Killing Happiness With The External: 3 Ways to Look Within

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I was coaching a client the other day who was telling me the boredom that had beset her and that there was “nothing to do” that brought her joy.

Even a casual follower of this blog knows where i will go with that, but in case you are of the mindset that the external; the vacations, the special occasions, the parties, etc, etc, will bring you some sort of peace within your life, you probably need to re-evaluate your thinking.

As i told my client, there is nothing “out there” that can ever bring you a joyful countenance if you  first are not living in some kind of place where love, joy and peace are at least a small reality.

There can never be an event, an occasion or even another person, that can bring you to a place of joy in your life if you first don’t come to grips with the essence of love within first.

The Goal Line is Constantly Being Moved

Maybe it is the idea that we are always in the pursuit of happiness and that it lies in the obtaining. But isn’t the goal line always seemingly being moved on you? Or maybe it is more like the Charlie Brown character who expects different results every time he goes to kick the football as Lucy is holding it.

3 Ways to Look Within for Happiness

That is the fleeting expression of happiness that is always an external pursuit. The truth is that we are happiness, love, peace and joy, first, and then the truth of that happiness will then manifest outside of ourselves.

Way 1: Find Your Happy Place

Understand that within us all is that place that we are our own truth. Maybe it has become obscured by life, by the opinions of others, by your expectations of what exactly happiness is supposed to be.

Whatever the reason, you must understand that there is a truth that is your joy that may be as simple as understanding that your very nature is love, first. There is a place that you go to, whether you know it or not, that gives you a sense of peace. It is not the place so much as who you are within that place. That is your happy place.

Way 2: Know That Who You Are in All Situations is the Joy You Bring

When a situation that is supposed to bring you a happiness within comes to you, understand it is you that brings any sense of joy to that place to begin with.

A situation, a place or a romance is not the happiness but simply an extension of the peace you bring into it. If you go to a party and everyone is standing around with scowling looks on their faces, was it the party that was bad?

One might say so, but have you ever been in a place where there is one soul that is so dynamic that they change the atmosphere of the room when they enter?

You are that one who can bring joy to a place where there may be none, but you have to believe it first. If it is an act, it will eventually fade away. It must be genuine.

Way 3: Live Your Joy When No One is Looking

This plays into Way 2 in that there must be a genuine expression of that joy found within for this to all make sense. Many would say that this is a process.

Yes and no, but i am more of the mindset that it is a decision that is strictly internal. There are no conditions that must be in place for you to understand that it is your birthright to be joy, to be love and to be peace.

No one must be in your life, no amount of money must be within your reach, you are not at the whims of others and their opinions of you in order to begin this process. It is simply an understanding that you are already that soul of love, peace and joy and you must embrace the essence of that within so as to live it without.

Sometimes it as simple as a decision. Let the process begin there.  In the end, it is a solitary journey that you must understand exists. Your journey then involves others on their solitary journey as well and joy becomes a manifesting destiny.

Live yours well.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

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Know Love, Know Life: 3 Ways To Begin Taking the Ego From Love

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In movies and TV shows as long as the medium as been produced, love, it seems, has mostly been portrayed as a bunch of long-flowing robed individuals gently moving about talking in gentle, flowing statements.

In Star Trek, when ever Kirk or Picard, would happen upon some loving, Utopian-type planet that was being threatened in some way, it always seemed that the inhabitants of the planets had decided that the garb of pure love is, indeed, long flowing gowns for everyone.

Maybe that is why we struggle with it within our own lives, especially, men; The official dress of love freaks us out. Damn ego!

Know Love, Know Life; No Love, No Life

Now, all joking aside (or am i?), i am not going to presume to become a purveyor of love in a way that i am going to show you the perfect way to live love. Although, it is my contention that love is indeed the way of the Universe, i will attempt to come at it in a different perspective.

Of course, that is the way of the ego and its nasty way that it infiltrates and takes you from the joy that is living in love. It truly is the very nature of love to live it with a passion that, in everything we do, it becomes who you are. Love, then, becomes the only true compass heading that you live. For in life, everything leads to love and everything must lead from love in all you do.

Now, with love seemingly on display and depicted in so many different ways and with so many views of love being dispensed as the ‘right’ way in which to do it, it is a far too personal of a journey to lay down one set of rules that unite all factions within it.

Love is Like Art

It seems as if artists (or anyone who truly lives their passion) are really the ‘long-flowing gowns’ among us when it comes to living love. You have long heard the ‘Starving Artist’ designation as someone who has this innate passion and love for expression of their inward soul. Some make it as big-shot celebrities and then get so lost in the fame of it all that they easily dispense of the long-flowing gowns.

Essentially, they sell out to the egoic nature within them as they enter the life of a star.

Many Hollywood types then go on crusades for some cause as they seemingly have lost touch with the very nature of the love that brought them there, or worse, become enslaved to a life of substance abuse ending up on shows such as “Celebrity Rehab.”

It is no wonder we lose sight of love as we do and it is no wonder the ego then uses it against us common folk in such a way that we, too, have cast off the ‘long flowing gowns.’

Houston, the Ego has Landed

So, it is no wonder that we allow the ego to become the sole arbiter of love within us . I suppose it is just easier to allow it as then we can make the necessary excuses when love doesn’t work out as we planned or we allow some reaction to some situation in our lives that comes not from a place of love.

3 Ways To Begin Taking the Ego From Love

This is definitely a process as it means, in many cases, removing layers upon layers of misconceptions about yourself and the very nature of love within you. If you need to consult with a coach or a mentor of some kind, that would be a great start, but there is really no option here.

There is no other way to live your life than from a place of love. The ego has been in charge and it is tome to do some spring cleaning. Let’s start the process here in the 3 Ways and grow from there.

Way 1: Know Thyself

This seems fairly self-explanatory, or does it?

While the past is something i never encourage you to stay within, it is, nonetheless, like the wake of a boat; it shows us where we have been and by experience, we have learned to steer clear of certain obstacles that are inherent of riding in a watercraft. The past, then, is nothing more than a guide to who we are and the experiences we have taken away from the journey itself.

Nothing more than that.

The ego would tend to keep you forever in the past by constantly reminding you of some obstacle you did hit or nearly hit. But the egos sole intent is to keep you from living in this Present Moment in the very nature of love and for you to depend on it to keep you from examining everything from a prism of love, but, instead from the view of the egoic-nature based in the past..

Way 2: Release Judgement

This is one of those things that so many talk about, yet so few seem to be able to get their heads around. In its very nature, judgement is at its apex, fear-based in its conception and the way it is lived.

But, by far, the way most use judgement is against themselves.

The ego welds it like a scalpel as it slices and dices you to keep you forever in line. Self-Judgement is like the promise of plastic surgery to be performed on you by the ego, but the surgery goes horribly wrong and many times you think yourself better for it, but most who see the effects of the surgery know differently. The self-judgement then manifest itself in many ways within your life. However, none more damaging that in the judgement of others.

Way 3: Understand that Love is Simple; It Just Is

The ego will tell you so many things about love; it’s a game, there is no such thing as true love anymore, everyone is out for themselves, and on and on it goes. The ego is right…from it’s perspective and if you live in the ego-based universe, that is the truth.

But you desire a different view, a more ‘long-flowing gowns’ sort of view, right? You see, love really is quite simple in that we are love by our very nature. But it is when the ego steps in and tries to manipulate it that it becomes so damned difficult, does it not?

It need not be that way. Yes, it may take a bolt of  inspiration or something similar to shake you to your core to make you finally understand this truth, but truth it is. Just because we choose a different journey doesn’t change it.

Love is simply the Present Now Moment unfolding in a natural way within us and us not allowing the ego to mutate it into something hideous. It just is.

Maybe the Starship Enterprise is right to take us on the journey to the land of long-flowing robes. Maybe in the end, it is just that simple.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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We Have Met the Enemy And He Is Us; 3 Ways to Begin to Find Your Harmony

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On any given day, some aspect of yourself shows up to be the dominant force that outshines the rest of you. Unfortunately, we look at as if we are in some kind of sales contest within ourselves that seeks to win over the all other parts of yourself.

It is like some Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde experience that the ego has set up to rule you. What is even more important, is that the ego seeks to bring forth doubt within yourself to keep you slightly off balance so as to never cease the incessant reliance on the very aspect of yourself, the ego, that brought you to this point to begin with.

If i was going to illustrate with a theatrical production, it would have to be the play written by David Mamet, called, “Glengarry Glen Ross.”

Wikipedia describes it as: Glengarry Glen Ross is a 1984 play written by David Mamet. The play shows parts of two days in the lives of four desperate Chicago real estate agents who are prepared to engage in any number of unethical, illegal acts—from lies and flattery to bribery, threats, intimidation and burglary—to sell undesirable real estate to unwitting prospective buyers. The play draws partly on Mamet’s experiences in a Chicago real estate office, where he worked briefly in the late 1960s. The title of the play comes from the names of two of the real estate developments being peddled by the salesmen characters, Glengarry Highlands and Glen Ross Farms.

You see, this play pits these four characters against one another and they each go through their own personal hell trying to define the line in which they will cross to be number one within the office and to become the superior over the others.

Really, this is nothing different than the way the ego pits you against yourself and it is as if you, too, are in your own personal hell as you look to see what lines you,also, will cross. In this day of so many resorting to medications to try to calm that part of them that is out of balance with the rest, it may come down to understanding that the truth out there is really within.

There was a great comic years ago called Pogo, that had a simple panel with the character that was simply contemplating while saying, “We have met the enemy and he is us.” I remember that having a profound effect on me as a kid and it really started me, at an early age, into a more reflective path probably than most my age.

Of course, the universe makes no mistakes and i was destined to be as such.

Of course, i also remember a Calvin and Hobbes comic that had Calvin talking to his pet stuffed tiger, Hobbes, as they were having a discussion about life being like a play.

Calvin says, “They say the world is a stage. But obviously the play is unrehearsed and everybody is ad-libbing his lines.

Hobbes: Maybe that’s why it’s hard to tell if we’re living in a tragedy or a farce.

Calvin: We need more special effects and dance numbers.”

I guess, somewhere in the middle between Pogo and Calvin and Hobbes, there is truth.

Of course, i jest. In actuality, there is a magnificent Creator and a Universal Way that really is contained within us all if we but stop and look. But sometimes, we are indeed our own worse enemy and are indeed, the manipulative salesmen of Glengarry Glen Ross to our own selves.

3 Ways to Begin to Bring Harmony Within

However, here is the kicker; The ego starts the balls in motion and then stands back and watches. Then, after you have ‘messed everything up’, rushes in to ‘save’ you. The quotes are intentional, by the way, as ‘messing everything up’ is only a matter of perspective and the ego can never ‘save’ you from anything.

Way 1: On Any Given Day, Assess Who is In Charge

Think of yourself as a call center of sorts. All kinds of demands, calls, are coming in and yet, one person seems to be really on top of their game that day, handling all calls with a joyful countenance.

Here is where the ego tries to begin the battle. Jealousy of each part within yourself that then transmits outside of yourself. Think about it. How come one day a comment is said to you that you seem to laugh off but said another day, will send you ‘over the edge.’

Is it the comment then? Probably not. But more importantly, the egoic state you are in. This is why it is so important that you begin by looking within at who is coming to play today. When you can begin in self-reflection and not being purely reactive, then you can begin to assess the real you.

Way 2: Understand That Reactions are not Actions but are a Defense. They Are Not the Real You

In football, it is said that while having a great defense is mandatory, Defense does not Win Games; it is the actions that you do on the Offense that makes the difference.

I suppose this can be said of life as well, in that, if all we are in any given day are the reactions that we bring into the day, then we are playing from a defensive posture alone. For when we lose our Now Moments with reactions alone, the we have forfeited the game already.

Start by asking questions when desiring to react. Questions such as, “Is there a better way here to look at this? Is this person coming from their own personal Glengarry Glen Ross situation? Essentially, when you take the time to ask, the reaction may be diffused. Of course, if you can find your harmony to begin with, the reactive state may be nullified once and for all.

Way 3: Be Unashamed of Who You Are

All of the staff within your office that is “You, inc.” are never to be at odds with one another. Instead, you are to compliment one another and each part becomes the ‘ying’ to your ‘yang’ within.

You see, the ego would have you fighting within yourself in such a way that self-doubt and insecurities are rampant and are then portrayed to the outside world. A non-harmonious state then becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If you are unashamed of the parts that make up the total you, then you will begin to feel that harmony that must be part of every being on the planet.

But here is the thing… Harmony is always an inside job first. What many do is try to become the peacemakers for an outside world without first going within. Embrace who you are and care not for the opinions of others.

Have you office working together in “You, inc.” and the outside world will become a bit more radiant to you.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Strategic Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking directyourownlife@gmail.com

Removing The Shell That Surrounds You; 3 Ways To Begin The Process

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Have you ever seen a magician cover a balloon with shaving cream and then shave it without popping it? The idea, of course, is that the balloon is so tender and that the magician is so cool, calm and collected that he can shave it without popping it.

Pretty cool, i suppose.

But it got me to thinking that it is not unlike the layers upon layers that we, too, apply to ourselves to keep us ‘protected’ from the world, or probably more often than not, protected from ourselves,

You see, the ego’s main goal is to protect itself from extinction, therefore protecting you. Though that seems like it is a worthy pursuit, it is a maniacal descent into the abyss as most become encased in the insecurities that are now used to keep you from obtaining all that is meant for you in the Universal Stream of Life.

Here’s the thing. Most have become so encased in the various protection modes that the ego has set forth initially, and then our own insecurities begin to multiply them layer upon layer, that we hardly even recognize the truth of who we are in life.

We have become nothing more than the sum of our parts obscuring the beautiful and perfect circle of life that we are underneath it all.

It really becomes about the questions you ask yourself about the layers and whether they serve you. In reality, most begin the transition from their true selves to the layers as they see themselves as the very layers themselves.

The truth is that we need to shave the layers, if need be, one layer at a time. But since the identification with those layers has so become us, we wouldn’t even know where to begin.

3 Ways to Begin the Process of Removing the Layers That Surround You

So, like the magician, we need to just shave the balloon all at once, probably. It is kind of like when you had a little injury as a kid and it was time for the band-aid to come off. The bandage had now become almost a part of your skin while the cotton bandage part was ‘protecting’ your injury as it healed. The slower it was taken off seemed to be the more painful. But the one-fell-swoop approach, always a quick sting, was easily forgotten as we saw the healing that had taken place. This is the approach we must look upon for our own healing to take place

Way 1: The Layers are What They Are

Here is the cleverness of the egoic layers, as i like to call them. Yes, they may not all be egoic in nature, but i can guarantee the ego had a hand in their application. I often think of the ego as the old mob boss depicted in old Hollywood movies that gets his henchmen to do the ‘dirty work’ while remaining untouchable.

The ego will, as you attempt to start to self-examine the layers, pile on guilt and other insecurities about the removal of the layers themselves. It is like when someone tells you that you can’t break up with them because they are the best thing that happened to you, and you start to believe them.

You are the best thing that ever happened to you.

The layers are what they are and shall be given no judgement from you as to how or why they were applied. The important thing here is to know that the layers have no longer a purpose in your life and it is time to shave them off. Lamenting for the reason they exist is only an attempt by the ego to tell you that you need them. Don’t believe it.

Way 2: You Are Worthy

This is one of the most important points that must be made here for this is one of the most devious aspects of the egoic nature. Worthiness.

You see, Worthiness is what i call a Super Layer, in that, it is used to coat all of other layers in such a way as to make them impenetrable. That is the biggest challenge with layers; most see them as cement upon cement, unbreakable. But the fact is that cement is very easily broken by a vibrational method. As all of the Universe is vibration, we too can get through our layers by merely finding the right tool to use.

The fact is, however, is that Worthiness is the illusion of cement, really. Actually each layer is really nothing more than shaving cream or a very light foam that can easily be shaved off with the right tool.

Once you allow your worthiness, you then see the layers for what they are

Way 3: Allow Yourself to Expect The Best

Once you have allowed yourself to feel worthy of all that life has in store for you, you can then allow nothing but the best to become your natural state. However, that is usually easier said than done.

Here is the danger zone where simple platitudes will not serve you. Repeating over and over that you are worthy and that you will do this or that is not going to do anything for you. in fact, it is as if the ego expects you to do this. It is almost like the old image of the King and the Court Jester.

The King (the ego) desires to be amused and the Court Jester prances around in bright, colorful costumes doing things that he thinks will amuse the King to appease him.

What really has to happen here is that the King must be dethroned and you must become worthy of the layers to be removed in an honest view of who you truly are. It must be natural, not forced, and you must truly Expect the Best for yourself.

The removal of the layers, no matter the method, is the only way you can guarantee that life is the joy that has been designed for you.

In the end, it is your journey. But you are not alone, if nothing else than to seek the encouragement of a coach to get you to see under the layers and to discover that you are indeed, worthy.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Strategic Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking directyourownlife@gmail.com

Get Out Of Your Own Way: A 3-Step Process For Truly Living

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We all have done it; Gotten in our own way when it comes to our hopes and dreams of a better tomorrow, right?

Well, therein lies the very tool the ego uses to distract you from your way, the allusion, vision, hope, dream of a better whatever at some ‘future’ date. It is as if the only thing that matters is the future.

It is not surprising as many are led to believe that very thing about life. Author Mark Twain was known to have said, “Plan for the future because that’s where you are going to spend the rest of your life.”

While i admire Mark Twain, i believe him to have spoken with a bent towards the satirical and for the absurdity of life in general. I think no quote more indicates that Mark Twain was a passionate fellow who had a bent towards the Now Moment and the release of fears that hold you back; essentially just getting out of your own way.

To Illustrate my point is this quote from Mark Twain who said, “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

But the process sounds so easy, doesn’t it? But unfortunately the ego enters into the picture with the constant drone of ‘security’ (or the lack of it) in your head.

We always have to be ‘secure’, right?

Most adult figures in your life preached this very thing to you. People even asses their possible marriages on this very fact; not so much is this someone you can weather all the beautiful challenges that may come your way together, but is this person stable enough for me? Are they secure enough to provide?

The ego fills your head with insecurities; about yourself, about your possible mate; about life in general, all built on this idea that there is this mystical security out there.

We have no one to blame but ourselves, of course, as we have become a culture of ‘entitlement’, at least in the USA. Everyone is entitled to, well, everything. Free this or that. We are all entitled because we deserve it for whatever reason.

But it only feeds into the real challenge; getting out of our own way so we can truly become the Universal Way of Life to ourselves and to those that intersect our bubble that is our life.

The 3-Step Process of Getting Out of Your Own Way

So, in this day and age where we seem to make everything a bit to over-complicated, one would think that a simple 3-step process is a bit too simple. Well, we are all on our own journey. If you decide you want to make it complicated, so be it. But, at the heart of the process are the last three words of the Twain quote; Explore. Dream. Discover.

Step 1: Exploration

Here in this word is the very nature of finding out about yourself for before any journey there is a period of self-discovery, is there not?

Some say that they learn about themselves on the journey, which is rightfully so, but, in truth, the journey must start within first. There is a part that must release the ego and allow yourself to take the journey to begin with. So exploration is always a journey from the heart to begin with. This goes for any new aspects of life that you are exploring. Never allow your ego or the opinions of others to set the parameters for your exploration for it is your journey alone, no matter how many others your bubble touches.

Step 2: Dream

This is simply allowing yourself to think out loud. This is feeling the wind in your hair and knowing that the Universe makes no mistakes, ever.

I often tell clients when they are speaking of some ‘failure’ that has befallen them. “Do you think that God is standing there saying”, “Gee, I never saw that one coming. Who would of thought that Joe would do that. Really, I Never saw that coming.”

No, the short answer. the Universe is the same for all; an abundant, joyful place that gives and expands with every breath we take. Dream on and allow yourself to see the possibilities. History is replete with men and women from all walks of life who have dreamed outside themselves and through whatever challenges that life threw at them and achieved for themselves. In fact, most would tell you that it was in the ‘failures’, or what society had deemed as such, was their greatest learning opportunities.

Step 3: Discover

This is pure release. The idea is that we can allow ourselves to see the beauty in every Present Moment with the ability of Discovery of simple every day aspects of our journey.

But the challenge is that we get caught in ruts and allow life to slip by in such a way so as to become a stagnant search for security in the mundane.

But this is what happens when, as Twain says, you “release the bowlines and sail away from safe harbor.” This is discovery of self and of the beautiful world that we have been given. This is the truth of the statement, “Stop and smell the roses.”

Release yourself to the Present Moment and Discover the beauty within and without for here is where all truth lies waiting for us.

The Simple 3-Step process; Explore. Dream. Discover. It is up to you to first release your insecurities that the ego has set as the stumbling blocks to a beautiful Now Moment.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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Bubbles and the Ego; 3 Ways to Allow Your Bubble to Float Freely

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google plus circlesThe newest rage in Social Media circles is, well, circles. When Google+ introduced the concept of grouping together people in the logical way that we arrange people in our lives, it made sense.

Have you every blown those bubbles you get at the Dollar Store just for fun? Kids love doing it but why do we lose the simple joy of doing so as adults? Purchase a jar of bubbles soon and just enjoy them so that you can free yourself to think in a Universal Way for a bit.

You see, life itself is really, in a sense, a constant arrangement of circles that seem to float about like bubbles. When two or three or whatever intersect they form a new circle, but the bubbles are fluid and ever changing. Some float seemingly alone for a bit and then others are interconnected always, it would so seem, with other bubbles as that is their nature.

The ego tends to want to control you in such a way as to label the very movement of the bubbles and the way they are connected.

How does the ego do it?

The ego uses various aspects of life that seemingly make sense to us, on the surface, but insecurities are at the heart of all egoic tendencies. The ego takes feelings and emotions and heightens them to become almost seemingly irrational aspects of the way we feel and act.

However, it always makes sense to us. The secret is to allow the bubbles to float free to begin with and never even allow the ego to become involved in anything.

3 Ways To Allow Yours and Others Bubbles to Float Free of Ego

When you notice the very beauty of a bubble, you can see that it seems to be a little piece of perfection floating in time and space. Why then would you allow anything such as the ego to label it or try to control it.

Way 1: Understand the Very Nature of Bubbles

They do best when made and allowed to just float. Yes, we try to control them by giving them waves of our hands or blowing on them to keep them afloat, but usually, when left alone, they will complete their journey that they are destined for. The ego is always trying to control the very nature and path of the bubbles of life. Understand that we are all on our own journey and that each life, each bubble, is a perfection unto itself. Allow people to take their own journeys by not becoming an ego-driven creature based in insecurities.

Way 2: Never Force Connections as They Will Occur Naturally

One thing the ego loves to do is force connections where there are none. I suppose we best see this played out in the aspect of love.

In reality TV, in movies and TV shows, we see that very set-up as a way to enter into a drama situation that is suppose to rivet you to your seat. Well, as that is the intent, it grabs us because, while we may scoff at the antics of some TV or movie character that is mismatched in love, and we know it, it is familiar ground as most have been there in some way within their own bubbles. The forcing of love where there need not be.

The idea that we force any connection, be it a relationship or some event in time and space that is not a natural fit for us, is a way to misshape your bubble.

You have done that while blowing bubbles have you not? Tried to blow many together in such a way that the circle is almost hideous looking and it very seldom last. In fact, often times the bubble cannot even float and drops to the ground and disintegrates before our eyes.

This is the very nature of forced connections in life and in love.

Way 3: Every Bubble Will Travel and Complete its Journey

As much as we allow the ego to try to manipulate others with our words and actions, ultimately we must decide to not become that creature who is so concerned with the actions of others that it causes our actions to be nothing but reactions. That is never a journey worth taking as it is fraught with insecurities in every aspect of living.

Like the bubble, the journey will start at its creation and end with its bursting at its predestined time. But here is the beauty of the bubble. It does not ever truly end. Like us, it just becomes too big for its soapy casing and must become something else.

Like the bubble, we, too, expand past our shell at what many think is the ending, but is truly a new beginning. Allow your bubble and everyone you interact with, to be free of the ego that tries to manipulate and control its course with forced connections.

Live free and float naturally on the winds of time free from the egoic nature that tries to control us all. For there is where life truly exists in its simplicity.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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Your Passion in Life: 3 Ways to Position the Personal Towers of Your Tower Defense Game

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Passion is a funny thing in that it is indeed at the heart of your Tower Defense game that is life.

Let me begin by explaining what a Tower Defense game is if you are unaware of it.

As i do various writing, coaching and directing projects there are times that i need a quick diversion at the computer, where i spend a great deal of time. As i am not a die-hard gamer, i do enjoy simple flash-based games that you can do quickly, like Angry Birds. You know those quick diversions that you can do mindlessly but don’t require you enter into a full-on session as if you would sit down to play Modern Warfare.

Simply put, a Tower Defense-based game is a game in which you are protecting a treasure of some kind or advancing on a treasure.

Wikipedia says it as such; “The goal of tower defense games is to try to stop enemies from crossing a map by building towers which shoot at them as they pass. Enemies and towers usually have varied abilities, costs, and ability costs. When an enemy is defeated, the player earns money or points, which are used to buy or upgrade towers, or upgrade the number of money or points that are earned, or even upgrade the rate at which they upgrade.”

Here is the key concept, from my standpoint, that Wikipedia says about the game, “The choice and positioning of the personal towers is the essential strategy of the game.”

It started me thinking about passion and life as all games that we play are but an extension of who we are. What draws me to this type of game is the aspect that we all have a passion within us, something that defines us and as life sends wave after wave of challenges to our attempt to take our passion from us, we must set our own ‘Personal Towers’ to defend against the waves.

Now, as i have played the various games it has often struck me that one misplaced tower can cause my treasure, my passion, to be affected or taken from me. So you see, often it is our own inability that causes us to lose sight of the passion within us. We become callus and, in many ways, the ego tells us that we are invincible and that it matters not where your own personal towers are, that it, the ego, has it all under control.

That is until it doesn’t and then seeks to blame others, society-at-large or whatever is the current popular blame-game that seems to be all the rage; your bad childhood, some political system or the current state of the economy.

These are mere excuses for the lack of attention that we are to put on our Personal Towers to protect our passion in life.

The real question, then, comes from the examination of that which drives you; you fundamental reason that the Universe has you here and the core values that are your Personal Towers.

3 Ways to Develop and Place Your Personal Towers

 

Way 1: First Look at What Defines Who You Are and Why it is Important to You.

This is a strictly you asking you what gives you a reason to get up in the morning. The reason you have been given to be as you are.

Here is the thing. No one can or should define you but you for you see, it is a journey that is a singular one, but impacts all who embrace your sphere of life with you.

I recently had the pleasure to interact with a clients granddaughter and was surprise to hear her talk of the project at her school where she and others her age, the rip old age of fourteen, were told that they had to ‘pick’ a career.

Really?

At this age, most kids have no clue what they want to do, unless it is just a God-given journey that has manifest itself already in very obvious ways.To have to ‘choose’ something when they are so into themselves, generally, is a bastardization of the creative process that the creator has designed for us all.

As the young girl sought to ask my opinion knowing that i had coached her grandmother, she asked if she was bound to be this ‘whatever’ that she was to decide. I thought for a moment, knowing that it could give her some type of vision for her own Personal Tower. I simply told her that a career generally is not decided on, but finds her naturally. Essentially, you don’t choose a career, a career chooses you.

Way 2: Set your Personal Towers Carefully

Your passion is who you are and i am not talking about you being a lawyer or a doctor or a director. Your passion is the true part of you that gives you a greater-than-yourself view of the Universe, for there is no greater view to have.

Your Personal Towers are the core values that surround you and set you up to be the creative being that manifest greatness. It is the way you Direct your Power to be the you that is simply a powerful creator as that is what we all have been designed to be.

Be willing to take stock of your core values and rid yourself of the ones that are no longer working for you. Just because you have always done it that way, doesn’t mean that it is right for you.

Way 3: Upgrade Your Personal Towers

When playing the Tower Defense games, your real power comes from upgrading the Personal Towers in such a way as to get maximum effect on the hordes that are trying to reach your core.

Always taking stock and being willing to adapt and change and increase yourself is the secret to Directing Your Own Life and becoming what was designed just for you by the Universe. Take the opportunity to reach within and ‘upgrade’ your core values to Direct Your Power to become the you that is best for you.

For here is where all truth lays waiting for you to embrace.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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