The Clarity of a Focused Life: 3 Ways To Look At The Process

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In the dynamics of putting together a theatrical production to perform, there is always an Opening Night in which we are striving. Such as life, the events that we are preparing for, our Opening Nights, are really nothing more than a series of rehearsals in some way.

But let me explain the process here. You see, a lot of behind the scenes events have to happened before an Opening Night ever does. Besides the rehearsals, there is the stage prep, the show marketing and everything else that makes a production a success.

In life, such as in the theatre, we to have a lot of behind the scenes actions that must take place for our own Opening Nights. Like a theatrical season, with several opening nights contained within our season, think of your life as a series of Opening Nights as well.

Multitasking Our Lives Away

The challenge is that often times we are multitasking our life away with no sense of clarity at all. We just react to one situation after another and seem to drift away hoping and praying for the best.

Seriously, we hope and pray to God that this or that happens and get hacked off when it doesn’t blaming God, the world, the economy and everything in between instead of looking at the epicenter of all the seismic activity; Ourselves.

Now, you would think that from a true Now Moment perspective, that drifting is our forte and that is the rap that has been put upon Now Moment-types; We just stand around in a calm state and never are concerned about any moment but this one.

Well, yes and no.

Clarity and Focus are the key to all Now Moments. Like putting together a show, we understand when Opening Night is and all that has to be done to get there, we just understand that nothing happens Opening Night that hasn’t already happened in every rehearsal day that leads up to Opening Night.

3 Ways to Adopt a Life of Focus and Clarity

Now Moment thinkers, which is the desire of all, but the ego attempts to have you only in the Opening Nights of your life and the worries of some future day with no appreciation or concern for the Present Moment. Left up to the ego, the Opening Nights would never contain any rehearsals, only the incessant worry that there is about the Opening Night to begin with.

Way 1: Look at the Opening Nights of Your Life and Know They Are Not Lived There

With clarity and focus, Now Moment thinkers have a sense of the precious gift that is an Opening Night but truly understand that it is in the rehearsals that we find our voice. In every part an actor rehearses for, there is that one point where they “get it”. That point in the rehearsal process where their part comes alive to them. It is usually when they have gotten “off script” and the words become part of them, as does then the character.

In life, having a sense of clarity and focus does not immediately give you that sense, as one might think, but it is when we go “off script” so to speak, that the part we are playing becomes alive to us.

This is the reason many who engage in New Year’s Resolutions go so horribly off track. They live only in the Opening Night of the resolution and never truly get “off script” for the resolution to become alive to them.

Way 2: Be Willing to Pursue Every Rehearsal Night With A Single Focus

Rehearsals are an amazing thing in that if an actor comes into it completely focused on the days events or some past rehearsal where things didn’t click for them, they often time get inside their own heads. The only rehearsal that matters is the one you are in.

Such is life. The only moment that truly matters is the one that you are in. Don’t allow a past that you have labeled as “unsuccessful” vitiate this Present Moment. And don’t be concerned with Opening Night, for it is Now. You see, without the clarity and focus of this Precious gift of Now, there is no Opening Night worth speaking of.

As i used to tell actors, we all desire there to be an Opening Night, but the only way to be sure that there is to be one is to be focused on this rehearsal alone for here is where any Opening Night happens.

Way 3: Reward Successes Along the Way

It can not be said enough that if you don’t take care and concern for the little victories of the Now Moments, that opening Night is often a let down. In fact, this is such a danger that actors often fall victim to what i call, “Opening Night Hangover.” Essentially, they were so vested in opening night, that the second night comes and they lack the enthusiasm for the continuation of the show run. It was as if the Opening Night was the end-all-to-beat-all.

But like in life, Opening Night is only the beginning, usually. There is usually a show run that has to be performed. Not every one comes to Opening Night.

Don’t get trapped in the success of Opening Night Alone, but reward great performances along the way. If you find yourself looking for opportunities to be grateful for yours and others involved in your Opening Night, be it a team, a partner or whoever, and you look for ways to appreciate the little moments of achievement, then you will understand that sometimes the little moments rewarded are the essence of life themselves.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Strategic Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking directyourownlife@gmail.com

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The Theme of Goals; There Is No Place Like Home

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“You were able to get there any time, dear. Just tap your heels together and say, “There is no goal I can’t reach, there is no goal I can’t reach, there is no goal I can’t reach.”

OK…so I took some liberties with that infamous quote from the Wizard of Oz where Dorothy finds that she always had the power to get home. (Uhh, thanks Good Witch Glenda for that little piece of info, by the way. Would have been extremely helpful before the flying monkeys came around!)

But now that I think of it, I guess that is the point of it all. We all have to take our own journey down the Yellow Brick Road or we don’t appreciate the joy of the journey. But when it comes to those dastardly things called “Goals”, we are not unlike Dorothy at all, are we not? But the difference is that we are probably more like the Cowardly Lion, the Tin Man and the Scarecrow; We lack courage, a heart and a brain and become nothing more than fodder for the flying monkeys.

Now, as a Now Moment thinker, this may seem a bit odd me talking all goals and such, but I assure you I am still imminently in the Now Moment. Goals are our “Opening Night” as we relate theatrical endeavors. We set them up and then we rehearse each and every Now Moment towards being ready for them when it is time. Where most fall down in the process is not so much in the setting of Opening Night, but in the rehearsal schedule.

What do I mean?

You see, before we ever even audition for the people to fill the roles, we have to have a rehearsal schedule in place. The roles, of course, are the people and events that have to happen to fulfill our goals. Even if it is a somewhat focused goal, as the old saying goes, “No man is an island”. No matter what the goal is, there are most likely people and circumstances that involve others to get you to Opening Night; that which is your goal.

Where we become heartless, brainless and lacking in courage is that we set an ambitious goal and then just say it over and over like that is supposed to give it some type of meaning and never bother to set a rehearsal schedule. In fact, like most New Years resolutions, we set it, and go full force into it and then burnout as we realize it is seemingly unattainable. It would be like giving an actor chosen for a show the script, telling him or her that we will rehearse the play tonight, learn it all, and open tomorrow night.

Can you imagine the horror?

Anyone who has ever acted can tell you of having dreams of that very fright. Curtain opens and you know none of your lines.

The point is that the rehearsal schedule for your goals is really no different. By breaking the goal into tiny little rehearsal-night pieces, you ready yourself for Opening Night one Now Moment at a time.

Opening Night is out there but here is the difference between the egoic nature and Now Moment thinking. The egoic nature has you obsessing about all that might, could or should go wrong on Opening Night, forgetting about rehearsing. Now Moment thinking says, we are as excellent as we can be in this Now Moment and are confident that Opening Night will reflect our excellence in each Now Moment.

Set your rehearsal schedule before you audition for the show and the theme of your goals will always be peace in your Now Moments. You then will indeed be able to tap your feet and say, “There is no place like home.”

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is a Now Moment coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing the beauty of this Now Moment with a renewed passion for life. Contact DA Southern for coaching directyourownlife@gmail.com

It’s Not the Resolutions But the Questions We Ask to Become Better

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 What is it About New Beginnings That the New Year Brings?

As a Now Moment Coach, I am often amazed at the hoopla given to a calendar date as is New Years Day. At the core of it all, I understand the significance of the celebration, but it is all fairly predictable, is it not?

Let me give you the cycle of discussion, such as it is, that we are exposed to during this time and the various stories that are written about that are inspired to feed your egoic nature..

The various “Best” and “Worse” lists in whatever you are interested in. (Either you are cool by being connected with the “Best” or you are made to feel better about yourself because something is worse that you in some way.)

Resolutions – the making and then, breaking, of them. (Again, we are losers for wanting to do something because we are lacking in some way to make them to begin with and then again for failing at our lack mentality when we break the resolutions.)

Weight loss/Health – We are evidently “guilty” of eating too much over the holiday period and are all a bunch of fatties and now we must “get in shape” or, at least, be shamed to think as much. (Here is simply a lack mentality of how you see yourself. Do you need to shape up? Maybe, but on your own terms, not someones dictates on how you should feel about yourself.)

Damn Ego needing to be fed!

But, I make no judgements. As a coach, it is my mission to bridge the gap between the feelings of anxiousness that does indeed accompany this time of the year according to the calendar and the truth of Now Moments that we all must exist in.

First, let me say that there are some things that I do appreciate about this time of the calendar year.

For one, people, by and large, are in better spirits, or, if nothing else, at least open to renewal. Also, great questions are asked to help you focus. It’s just too bad that we don’t engage this way at all times. Well, I mean to change that for you.

What do I mean?

  Well, people get reflective and tend to dwell on successes and failures of the year past (Usually, more on the failures as that is the proclivity of the human experience) and will ask thought-provoking and reflective questions that tend to refocus their efforts into the New Year.

This is good at its core, as it is great to be always evolving into a better you, but the drawbacks are that the thinking is most always future-based on an experience that is based firmly in the past, completely negating the present Now Moment, which is exactly what the ego desires. Keeping you tied up in the past (failures) and hopeful of a better future, keeps joy from being completely present in this Now Moment.

Yes, we are to learn from past experiences, but not to the point that they glorify some future that doesn’t exist as of yet. This the very nature of Now Moments. The past is simply a guide and the future is but an experience of Now Moment Actions. So this is the Moment that matters. Your past does not dictate your future. You dictate your future right NOW.

To Direct Your Own Life means you ask the right questions in each Now Moment. This is the important part of the questioning process; It is not someone else who may have a desire for the path you think you must take, for the goal will always be moving and the future will never be anything more than murky. It must be your journey alone that incorporates those around you. Therein lies the happiness factor; the individual journey taken with joy that lifts those around them in that same wake of joy. It is a universal law.

  Remember, again, it is not so much the state we are in, but the questions we must ask to free us so as to move forward, and, yes, some of that may mean we have to ask tough questions about the reason we are here in this present Now Moment state not to dwell in the past but to see the framework of this moment and adapt and change as needed.

By looking at the process as if you were in a theatrical production, it is essentially the rehearsal process here. We have rehearsed certain scenes to this point and we understand that we are now ready to rehearse another part of the play. We look back at the last scene to understand the context for this next stage of rehearsal. The past, the last scene, was merely a set up for the current piece we are rehearsing. It has no baring to the future but to set it up and work together to make the play all make sense at the end.

That is the framework of the questioning process; to set up the framework for the next scene of your life. Just allow it to flow and appreciate the journey to this point and allow the questions to guide you into the next Now Moment.

In the end, it is a matter of perspective and allowing yourself to flow in that place of peace that you must find to allow yourself the freedom to move forward.

For some reason, beer commercials always seem to have great slogans, but it is not the drinking that propelled me to like this, but the message of finding yourself in that happy place where you are free to create.

The slogan is “Find Your Beach” and it is great for the disgrace that are resolutions in general as well is the comparing of the past “failures” to some future happiness.

Indeed, if you do find your beach and allow an organic way of living to become your new reality, you will have no choice but to embrace this Now Moment alone.

This will be your guiding emotion for the Now Moments that make up your future.

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is a Now Moment coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 30 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing the beauty of this Now Moment with a renewed passion for life. Contact DA Southern for coaching directyourownlife@gmail.com

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