3 Ways To Begin With A Great Attitude

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When a Director sits down with his theatrical production staff and they set out to begin the process of producing the next show to be done (usually the plays are chosen in advance, a season at a time, but the process is the same), the very first thing they look at is the attitude of the theatre-going public that is their audience.

The question to ask essentially is “What is it that they will desire to see?”

As in anything, it is a focused intensity to really know what your audience will pay to see. You see, when doing a community theatre production, you must put in a season of shows that have name recognition and are intriguing enough to get the casual play-goer a desire to see what it is you are offering. Yes, in a season, you may have one show that tends to be more edgy because the rest of the season can support it. But the season must be geared towards a complete experience that caters to your audience.

From there, they look to the general “attitude” of each individual show itself. Is it a musical, a drama, a comedy? What are the characters like and what kinds of attitude are they looking to from those who audition?

As a Director, you always have a concept of the part, not of who should be playing the part so much, as every actor brings a different attitude to the role, but the general overall attitude of the role. I have cast people who were not as good of singers in a musical, for example, but brought a tremendous chemistry, an overall attitude, to the role. This could make all the difference in the way a play is perceived.

It is is same as you begin to look at an opportunity or challenge that you face. As stated previously, it is the questions you ask at the beginning that help you frame the task ahead, such as is life.

The key here is the attitude you bring to the questions, as well as the answers, and it is crucial that you approach opportunities and challenges with a superb attitude.

Your Attitude Determines Your Altitude

There is an old maxim that goes, “Your Attitude determines your Altitude” and it goes without saying that if you don’t bring a great attitude into the challenge/opportunity, then there is not much chance that you will succeed at the task.

Why? Because if you are not fully invested with an incredible passion for the answers your questions pose, then why bother in the first place?

I am speaking from experience here. I’ve learned the hard way that by not being honest with yourself and by not living in this Now Moment by asking great questions and having an attitude that accompanies the answers that you know the universe will give you, then there is an expectation that will never be fulfilled.

Inevitably, there will be failure, which leads to a myriad of domino-like attitudes about yourself that doom most Now Moment living.

3 Ways to Adopt A Dynamic Attitude

Way 1: Find the parts of the challenge/opportunity that create a passion in you.

Yes, even with challenges there are elements within the challenge that do indeed inspire you. It may be nothing more than the person that is involved with you, but whatever that dynamic is, find that part and seize it. That is the aspect of any challenge or opportunity that will give you a laser-like focus until the end

Way 2: After aligning your passion point, now frame it as a pursuit.

Let me explain. I have developed within myself a disdain for the word….work. I no longer look towards work but, instead, look to the word, Pursuit. Reason being is that within the word pursuit is the definition, “the act of striving” and one dictionary has attached to it, zeal. So no longer are you working at something. Instead, have a “zeal” for it.

Find that part that drives you and pursue it

Way 3: After zoning in on your zeal, “audition” the people and other aspects needed to get you to opening night with style.

Remember, it is all about the attitude and not always is the most obvious choice the right one for you. Look at the attitude of whoever you bring on and will they bring that same attitude to the part you give them. Consequently, will you be able to derive a sense of attitude from other elements of the challenge/opportunity. Is that attitude suitable to you?

Again, the most obvious choice is not always the one that brings you a great attitude. It is all about creating an attitude of gratitude for the zeal of the challenge/opportunity at hand.

Create a great attitude and the results will be manifest from the universal realm. It is a universal law.

Let me know your thoughts and share with your friends. The greater the conversation, the better we move forward in this Now Moment.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

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Bring Yourself to The Forefront – 3 Ways To Recognize Your Uniqueness

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At the core of bringing yourself to the forefront and recognizing your unique abilities seems to be an egoic way to be number one in your world, but nothing could be further from the truth.

We are all given a unique focus to bring to the world. It is our gift to the world from the Universe. The challenge is that most don’t think themselves worthy of doing so or being uniquely inspired to be that gift.

Be it someone who has told you that you were not worthy or important or that what you had to offer was not significant to our modern society, whatever that means, it is up to you to push aside all of the useless words that others have decided or directed to you and become the greatness that the Universe desires of you. It is your obligation for if you are still here you have a purpose.

What the Duck is Going on Here?

I recently watched in amusement a new series on A&E called Duck Dynasty about a family that has become millionaires by making duck calling thingys.

Really, i am not kidding! It is quite a show and i am always fascinated by the achievement of those who most would dismiss by making a judgement based on preconceived notions of what success should look like. What comes through in this family that seems as if they are anything but millionaires, is that there is a love for who they are as individuals and a love for what they do and are here to do.

3 Ways to Recognize Your Uniqueness

It really is quite interesting and it proves my bigger point. We are all given a destiny and we are to live it with as much grace and style as the Universe demands, for it does indeed encourage us to do so. We are to allow our uniqueness to shine so that we are that expansion of life that creates a way for others to expand as well.

Way 1: Understand That You Are Not at the Behest of Others

We allow ourselves to be less than the Universe has given us to be due to the opinions and egos of others who often seem as if they have your best interest at heart. We allow our true selves to be buried under a slab of cement to appease and allow others who obviously “know more” to be “right”. But, like a blade of grass under the cement, we must reach for the sun and at some time when the cement starts to crack and give way, our true natures poke through and we experience the freedom of being our authentic selves.

You see it all the time and it is the stuff Hollywood movies are made of; The person that goes into the family business only to discover that they are that blade of grass. When they discover their truth, they are truly free.

Way 2: To Understand Your Destiny, Understand Yourself

This is the dwelling ground of the ego in so many ways. The ego would have you not to be authentic for it is in this place of truth that you don’t really need it to keep you grounded.

You see, maybe the best experience you could do is to allow yourself to fully explore the fullness of your truth. Really grasp the way you could change the world because you can if not but within yourself first. For you see, the world is a better place when you are in a better place within.

The possibilities open up and life unfolds in the most unexpected way when you do. Live the truth that is your uniqueness and the Universe will respond. It is a Universal law.

Way 3: Don’t Hide Your Uniqueness. Live it.

This is the fullness of life in a nutshell. If you have discovered your truth, your uniqueness, then it is your mission to live it to the fullness that the world will allow.

And it will!

The truth of who you are is in the very essence of the larger truth of the Universal Stream of Consciousness. It is the way of God in that we are here to fulfill our mission in such a way that it inspires others to be creative and expansive as well.

I recently saw a video of a police officer ordering at some fast food place moments before the officer was sadly killed in the line of duty. But what was interesting about the video was the conversation the officer was having with a young boy who approached him and struck up a conversation with him.

The video was really about the young boys takeaway from what the officer was saying to him about being an achiever in life. The officer was being a genuine person who happened to be wearing a uniform, not some police officer who was looking for some evil intent in others actions.

The young boy’s life was changed in a moment and maybe that officer, as tragic as was his death, lived the fullest extent of the Universal Way by putting the idea of expansion into the mind of a youngster whose life was forever changed.

Live your uniqueness and become the way that others are inspired to do so as well. Therein lies the beauty of a life well lived.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

Spring Has Sprung – 3 Ways to Begin the Renewal Process of Abundance

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Spring is really a state of mind, is it not? I mean, yes, it is a date on the calendar but those kind of things have always made me reflect as to how locked into a certain mindset we have become.

It is as if we cannot enjoy a certain feeling of hopefulness and enthusiasm unless it is a certain time of the year or a special season. Like the Christmas season is a reason to be kinder to your fellow human.

Do you really need a reason? Do you need a reason to feel a sense of life surging through your veins in this Now Moment?

Life Begins When You Do

Yes, the Spring season brings about a renewal in the earth that does give us a sense of our own renewal, at least it should, but it doesn’t happen all at once, although it seems as if suddenly there is green everywhere and the smells of freshness invade your senses that the winter season seems to bury.

3 Ways to Begin the Renewal Process of Abundance

So, with the Spring season there comes an understanding that life is more than what you feel, is it not? It is an explosion of your senses as the freshness of life awakens within you. It is time to think differently and to think more with an eye towards expansion of self and of all that you are to the world.

Way 1: Have and Enjoy Life

What is it that we fail to have and enjoy life in this modern age with all of the so-called enlightenment that seems to be all around us. Never in our history have we been more aware of the way to calm our souls and become a more enlightened species.

Never.

But it seems as if with all of this knowledge, we have become more territorial, more prideful, more egocentric in the ways of living in a heightened state of consciousness and more self-absorbed in the ways of pleasure that seems to take us away from the advancement of the human condition.

To have and enjoy life means we are to become fully invested in the living at a higher level with an eye towards the lifting of others along the way.

To have and enjoy life means to shed yourself of shame, guilt, apathy, grief, fear, desire, anger, and pride and to rid yourself of limiting thought patterns that take you away from living fully in this Now Moment.

Way 2: Live Abundance in All Ways

Many are under the delusion that once you have a lot of money, you then have an abundant mindset. As i said, it is a delusion in that it first begins in your mind. Napoleon Hill said that whatever the mind of man can conceive, it can believe. Meaning that we are first within before it manifest without.

If we fail to have a wealth consciousness, then what ever perceived wealth we receive will quickly vanish as it was never part of who we were in the first place. It is the reason so many lottery winners are broke within a short period of time as they never believed themselves wealthy.

Money does not equate to wealth, but a wealthy mindset always equates to money.Get it? It is the same in all areas of your life. Think yourself abundant in all ways first within and the abundance will manifest in your surroundings in ways that most will call “luck”.

It is not. It is just the way you roll when it comes to abundant living.

Way 3: Allow Your Abundance to Overflow

This is the truth in all living…Let it overflow. Hold Nothing Back!

When you truly allow yourself to manifest with an abundant heart towards all things, you can’t help but to experience a truth of life. That when you begin to live abundantly in an overflowing nature, life explodes in ways you could never imagine.

Give it away and you will receive back in ways that will make your manifesting nature pale in comparison to what you may have been used to. When you live in such a way that manifesting from within becomes second nature, you will get a sense of the “overflowing” nature of abundance. It is the nectar to the soul that produces a garden of abundance that leave a sweetness to everything you touch.

Overflow and live the life you have imagined for when you do, the world will rise to meet you in the most uncommon of circumstances.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

The 3 Components of Living the Truth of Financial Abundance

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We are forever caught in an attitude of being trapped between the emotions of what the financial aspect of abundance does to us with what we are taught, what we have experienced and what we have felt within the emotions of any sort of Financial Abundance.

There is a war currently against those who have money, therefore giving the impression that money is somehow this evil entity and even the very expression of the belief of money has been misquoted in various scriptures.

It is talked about money being the root of all evil, when that was never actually said of it. It was the LOVE of money, or what ever is denoted as riches, that is designated as such. The concept here is that anytime you allow the ego to determine a worth of yourself, another human being or of a circumstance and you place a high value on it as to the perceived value it is in modern day designations, then your love for the concept of money has replaced your abundance attitude in general.

It comes down to when you love the power or the influence that a money designation brings, you have lost the concept of real abundance. The truth is that money is a tool and its value is based purely on the value we bring to it through our own experience.

Several years ago, there was a movie starring Will Smith, called, “I AM Legend”. It was a typical zombie-like movie where humanity is wiped out by a virus and now it is all about survival. One scene that illustrates my point about money was when Smith’s character enters a bank vault and on the floor of the vault is millions of dollars in cash. The cash, once a testament to influence and power, is now nothing more than meaningless paper that means nothing to anyone.

3 Components of Financial Abundance

The point here is that you need to get out of your own head when it comes to the financial abundance that may have eluded you to this point and become abundant in all ways. To thine own self be true when it comes to the truth of financial abundance within you.

Money is just a way to keep score, nothing more. The sooner you believe that it is part of the whole concept of abundance, then it will no longer be something just out of your seeming reach.

Component 1: Belief

There is a real lack attitude here when it comes to believing in your worth to actually become financially abundant. So many inane associations and teachings have prevailed against the overall attitude about money, but none more vacuous than the idea that there is a pie graph of money, that if some “rich guy” has a bunch, then there is less for you.

Incredible. Your ability to obtain financial abundance is no way dependent on what some one else does and is just a way the ego works against you to tell you that you are a victim for some reason, that society is conspiring against you to keep you down.

It is your belief, and yours alone, that gives you the impetus to achieve any level of financial abundance you desire. Don’t get lost in numbers, but instead focus on the abundance of abundance itself. Believe in yourself and your Higher Consciousness that is always at work within you.

Ultimately, it is all about the service you bring that allows abundance into your realm. Be better than any number that you assign yourself as to some perceived value financially. Believe a better you and abundance will beat a path to your door.

Component 2: Trust

This component takes the cynicism out of your rear view mirror and truly allows you to support the Belief that is Component 1. When you trust yourself to be true to who you are and you trust the Universe to provide because of that truth, there is a release factor that must then take over your very being.

Most trust with what i call a “one eye open” approach. Always expecting the other shoe to fall, or even believing that because something good happens, then something bad must be right around the corner.

The most famous of all statements and the way the ego keeps you off of this trust aspect is the “what if” statements. I had a client tell me that they did trust but what if this happens or what if that happens, then what? Then all of the trust is gone, right?

Trust is always a Now Moment experience. Trust is knowing that regardless of what transpires, the core of who you are could never be shaken. People and events will never work out as you may have expected, but if you have the trust in who you are in an given situation then you shall always be truth to your self.

Component 3: Listen

This is a dynamic that most get lost in, especially with the distractions of modern day society. Listening these days means music, TV, movies, social media and what ever else takes you from the listening that must be done in Harmony with Component 1 and 2.

The listening that must be a vital part of the financial abundance that you desire is the listening to your inner self.

The listening to that little voice inside of you to be still in moments that you think you should speak.

Listening to the silence of the day that calls you to release yourself to it.

Listening to those around you in a way of being genuinely vested in what and who they are as part of the human experience, for in the mere emotion often that accompanies listening you will find truths that could give you new insights into a financial path that may have eluded you.

There is an old proverb that says that God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason; Listen twice as much as you speak. This goes to listening to your inner self as well. If you are always berating yourself and never just taking the time to listen in silence, then you are not giving the Universe an opportunity to speak.

Listen and you will find your way, but allow the truth to always be in your thoughts and actions as a result. Financial Abundance is a tool to finding your real truth, just don’t get caught up in the numbers for behind every number there is an emotion that precedes it.

Believe, Trust and Listen and the way to Financial Abundance is filled with clarity. You will attract the Financial Abundance you desire by the Universal Law of Attraction into your life.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

The Lower Consciousness of Doubt and Worry Within Abundance – 3 Ways to Look Forward

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Living in abundance is truly living in a state of mind that you are indeed blessed souls that are living as the Universe has so designed you. Living in the way of abundance means that you truly divest yourself from certain though patterns that impeded your progress towards the very journey of life within abundance.

Worry and Doubt are two lower consciousness aspects of our beings that keep us from living a life of truth in abundance and must be dealt with or else we shall never truly embrace our abundant selves.

But while most understand the core of worry and doubt and how they can become so ingrained within us, it is the consciousness factor that seems to bind and hold them there. Worry and doubt are so ingrained that they are, in a way, seen as almost positive aspects of who we are.

Worry and doubt seem to be a way of life and it has been said of those who do not seem to display those traits, that they are almost super-human or have become enlightened.

Isn’t that the point?

We all seek, or should be seeking, that state of enlightenment that truly takes us away from that place within us where worry and doubt are a way of life. We should be seeking a higher consciousness.

3 Ways to Begin the Transformation Away From Worry and Doubt

The fact that so many seem to know that someone who possesses the freedom from worry and doubt are of a higher consciousness, seems to indicate that we are self-aware enough to understand the states of lower and upper consciousness to begin with and that worry and doubt do indeed inhabit that lower aspect of our nature.

Way 1: Understand the Nature of Worry and Doubt as it Relates to Consciousness

I have written post after post about the very nature of worry and how it can take you a very dark place in the soul, but i desire that you understand the nature of doubt and worry from a standpoint of a consciousnesses aspect.

In the book Power vs. Force: The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior, there’s a hierarchy of levels of human consciousness that are simply designated by the emotions that are indicated as words alone. Each step is a higher level of consciousness beginning with the lower level of shame and then, guilt and continuing onward to apathy, grief, fear (worry), desire, anger, pride, courage, neutrality, willingness, acceptance, reason, love, joy, peace, and finally, enlightenment.

Courage is the tipping point, so to speak, as from there your levels of consciousness become of a more enlightened state.

Worry and doubt are woven within the words shame, guilt, apathy, grief, fear, desire, anger and pride and while they are often times encouraged, they do not advance us into a higher level of consciousness in any way. The more you know how they hold you back the better of a chance you have of advancing into a higher state of consciousness.

Way 2: Worry and Doubt Are Merely Indicators of a Larger Condition

Now that you understand the levels of consciousness and that worry and doubt are within the lower levels that keep you in a place that most choose not to be, it is time to understand the very nature of what worry and doubt point to.

You see, there is a component here called the ego that has its ever-increasing tentacles into all aspects of your life. Worry and doubt, collectively, or individually, are the egos way to keep you in a constant state of lower-level thinking. The ego knows that as long as you are there, you must depend on it to control your existence, for you see, the higher levels need not the ego or its influence.

The best way is to always ask the questions as to what worry and doubt are pointing to. There is a condition within that is at the heart of worry and doubt and if you break the conditions down to manageable pieces or thoughts, you can begin to eradicate the need for worry and doubt.

The key here is to be honest and don’t allow worry and doubt to be the end-all-to-beat-all emotions for if you get lost in the emotions alone, then the conditions get obscured.

Deal with the conditions and leave the worry and doubt aside. You can only do what you can do, so do it and move on.

Way 3: Just Decide Against Worry and Doubt

At this core, this sounds very pie-in-the-sky in that we have been conditioned to be creatures that must worry and doubt. We are to become these cynical creatures that just expect the worse and it usually happens.

However we are not designed this way. If you make a decision that worry and doubt really have no place in your existence, you then become like the story of the monk in the river.

A monk had lost his footing in a stream and was caught in the current. Instead of struggling, he simply allowed himself to be carried with no struggle. As he was coming to a peaceful place within the stream, two farmers happen to see him and, fearing he was dead, gently began to approach him.

They were startled as he popped from the water and he began to make his way to the bank smiling as he passed them. He turned to the two farmers as he climbed to the bank of the stream and said, “It is not about the way you travel, but in the struggle you release to get to your journeys end.”

Worry and doubt are those struggles that must be released to allow your journey to unfold into a higher level of consciousness. Decide not to allow them and the journey begins.

In life, there are choices we must make and to allow the ego to control you in the form of worry and doubt is to deny the Universal Stream within us all.

You are a better traveler than that.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

3 Ways To Begin To Understand How To Fully Live In Abundance

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When most think of abundance, of course, the natural tendency is to think in monetary ways as it seems that financially, that is the way of the world.

Unfortunately, in the process of this limiting thinking, comes an actual lack of abundance. For it is when we limit ourselves in the fullness of an abundant life, we actually look for ways to not be abundant. You could say, it was our lack attitude, then, that is actually causing our disconnect from the abundant way.

Now, this is an area that most seem to acknowledge within their awareness, but, for whatever reason, seem to believe they are not worthy of.

Let me explain it in this way and for a moment, keep the monetary thinking clear form your thinking, even though the images are obviously of a monetary nature.

We all live in a mansion that is the way we have been designed to live. This mansion is not ostentatious, but, instead, impeccably kept and surrounded by beautiful acreage that is manicured and reflective of our true nature.

We are completely at home here, but we get bored or all of a sudden feel that we need some excitement of some kind. We then leave our mansion and venture out into the world to explore. In the process of the exploration, we attract ourselves to a rather unsavory element that seem to follow us back to the mansion at some point.

They invade our mansion as we have allowed them to do and attack us where we feel safe. We then no longer feel worthy of the mansion and then live in the expectation that only the unsavory element is all we are destined for.

Finally, we come to understand the significance of the mansion and what it represents and decide to take a stand against the gang that is surrounding us. When we finally stand up to them, it is the very nature of the standing up to them that makes them leave. We simply go out to meet them and, by doing so, we dissolve them and they leave.

3 Ways to Begin to Fully Live in Abundance

We accept our inheritance as creatures of abundance and we allow ourselves to become that which is already ours.

Do you see my point here?

Way 1: First Understand That You Are Naturally Abundant Creatures

Most operate from a place that they must crawl and scratch their way to the top of some magical hill called “Abundance”. That we are, at the core, worthless creatures that are fortunate, at best, to ‘luck into’ some sort of abundant life. That we get some sort of break and are able to get abundance.

The truth is that we are already living in this perpetual state as that is how we have been designed. That we have allowed various gangs of thugs to somehow give us an impression that we are not worthy of it is egoic in nature. The ego will always tell you that everyone is out to get you and that what ever you crawl and scratch for is yours to keep.

So abundance, then, become this trophy, of sorts. As soon as we think we get it, we then go about seeking how not to lose it.

The beautiful mansion, then, that is open to all, becomes walled up by a huge wall with barbed wire and guard dogs to make sure we don’t lose that which everyone is out to take.

Understand that it is the exact opposite. We are given all abundance within ourselves in all ways and then it is the ego and life that seeks to turn it into some sort of treasure that must be guarded for fear of loss.

Way 2: Know You Are Worthy

This is probably the biggest way the ego uses to keep its all-consuming control over you.

You are not worthy, the ego will tell you. You have to claw your way to the top and you have to earn respect and when you are so very abundant, people will respect you for what you have become, for the hard work you have put into getting where you are.

But what happens if your ‘hard work’ doesn’t pay off and who is the arbiter of the level of success that is to determine this abundance that has been achieved?

It all comes down to your feeling of worth.

Think about it. So often we see this very worth factor in relationships. It seems that it is our own worthiness factor that determines if we are successful within the relationship. I have often heard clients tell me that they are not worthy of a certain relationship for this or that reason. That worthiness, then, can be traced to other facets of their life. Many times when some one desires that a parent feel proud of them, it is that they are feeling an unworthiness that must me validated by someone they look up to.

When i watch reality shows, often times a contestant will say that they are seeking some one to be proud of them and that is why they are doing it to an extent.

To be validated, to be worthy, to be abundant…they all go hand-in-hand. Know you are already worthy as you are here to fulfill a purpose in life. You are already abundant, and even if your bank account doesn’t reflect a level that you may desire at this moment, know that it is not reflective of your overall abundance, for you have already been given abundance.

Way 3: Release Yourself to Your Natural Abundance

This is one of the hardest aspects that must be understood about abundance. Since the ego and society tells us that it is a struggle to achieve, that for some reason abundance is like a big pie and that you must do what you must to get you slice before it is all gone.

Releasing into abundance, then, is not natural because the ego will tell us that ‘if we snooze, we lose,’ right? We have to get it before someone else takes it from us.

From a financial standpoint, it can be said as Sophie Tucker, a famous actress at the beginning of the 20th Century, said, “I’ve been rich and I’ve been poor. Believe me, honey, rich is better.”

Yes, we all have a desire to be “rich” but, again, many times it is a societal pressure to have or to accumulate a certain magical number that means we have arrived at the doorstep of abundance, but really, it is the freedom we are seeking that is the very nature of financial abundance.

Abundance, then, really becomes a state of mind and a sense of worthiness and at the core of it all, is a release into that state of mind that is all abundance. When we release ourselves into that thought of a natural state of abundance, then you will find that the abundance we so often have clawed for becomes a natural state of being.

But you must release, let go and flow. For therein lies the heart of living in the natural abundance that is yours for the asking.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

Why Do You Do The Things You Do? 3 Ways To Relieve The Stress of Life

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Life is filled with one reaction after another. Everything seems to be stressful and the aspect of ‘flying off the handle’ or ‘having a knee-jerk reaction’ to something seems to be fairly acceptable these days. Well, if happens too often, we can always get a pill prescribed as seems to be the way in these stressful times..

But really there seems to be a heart condition that is far more spiritual, in nature, than is physical. Although, it has been proven that our stress of being reactive to every thing can, indeed, lead to physical ailments.

What, then, is at the heart of such a rapid decline of civility within ourselves that translates outward into our reality? Why do we find ways to be insulted and grouped together in our victimization?

Is it that we really desire that connection, even if it is through stress of living? Maybe technology has spread us out so far and wide that it is difficult to truly be connected as we are designed to be, one heart to another.

You know, where i sit and write often, there is a group of older, retired men that sit in the local coffee shop and, together, they solve the town’s, country’s and even the world’s challenges in a matter of minutes over a nice cup of coffee.

These men sit together and are seemingly unconnected, except through the coffee club that has connected them. Yet it seems as if there is a peaceful connection that they bring to the restaurant and to each other that cannot be spoken. It is a place of peace within them.

While it is fascinating to hear them as they solve the crisis of the world, there seems to be a far-reaching truth here; the connection that binds them is a connection of the heart and therein lies the truth to a stress-free existence.

Now, some would indeed argue that often relationships are the source of all stress, but i am of the mindset that the relationships that are truly bound together are seldom built on verbal discourse, but of a heart-to-heart connection that is at its source, the place where stress is seldom experienced.

3 Ways to Relieve the Stress of Life

Think about a relationship with a pet. Never words are spoken, but there is a connection that transcends words and lives within the spirit, does it not?Does it not relieve a stress within you?

Way 1: Understand Your Part in the Stream of Life

Now i am certainly not going to sit here and tell you to ‘buck up’ and not to experience life in the ways it is to be experienced, but i am here to lead you to a new reality of your part in the stream of life.

Nothing happens to you as life is not out to get you.

It s easy to get caught up in being a victim to circumstances, to people, to the challenges that seem to surround you on a daily basis.

But, quite frankly, its not them (not life), it’s you. Most have experienced those little words in terms of a relationship gone awry, but it is time for you to say it to life, “it’s not you, it’s me.”

You see, when you can back off and understand that you, and only you, are the responsible party when it comes to living life in the fullness that is our mission in which to do, life becomes a sweeter version of itself.

Life does not happen to you, you are the captain that steers the course. Yes, often times storms can seem to take us away from our course, but if we release the ego and take back the helm from being a victim, we can command the ship return to the designated course that has been designed for us.

You are still here and therefore your course is still as viable as ever.

Way 2: Find Your Happy Place

It has become quite a cliche that we have a ‘Happy Place’ that we go to in times to conflict, but understand that there is a place that many do retreat to that seems to manifest on the external, often times in ways that seem detrimental such as drugs, alcohol, and unhealthy relationships, just to name a few.

However, these things are just an extension of the internal desire to find that place of bliss that is our inner core of peace. Really, then, it comes down to the questions we ask at this point.

What is the external seeking to manifest from within?
What is the stillness that must be found within that gives me peace on the outside?

Where is that place within me that is my calm?

There is a danger here to give another that power which you must resist. Understand that the person or place or thing that you associate with your happiness factor is an extension of something within.

Really sit and source it out for yourself, for at the heart of that understanding is the key to living stress-free.

Way 3: Release Yourself to the Moment of Now

Life happens now and at the source of most stress are the future events that are supposed to happen in some perfect completion or some past that did not happen as planned and is now infecting your Now Moment existence.

This existence of Now is your Happy Place as you are here, are you not? Anything that was supposed to cause you some type of dire consequences has not kept you from this Now Moment. There is nothing that the past supposedly was matters to this exact Now Moment. There is no future as of yet that can not be dealt with.

Ask, “What is the worse that can happen?” if you must, and find a place in this Now Moment to live free of it all, because whether you know it or not, you already are doing so.

Enjoy the sights and sounds of your surroundings. Meditate silently in the conversations of those around you and just listen to the way they speak, the way they reflect as they speak. Notice the nuances of every little action and reaction for when you become ever-present in the Now Moments of life, there is little left for the stress of what should or might be or has been.

Live, now, free of the reactions of living and become the action of living free within yourself. For here alone, is the place of peace that transcends into a life of serenity.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

*******

dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

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