keep the monetary thinking clear form your thinking, even though the images are obviously of a monetary nature.

We all live in a mansion that is the way we have been designed to live. This mansion is not ostentatious, but, instead, impeccably kept and surrounded by beautiful acreage that is manicured and reflective of our true nature.

We are completely at home here, but we get bored or all of a sudden feel that we need some excitement of some kind. We then leave our mansion and venture out into the world to explore. In the process of the exploration, we attract ourselves to a rather unsavory element that seem to follow us back to the mansion at some point.

They invade our mansion as we have allowed them to do and attack us where we feel safe. We then no longer feel worthy of the mansion and then live in the expectation that only the unsavory element is all we are destined for.

Finally, we come to understand the significance of the mansion and what it represents and decide to take a stand against the gang that is surrounding us. When we finally stand up to them, it is the very nature of the standing up to them that makes them leave. We simply go out to meet them and, by doing so, we dissolve them and they leave.

3 Ways to Begin to Fully Live in Abundance

We accept our inheritance as creatures of abundance and we allow ourselves to become that which is already ours.

Do you see my point here?

Way 1: First Understand That You Are Naturally Abundant Creatures

Most operate from a place that they must crawl and scratch their way to the top of some magical hill called “Abundance”. That we are, at the core, worthless creatures that are fortunate, at best, to ‘luck into’ some sort of abundant life. That we get some sort of break and are able to get abundance.

The truth is that we are already living in this perpetual state as that is how we have been designed. That we have allowed various gangs of thugs to somehow give us an impression that we are not worthy of it is egoic in nature. The ego will always tell you that everyone is out to get you and that what ever you crawl and scratch for is yours to keep.

So abundance, then, become this trophy, of sorts. As soon as we think we get it, we then go about seeking how not to lose it.

The beautiful mansion, then, that is open to all, becomes walled up by a huge wall with barbed wire and guard dogs to make sure we don’t lose that which everyone is out to take.

Understand that it is the exact opposite. We are given all abundance within ourselves in all ways and then it is the ego and life that seeks to turn it into some sort of treasure that must be guarded for fear of loss.

Way 2: Know You Are Worthy

This is probably the biggest way the ego uses to keep its all-consuming control over you.

You are not worthy, the ego will tell you. You have to claw your way to the top and you have to earn respect and when you are so very abundant, people will respect you for what you have become, for the hard work you have put into getting where you are.

But what happens if your ‘hard work’ doesn’t pay off and who is the arbiter of the level of success that is to determine this abundance that has been achieved?

It all comes down to your feeling of worth.

Think about it. So often we see this very worth factor in relationships. It seems that it is our own worthiness factor that determines if we are successful within the relationship. I have often heard clients tell me that they are not worthy of a certain relationship for this or that reason. That worthiness, then, can be traced to other facets of their life. Many times when some one desires that a parent feel proud of them, it is that they are feeling an unworthiness that must me validated by someone they look up to.

When i watch reality shows, often times a contestant will say that they are seeking some one to be proud of them and that is why they are doing it to an extent.

To be validated, to be worthy, to be abundant…they all go hand-in-hand. Know you are already worthy as you are here to fulfill a purpose in life. You are already abundant, and even if your bank account doesn’t reflect a level that you may desire at this moment, know that it is not reflective of your overall abundance, for you have already been given abundance.

Way 3: Release Yourself to Your Natural Abundance

This is one of the hardest aspects that must be understood about abundance. Since the ego and society tells us that it is a struggle to achieve, that for some reason abundance is like a big pie and that you must do what you must to get you slice before it is all gone.

Releasing into abundance, then, is not natural because the ego will tell us that ‘if we snooze, we lose,’ right? We have to get it before someone else takes it from us.

From a financial standpoint, it can be said as Sophie Tucker, a famous actress at the beginning of the 20th Century, said, “I’ve been rich and I’ve been poor. Believe me, honey, rich is better.”

Yes, we all have a desire to be “rich” but, again, many times it is a societal pressure to have or to accumulate a certain magical number that means we have arrived at the doorstep of abundance, but really, it is the freedom we are seeking that is the very nature of financial abundance.

Abundance, then, really becomes a state of mind and a sense of worthiness and at the core of it all, is a release into that state of mind that is all abundance. When we release ourselves into that thought of a natural state of abundance, then you will find that the abundance we so often have clawed for becomes a natural state of being.

But you must release, let go and flow. For therein lies the heart of living in the natural abundance that is yours for the asking.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

3 Ways To Stop Being Held As A Prisoner of War Within Your Mind

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When i was a kid, i remember seeing the old comedy show, Hogan’s Heroes, about a prisoner of war camp during the Second World War.

The shows premise was that the POWs were actually active war participants, using the camp as a base of operations for Allied espionage and sabotage against the Germans or the German Armed Forces.

The prisoners could leave and return almost at will via a secret network of tunnels and had radio contact with Allied command. They were aided by the incompetence of the camp commandant, Colonel Klink, and the rather more complex motivations of Sergeant of The Guard Sergeant Schultz.

Colonel Hogan would routinely manipulate the incompetent Klink and get Schultz to look the other way while Hogan’s men conducted secret operations. Klink and Schultz were in constant terror of being transferred to the Russian Front, and Hogan took pains to keep the hapless German duo firmly in place.

Schultz was quite aware that the prisoners were carrying out some sort of mischief, but deliberately ignored it in order to maintain the status quo.

It was all fun and games as the actual war was now 20 years over at the time the show was broadcast and time to start having fun with it all, i suppose.

But i am struck with the similarities of how we are POWs within our own minds.

You see, i believe us to be prisoners to our egoic nature and, like the show, we seem to be willing to allow ourselves to be used by allied command, the ego, for all kinds of shenanigans.

Unfortunately, we will never be allowed to leave as the ego has decided that you are not worthy to become the expansive creatures who relish living in the beauty of each Now Moment.

You see, by keeping you forever trapped by a guilt-ridden past and a future that is full of angst, for the details of your life must always be planned out or you are just a failure, we are kept as POWs forever hoping the war might end.

But like in the show where the POWs were content to stay put to do the secret operations, we too, seem to be content with ceding our lives to the ego to manage. I mean, isn’t it just easier to live in guilt and regret of the things we should have done and to put our desires into some hope of a glorious future that will happen when our ship comes in?

3 Ways to Release Yourself to Live Free

The ego is never a tyrannical dictator as the aspect of divine providence within for freedom would always rise to the surface.

No, instead, the ego is indeed like Allied Command, making it seem as if you are part of the overall plan for success.

Way 1: Understand the Way You Are Being Held Captive

This is indeed different for everyone as the ego is subtle in its design. It is forever dwelling on that which will make you stay put as a prisoner but making it seem as if you are a full participant in the process. If it is guilt about something in your past, regret about some situation that you had no control over or whatever it is your ego has decided that t needs to keep you bound, you need to understand for yourself the way you are being kept prisoner.

The key here is to understand the feelings and emotions, yet never judge them. When you allow yourself to judge them, you become the victim and then the prisoner. Judgement always reflects on the one who judges.

Way 2: Understand that the Tunnels that Lead Away Have Always Been There

Believe it or not, there is a symbiotic relationship that you have with your ego. You know the tunnels are there, the ego knows you can be free, yet does not try and stop you from using them. However, the ego tells you that the tunnels are simply used for missions but that the place of safety and security is always behind the barbed wire of the camp.

When you can make sense of the “why” then the access to the tunnels becomes a bit easier to begin to see that the true freedom can only come when you decide to use the tunnels for a one-way trip out.

There is never any safety and security as a Prisoner of War but there is clarity when you understand that life begins when you do. This means shedding your reliance on the ego and allowing yourself to step into the fresh sunlight of your Present Moments. Only there can you find yourself waiting.

Way 3: Understand that There is No Safety Ever in the Realm of the Ego

The tendency to retreat back into the camp is so dominant as you come to truly live free. The ego has assured you that the missions were as free as you needed to be, but that you will always be the safest behind the barbed wire that encloses it. The ego will tell you that it is in charge but that everything you do is vital to the success of the war.

You believed it.

Well, you used to, but no longer. Yes, the freedom of accepting yourself for who you are can be daunting. The freedom to be free of judgement of yourself and of others can be exhilarating, yet scary, at the same time. It has been such a fall-back position that the ego has used to bolster your view of yourself, right?

But once you have lived in the realm of freedom of yourself, from yourself, you begin to see the uselessness of the ego and the temptation to retreat back into the tunnels.

It is not a journey back you should ever desire. It is like when someone loses weight and gains it back and it is more difficult, or so it seems, to lose the weight again. It is just easy to retreat back into old patterns of guilt, regret and judgement.

Don’t go there.

Be a person who is free of the encampments of the mind and of the ego, for there, in the details of each Now Moment, life is waiting.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

Breakaway From Limiting Thoughts: 3 Ways To Begin Anew Now

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My Pandora played me a song by Kelly Clarkson, Breakaway, and i thought that the words of the chorus fit perfectly into the place we must all decide to do to really advance ourselves into each fantastic Now Moment.

Breakaway From Limiting Thoughts

The lyrics of the chorus are:

I’ll spread my wings and I’ll learn how to fly

I’ll do what it takes til’ I touch the sky

 

And I’ll make a wish

Take a chance

Make a change

And breakaway

 

Out of the darkness and into the sun

But I won’t forget all the ones that I love

 

I’ll take a risk

Take a chance

Make a change

And breakaway

 
These words struck me as a way to release yourself into a new Now Moment in a way that seeks to honor the experiences of the past.

However, to really release yourself, you must indeed breakaway from the anchors that sometimes keep you in a place that is not necessarily a bad place, but a place that is maybe too comforting. You have to release you have to breakaway.

It is funny as i coach people from all walks of life, sometimes it is the very comfort of what they see as a place of security that are the limiting thoughts that bind them in a place in their lives.

Sometimes it is the very security that you desire in a relationship, a station in life, or whatever, that keeps you from spreading your wings. Sometimes letting go is indeed the risk that others decide for you is crazy.

But the point is that others are deciding for you.Are you deciding for you?

Limiting thoughts are that place within you that is nothing more than the ego telling you that you are not worthy of a better experience. It is so-called security that binds you to an image of what is safe and secure.

You know, as i love the watching of reality shows, i watch with interest “The Biggest Loser” and hear to tell of how Americans have allowed that very thought of security and a sedentary lifestyle to become their reality. We become creatures that are then based in the image of security instead of the expansion of our selves into a better creature of the world.

During “The Biggest Loser”, the trainers usually get into the heads of the various folks at the ranch where they train. As they train them, they come to discover that the overweight individuals have become creatures of limiting thoughts in that they have retreated within themselves and put a certain amount of trust in the food as it judges them not.

It simply is there and is a place that they can find a comfort as the limiting thoughts that brought them there are now solely at the behest of the food.

Most have done this, if not with food, with relationships, or careers or anything else that seems fairly innocuous on the surface. Anything that keeps you at a place in your life and does not allow for your expansion is at the core of limiting thoughts.

3 Ways to Breakaway From Limiting Thoughts

Remember if you are allowing yourself to be kept in a place that you do not expand your soul, then you are limiting yourself. We are creatures of expansion of a soul level and that expansion brings forth the creation of the world we share with other enlightened souls.

Way 1: The Past is the Past. Forgetaboutit!

There is this feeling i first heard my mother describe as being “out of sorts”, meaning that something is just not right in your soul. You are unsettled but can’t really understand why.

That something is always the past that is rippling onto the Present Moment. Most live in such a place of regret and guilt with things that happened or did not happen in some distant past that they are ‘out of sorts’ with the Present Moment. The ego loves this. The Now Moment then is forgotten about and the past and future, then, are the essence of living, according to the ego.

You have to let go in love. This is the key. There must be only love for the experiences and lessons of the past alone. Yes, everyone has heartbreak and tragedy in their lives, as that is the natural order of things, but you have to, as the Italians say, “forgetaboutit!” Which in Italian means, leave it or die. Usually when you don’t forgetaboutit, you die. So make sure you “forgetaboutit”.

It was best described in the Movie from 1997 called, “Donnie Brasco” when an FBI technician asked Donnie Brasco what it meant. This was his response. “Forget about it is like if you agree with someone, you know, like Raquel Welch is one great piece of ass, forget about it. But then, if you disagree, like A Lincoln is better than a Cadillac? Forget about it! you know? But then, it’s also like if something’s the greatest thing in the world, like mingia those peppers, forget about it. But it’s also like saying Go to hell! too. Like, you know, like “Hey Paulie, you got a one inch pecker?” and Paulie says “Forget about it!” Sometimes it just means forget about it.”

The Past is the Past, Forgetaboutit!

Way 2: Understand That You Are the One Who Allows All in Your Life

This is a tough one to grasp, but this takes you to a place of responsibility in your life and frees you from the trap of not going froward with a knowledge that you can be expansive in thought, word and deed.

You are a creative being meant to be expansive and to create your own reality. To not allow that to happen is to allow the ego and those in your sphere to determine for you your existence.

If you have decided that life, the economy, a relationship or anything else that is ‘holding you back’ is responsible for your limiting thoughts and actions, then rethink it.

Believe it or not, you are the creator of your greatness and you are meant to live a life not based on excuses of why you can’t move forward. If you have retreated into some type of comfort like food or alcohol, you might want to stop and ask yourself why.

If you are constantly saying that this or that happened to you, you might want to understand that nothing happens “to” you but “because of you”.

There is no judgement here and no reason for self-incrimination or blame. Just release yourself to it and become a person that desires to know that there are no limitations. You can create your own reality, but begin the process now, for this is the only moment you have.

Way 3: Let Your Mind Go Free

You have to, as the song, Breakaway, says, take a risk, Take a chance, Make a change And breakaway.

Where do you want to go? Who do you desire to be Now? Who do you desire to become when you have released yourself to be so?

What is stopping you?

Here is the answer to the last question…You.

Create your own reality, not one self-imposed on you by a set of beings who have themselves, limited thinking and perceptions of what is and could be. You are better than those kind of thoughts.

Be aware, though, this step requires the full commitment to truly unleashing yourself. I usually describe this process to clients as the realization that the room that you have been locked in is finally open for you to leave, but you enter the hallway with your hand still on the door frame, just in case.

Just in case of what?

Step into the hallway and thank the room for the experience of solitude, if nothing else. Don’t look back for it was but a place that kept you from expanding.

You are free. You did Breakaway and now the world is your oyster. It is up to you to find the Pearl within it that is right for you alone.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

The Art of Motivation: 3 Ways To Treat It As A Reality Show

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Motivation comes in all shapes and sizes and, quite frankly, you can never really tell what it is that motivates someone, as it is not a one-size-fits-all frame of mind.

Everyone has a different place where motivation seems to hit them and to try to fit the very word of Motivation into a preconceived idea that fits the masses, is a crazy concept.

But we seem to do it.

The way most parents seem to motivate their kids, the way managers motivate their staff and the way advertisers use different tactics on us to motivate consumers to buy.

In any political season, especially, you see what seems to be a mass motivation for candidates that propel is to care about issues that other times we don’t concern ourselves with as we are on the daily mission to simply live in the Universal Way of abundance.

Motivation: Running To or Running Away

At its core, Motivation is the designation of one of two possible concepts; the running away from something or the running to something. And more often than not, they are aimed directly at our insecurities about ourselves or our situation. Basically, our ego.

Now, don’ get me wrong here. Motivation at its core has a place but should come from a far deeper place than the egoic tendency of appealing to some insecurity. Motivation is really a larger look at who we are in the Universal Way.

I love reality shows. I do. I watch most of the main ones from Survivor to Amazing Race to Top Chef and Hells Kitchen, Celebrity Apprentice to even, Big Brother. Reality shows are a study of the human ego on trial and believe it or not, Motivation is the glue that holds it all together. Motivation is also on display as the way people run from a situation or run to a situation or other people.

What i love about the shows is that they offer a compressed look at what is usually played out in life, but it is in a heightened atmosphere of loss and reward.

Life is the same way, it just plays out at a more casual level unless we are ‘forced’ out of our comfort zone and have to act, or should i say, react.

Ways Reality Shows Can Show Us Motivation

While some may roll their eyes at reality shows, like it or not, they give is a peak into our own psychology of the way we might me motivated.

Believe it or not, there is a lot of psychology that has gone into the way the game is structured; to the way the people are separated into groups to the challenges that are devised along the way for ‘rewards’.

With that there are lessons, or takeaways, that we can apply to our own reality show called our lives.

Way 1: Look at the Way You are Motivated to Play the Game.

It is funny to watch the reality players enter with a certain ‘strategy’ and then as soon as they get there, all of a sudden there is some twist or some quirky personality they had not intended on and their strategy goes out the window.

The challenge with strategies is that they are often like playing sand volleyball. The shifting sand always presents a challenge as to how you will react and it is only after years of playing that someone seems to master the concepts.

The way you play the game is a reflection of who you are. If you go in with a set core strength as to who you are, there is no need for strategies. You operate from your center and you are free to adapt to changing circumstances as they arise. You then take the reaction and change it to positive action.

Way 2: What is the Motivation of Who You Make Alliances With?

It always intrigues me when these reality players within the first microsecond of starting the game, decide to forge an alliance not even knowing who is playing along side of them. They like the way they look, or talk or whatever, and decide to cast their lot with them. What is always amazing is when it comes to the end of the game and the people who were sent packing from the game decide to cop an attitude form someone who went against the alliance.

Really? it is a game and there can be only one left standing. The ego always lashes out when it thinks it is being attacked. But what is really happening is that the ego needs to be always first and when someone stands in its way, then it becomes insulted.

Life is like that as well. We make shaky alliances that go against our core and then we are ‘thrown under the bus’ because of those alliances, we blame the alliance, the people, the way the game is played…everything but the person in the mirror.

By the way, I am of the mindset that when they interview folks for the reality shows, a question they ask them is that, when they were a kid, were they told to be good sports if playing a game? If the answer is “No” they get to be on the show.

Don’t fall victim to being a victim of alliances you have made. Be strong to who your core self is.

Way 3: What is the Motivation for You to Change Your Way of Playing?

There comes a point where we have to adapt, to change, to evolve to a higher level of life, of living. It is really our driving desire to become more than we think we are.

To truly think outside of yourself. It is only the acceptance of the lack attitude that keeps you where you are. The attitude that doesn’t give you the Motivation to move forward as you have seemed to have lost your zeal for doing so.

In reality shows, there are usually alliances, teams that ‘stick together’ through thick or thin, or until its time to win.

The last season of Survivor had a beautiful portrayal of that very point. The one team had gotten the upper hand on the other by a one person shift to their side and managed to pick off the opposing team one-by-one until they were left by themselves to fight it out to the end.

At that point, someone had to decide to change their strategy and make bold moves to Outwit and Outplay the rest. The “this-team-loves-each-other-no-matter-what-happens’ became the most cut-throat bunch that ever played the game. Someone had to be motivated beyond the team and reach within themselves to get to the end.

In life, the motivation really is to keep our truth and be able to adapt to the shifting sands of time. Examine what it is that motivates you to change your strategy, but always be sure it is not something that goes against your core values.

In the end, it is always the ones with the quiet resolve that tend to garner the respect of the other players. It is you inner core values of who you are, without the ego, that defines your truth.

Live it with the fullness that you are for you are truly worth it.

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking directyourownlife@gmail.com

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