The Battle Within; Why Do We Fight Ourselves – 3 Ways to Balance Our Life Approach

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There is a duality within us all that we fail to embrace that will, ultimately destroy us if not dealt with.

The duality is constant fodder for TV and movies in the way of good and evil, Yin and Yang, and our male and feminine side, among other things. It is this duality that ‘keeps us in line’ or keeps us from stepping on toes so we can have a life full of no hassle.

But is that a way to truly live?

This is what we have been taught by parents, the way we have been schooled and the way our laws are designed all in the name of a harmonious existence as a society.

While i am not here to debate the nuances of the way societies are structured, i am on a mission to embrace the inner dynamic that allows us to function and it is this inner conflict, that if fully embraced, would have a far-reaching effect on the very fabric of society.

If every soul attempted to embrace the duality that we are endowed with, quite frankly many of our laws would become obsolete. Many of the scriptural references make mention to the fact that there is a certain aspect of our nature that is written upon our heart, essentially we know all we need to know to function without senseless laws that seek to control us.

In other words, we are endowed by our creator to know the way but it is when we release ourselves to the egoic tendencies that we then tend to become more at war than in balance with life and within ourselves.

What is it that pulls us? While that is a different question for most, it is a question that must be asked.

Again, just look at reality shows, and while most scoff at their heighten attempt at drama, it is a compressed look at the nature of souls when put in certain conditions that allow the process to unfold in a way that is all of our natures.

There is a battle that wages, but it need not be. It is like we are constantly bargaining within ourselves for a certain percentage of the company so that one part can retain control over the other.

3 Ways to Begin the Process of Alignment Within

 

Way 1: Embrace the Emotions

I lose many men here as men, by and large, have been taught that emotions are not the realm of ‘real men’. That emotions make us weak and that we are to ‘power through’ them and ‘man up’.

Have i used enough cliches here?

This is a fairly dynamic aspect of the unification process as there is a certain aspect of your nature that must me expressed emotionally; be it happiness or sadness or frustration or whatever else we experience within. It is when we bury these feelings that we become detached from that balance.

Now, notice i said to embrace them. They are nothing more than guideposts to the truth that the emotions are hiding. That truth that is the real you that seeks a way out through the balance within.

Acknowledge that they are there. Respect them for showing you the way and then look to the way they are pointing. They are the off-ramps for the truth. Allow them to lead you for t is when you pull off within the emotions that cause you to go astray.

Get past them and see the truth they obscure.

Way 2: Understand that Life is a Moving Target

Where many get caught up is in the granite-like approach they seem to take to life. There is right and wrong, good and bad, and this way and that way and , my favorite, my way or the highway. Of course no one ever explained where that highway would lead one.

More importantly, within the very framework of this approach, seems to be an ever-increasing amount of judgement that seems to come along with this way of thinking.

Shakespeare penned in Act 1, Scene 3 of Macbeth, “This above all: to thine ownself be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.”

What is true for you, may not be another’s truth. That does not make it good or bad, right or wrong, it just is what it is. If nothing else, if we live life as our own truth, others will respect it and desire to model it.

More importantly, when we reside in our own life of inner balance there comes naturally a peace that many see in you, but, more importantly, you see in the way you now live. When you live within your own truth, you are on the journey of a life of balance.

Way 3: Understand That in any Situation, Lead, Follow or Get Out of the Way, is the Answer

In an given situation, we must understand that if we are in a state of balance and awareness of who we are, there are situations that we do indeed lead. But in other situations, we follow, not with a spirit of anger for not leading, but because we can because of our inner truth.

We know when we are able to become a driving force and when we need to simply become a team player. And, more importantly, we know when to get out of the way. The key here is not allow the ego to become involved in such a way so as to assert itself as the one who should always lead.

A soul with a sense of inner peace knows the exact moments to become the Yin to anothers Yang but it is only from a sense of inner balance.

This is a process, but all stems from within.

Begin the journey, if you have not already, for life awaits you. You await you.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @ dasouthern@directyourpower.com

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Define Yourself: 3 Ways to Maintain Clarity of Focus

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There are a sea of floating definitions of ourselves at any given moment just waiting to become your primary focus.  They are individual traits and characteristics, and yes, even some insecurities thrown in for good measure, floating on little rafts just shouting at you to ‘pick me, pick me’.

And we do for whatever moment seems to apply, we reach to the raft that seems to be making the most noise at any given moment.

You see, there is a definition of yourself that is the one that all other definitions should revolves around. However in our disposable society where we get cell phones as often as we change underwear, it seems as if the very definition comes and goes like the tide as well.

Where this presents conflict within your soul is in the very definition of who you are is being compromised and so the ego uses this as a way to become the soul arbiter of all that surrounds you.

Often times it is just not pretty.

To become so enamored with who you are by the terms others set for you, be it at work or in your personal life, is to surrender the better part of yourself in the process.

We Are To Play The Role We Define Ourselves As

When i was doing a fair amount of directing, there was a sign that i had on the door leading into rehearsals that simply stated, “What ever you have done today, leave it on this side of the door, for when you walk through this door, you are defined by the role you are playing.”

What i was telling the actors was that they were to leave the trouble of the day behind them as this was their clarity of focus for the next several hours.

Such can be said for life in general. We are defined by the role we are playing and that role should then become the sun of our universe that has the subsidiary hats that we adopt at any given moment as our planetary system. Essentially, our definition of who we are gives warmth and energy to the other traits that we may be at any given moment.

3 Ways To Define Yourself With Clarity of Focus

 

Way 1: The Center of You is What Gives Warmth to Your Soul

This can not be stated enough. You must define your true core and then live it in such a way so as to impact all other definition who desire to be you. To find this simply look at what it is that brings you the most joy in your life. I am not talking of the external, because most would say their family and friends.

No, what i am talking about is the truth of who you are. If you are having trouble, start by looking at the qualities that your family and friends bring to you and the joy aspect that are the relationships. There is a joy-factor that must be ferreted out to determine your core. Focus on that and really examine the feelings they they bring to you and you can then begin to piece together a soulful journey to your core.

Way 2: Do Not Allow the Voices of Other Definitions to Define You

This is one of the hardest aspect of your journey as others and the ego seeks to remake you in their own image. The sad part is that we often allow them so that we can simply ‘get along’ and ‘not make waves’.

This is a tragic way to live as, many times, we start to believe ‘own press’ as the old expression goes. We fall into the trap of the loudest voice of the definition of ourselves and we become jaded and out of step with who we are internally.

This is where the internal conflict then begins as we struggle to combine realities but never successfully doing so. Find your sun and allow it to become the guiding influence.

Way 3: Understand That the Further You Go From Your Core Concept, the Weaker You Become.

Often times when i am coaching a client, they seem as if they almost become a victim to the various definitions in that it becomes easy to blame the definitions as they are not really them. Being a victim is, then, very, very easy always giving you a way to say like the old expression from comic Flip Wilson, ‘The devil made me do it.’

It is just easier to have a scapegoat when you haven’t given your focus on what the defining aspect of who you are is and it is not front and center in your life.

Sometimes it is just easier to succumb to the pressure because it is the way you have always done it.

But it is as i have often described anyone of creative intellect; Your creative self is like a blade of grass covered with cement. No matter what the talent, no matter how much life and the people in your life cover up that blade of grass (your creative self, your core) with cement, at some point in time, it must poke through. It must find the sun, the energy that sustains it. It must.

In the end, life and who you are at your core will become your truth. Maybe it will finally arrive later in life, but no matter when it arrives, allow the growth to flourish.

For in the end, the only you that must exist is the you that is meant to reach a greater plane of existence.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking directyourownlife@gmail.com

A Life of Purpose; 3 Ways to Deal With Your Core Concern

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William Shakespeare, of course, wrote “This above all: to thine own self be true. And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.”

Seeking a life of purpose could never be carried out in the suggestions of a solitary post about the very nature of Living a Life of Purpose, but understanding the core of who you are, there is always a starting point that you reinvigorate your soul’s quest for truth.

Of course, everyone has their own life journey, their own truth, but somewhere along the way there must come a realization that there is a Life Purpose, the True Self that you were destined to become..

There is an old story from the Taoist tradition about the nature of the True Self.

A distraught man approached a Zen master. “Please, Master, I feel lost, desperate. I don’t know who I am. Please, show me my true self!” But the teacher just looked away without responding. The man began to plead and beg, but still the master gave no reply. Finally giving up in frustration, the man turned to leave. At that moment the master called out to him by name. “Yes!” the man said as he spun back around. “There it is!” exclaimed the master.

Several years back, there was a famous movie done by Steven Spielberg called, “Saving Private Ryan.” The movie followed a group of men lead by Tom Hank’s character, who were dispensed to bring back to safety, Private Ryan, who was the last member of a family of brothers who had been killed in World War II.

While the story was riveting, it was the last line of a now-elderly Private Ryan, after he had lived his life, that made me think. In one of the final scenes of the movie, an elderly Mr. Ryan is seen asking one of his children if he had lived his life well enough to account for the sacrifice that many men made to bring him home. Had he lived a life that mattered.

In many regards, that is the truth of life, is it not? Who are we answering “Yes” to when someone calls our name? Will we indeed look back and ask if we, too, have lived a life that the expansive Universe desires for us?

At the heart of it all, is our Core; Who are we at our Core and what is the Core Concern that seems to be holding us back from living that life that matters.

While you may think that these are two questions, they are essentially a coin with two sides.We all have a Core that we answer “Yes” to and then there is a Core Concern that seems to derail that “Yes” time after time.

The Core Concern That Binds Us

In truly living in the Now Moments of life, it is the Core Concern that seems to be our arch-nemesis. You see, we all have a Core Concern, that which seems to be at the heart of of fears, doubts and worries that seek to deplete the “Yes” part of us, our True Self.

But here is the main concept of the Core Concern; We spend a lot of time and energy trying to feel it and most of that is done unconsciously. In many ways, the ego takes over to cover over it by releasing insecurities that seem to cover over the feelings instead of just embracing them

3 Ways to Deal With Your Core Concern

As was said, the feelings of the Core Concern, whatever that is for you, is that seemingly “dark place” that often seems to derail you; be it anger, fear, feelings of not being worthy or whatever it is that you most struggle with. Turing it over to the ego to sort out, often with unforeseen consequences is not healthy, but is a place most go.

Way 1: Look into the Light

Essentially, embrace the Core Concern as a teacher, of sorts. In the movie mentioned above, “Saving Private Ryan”, Ryan’s Core Concern that he carried throughout his life, was that many men sacrificed their lives for him, a lowly Private in the Army and he struggled with being worthy.

The Core Concern is like that black hole in space that is sucking the energy of our souls but maybe, we should just turn our ship into it and embrace it for the teacher that it might be. Instead of constantly asking yourself if you are worthy, or whatever, just tell yourself that it is there as an object lesson for you.

Way 2: Accept With No Judgement

We waste a lot of energy dealing with our Core Concern in ways that are counterproductive to our “Yes”, our True Self. Instead of NOT trying to feel it, accept it for what it is. Acknowledge it with NO judgement. As soon as you start into the judgement for the reason it is there, the cycle starts all over again. Become an observer, in a way. Look at it and actually thank it for showing you a lesson and the way to your True Self, the way you can always say “Yes” to.

Way 3: Release It and Move On

This may be the toughest challenge in that, in many respects, your Core Concern is serving you by giving you an excuse to not fully embrace your truth. By saying “Thank You” and letting it go, we become the truth that is meant to be.

In living in the Now Moments of life, wouldn’t it be nice to just “Be”? No judgements, no worry about the “what ifs” of life? Just embracing the Core Concern with no guilt and saying that is what it is and its OK.
It is time to glean the lessons and move on. For here in the release of judgement, guilt and shame is freedom to become life itself.

Your True Self awaits.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking directyourownlife@gmail.com

We Have Met the Enemy And He Is Us; 3 Ways to Begin to Find Your Harmony

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On any given day, some aspect of yourself shows up to be the dominant force that outshines the rest of you. Unfortunately, we look at as if we are in some kind of sales contest within ourselves that seeks to win over the all other parts of yourself.

It is like some Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde experience that the ego has set up to rule you. What is even more important, is that the ego seeks to bring forth doubt within yourself to keep you slightly off balance so as to never cease the incessant reliance on the very aspect of yourself, the ego, that brought you to this point to begin with.

If i was going to illustrate with a theatrical production, it would have to be the play written by David Mamet, called, “Glengarry Glen Ross.”

Wikipedia describes it as: Glengarry Glen Ross is a 1984 play written by David Mamet. The play shows parts of two days in the lives of four desperate Chicago real estate agents who are prepared to engage in any number of unethical, illegal acts—from lies and flattery to bribery, threats, intimidation and burglary—to sell undesirable real estate to unwitting prospective buyers. The play draws partly on Mamet’s experiences in a Chicago real estate office, where he worked briefly in the late 1960s. The title of the play comes from the names of two of the real estate developments being peddled by the salesmen characters, Glengarry Highlands and Glen Ross Farms.

You see, this play pits these four characters against one another and they each go through their own personal hell trying to define the line in which they will cross to be number one within the office and to become the superior over the others.

Really, this is nothing different than the way the ego pits you against yourself and it is as if you, too, are in your own personal hell as you look to see what lines you,also, will cross. In this day of so many resorting to medications to try to calm that part of them that is out of balance with the rest, it may come down to understanding that the truth out there is really within.

There was a great comic years ago called Pogo, that had a simple panel with the character that was simply contemplating while saying, “We have met the enemy and he is us.” I remember that having a profound effect on me as a kid and it really started me, at an early age, into a more reflective path probably than most my age.

Of course, the universe makes no mistakes and i was destined to be as such.

Of course, i also remember a Calvin and Hobbes comic that had Calvin talking to his pet stuffed tiger, Hobbes, as they were having a discussion about life being like a play.

Calvin says, “They say the world is a stage. But obviously the play is unrehearsed and everybody is ad-libbing his lines.

Hobbes: Maybe that’s why it’s hard to tell if we’re living in a tragedy or a farce.

Calvin: We need more special effects and dance numbers.”

I guess, somewhere in the middle between Pogo and Calvin and Hobbes, there is truth.

Of course, i jest. In actuality, there is a magnificent Creator and a Universal Way that really is contained within us all if we but stop and look. But sometimes, we are indeed our own worse enemy and are indeed, the manipulative salesmen of Glengarry Glen Ross to our own selves.

3 Ways to Begin to Bring Harmony Within

However, here is the kicker; The ego starts the balls in motion and then stands back and watches. Then, after you have ‘messed everything up’, rushes in to ‘save’ you. The quotes are intentional, by the way, as ‘messing everything up’ is only a matter of perspective and the ego can never ‘save’ you from anything.

Way 1: On Any Given Day, Assess Who is In Charge

Think of yourself as a call center of sorts. All kinds of demands, calls, are coming in and yet, one person seems to be really on top of their game that day, handling all calls with a joyful countenance.

Here is where the ego tries to begin the battle. Jealousy of each part within yourself that then transmits outside of yourself. Think about it. How come one day a comment is said to you that you seem to laugh off but said another day, will send you ‘over the edge.’

Is it the comment then? Probably not. But more importantly, the egoic state you are in. This is why it is so important that you begin by looking within at who is coming to play today. When you can begin in self-reflection and not being purely reactive, then you can begin to assess the real you.

Way 2: Understand That Reactions are not Actions but are a Defense. They Are Not the Real You

In football, it is said that while having a great defense is mandatory, Defense does not Win Games; it is the actions that you do on the Offense that makes the difference.

I suppose this can be said of life as well, in that, if all we are in any given day are the reactions that we bring into the day, then we are playing from a defensive posture alone. For when we lose our Now Moments with reactions alone, the we have forfeited the game already.

Start by asking questions when desiring to react. Questions such as, “Is there a better way here to look at this? Is this person coming from their own personal Glengarry Glen Ross situation? Essentially, when you take the time to ask, the reaction may be diffused. Of course, if you can find your harmony to begin with, the reactive state may be nullified once and for all.

Way 3: Be Unashamed of Who You Are

All of the staff within your office that is “You, inc.” are never to be at odds with one another. Instead, you are to compliment one another and each part becomes the ‘ying’ to your ‘yang’ within.

You see, the ego would have you fighting within yourself in such a way that self-doubt and insecurities are rampant and are then portrayed to the outside world. A non-harmonious state then becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If you are unashamed of the parts that make up the total you, then you will begin to feel that harmony that must be part of every being on the planet.

But here is the thing… Harmony is always an inside job first. What many do is try to become the peacemakers for an outside world without first going within. Embrace who you are and care not for the opinions of others.

Have you office working together in “You, inc.” and the outside world will become a bit more radiant to you.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Strategic Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking directyourownlife@gmail.com

Get Out Of Your Own Way: A 3-Step Process For Truly Living

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We all have done it; Gotten in our own way when it comes to our hopes and dreams of a better tomorrow, right?

Well, therein lies the very tool the ego uses to distract you from your way, the allusion, vision, hope, dream of a better whatever at some ‘future’ date. It is as if the only thing that matters is the future.

It is not surprising as many are led to believe that very thing about life. Author Mark Twain was known to have said, “Plan for the future because that’s where you are going to spend the rest of your life.”

While i admire Mark Twain, i believe him to have spoken with a bent towards the satirical and for the absurdity of life in general. I think no quote more indicates that Mark Twain was a passionate fellow who had a bent towards the Now Moment and the release of fears that hold you back; essentially just getting out of your own way.

To Illustrate my point is this quote from Mark Twain who said, “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

But the process sounds so easy, doesn’t it? But unfortunately the ego enters into the picture with the constant drone of ‘security’ (or the lack of it) in your head.

We always have to be ‘secure’, right?

Most adult figures in your life preached this very thing to you. People even asses their possible marriages on this very fact; not so much is this someone you can weather all the beautiful challenges that may come your way together, but is this person stable enough for me? Are they secure enough to provide?

The ego fills your head with insecurities; about yourself, about your possible mate; about life in general, all built on this idea that there is this mystical security out there.

We have no one to blame but ourselves, of course, as we have become a culture of ‘entitlement’, at least in the USA. Everyone is entitled to, well, everything. Free this or that. We are all entitled because we deserve it for whatever reason.

But it only feeds into the real challenge; getting out of our own way so we can truly become the Universal Way of Life to ourselves and to those that intersect our bubble that is our life.

The 3-Step Process of Getting Out of Your Own Way

So, in this day and age where we seem to make everything a bit to over-complicated, one would think that a simple 3-step process is a bit too simple. Well, we are all on our own journey. If you decide you want to make it complicated, so be it. But, at the heart of the process are the last three words of the Twain quote; Explore. Dream. Discover.

Step 1: Exploration

Here in this word is the very nature of finding out about yourself for before any journey there is a period of self-discovery, is there not?

Some say that they learn about themselves on the journey, which is rightfully so, but, in truth, the journey must start within first. There is a part that must release the ego and allow yourself to take the journey to begin with. So exploration is always a journey from the heart to begin with. This goes for any new aspects of life that you are exploring. Never allow your ego or the opinions of others to set the parameters for your exploration for it is your journey alone, no matter how many others your bubble touches.

Step 2: Dream

This is simply allowing yourself to think out loud. This is feeling the wind in your hair and knowing that the Universe makes no mistakes, ever.

I often tell clients when they are speaking of some ‘failure’ that has befallen them. “Do you think that God is standing there saying”, “Gee, I never saw that one coming. Who would of thought that Joe would do that. Really, I Never saw that coming.”

No, the short answer. the Universe is the same for all; an abundant, joyful place that gives and expands with every breath we take. Dream on and allow yourself to see the possibilities. History is replete with men and women from all walks of life who have dreamed outside themselves and through whatever challenges that life threw at them and achieved for themselves. In fact, most would tell you that it was in the ‘failures’, or what society had deemed as such, was their greatest learning opportunities.

Step 3: Discover

This is pure release. The idea is that we can allow ourselves to see the beauty in every Present Moment with the ability of Discovery of simple every day aspects of our journey.

But the challenge is that we get caught in ruts and allow life to slip by in such a way so as to become a stagnant search for security in the mundane.

But this is what happens when, as Twain says, you “release the bowlines and sail away from safe harbor.” This is discovery of self and of the beautiful world that we have been given. This is the truth of the statement, “Stop and smell the roses.”

Release yourself to the Present Moment and Discover the beauty within and without for here is where all truth lies waiting for us.

The Simple 3-Step process; Explore. Dream. Discover. It is up to you to first release your insecurities that the ego has set as the stumbling blocks to a beautiful Now Moment.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

Let me Know your Thoughts Below, Follow this Blog, and be Social with this Post, for the more people we have living successfully in this Now Moment and discussing the value of doing so, the higher we lift all others around us.

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Strategic Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking directyourownlife@gmail.com

Your Passion in Life: 3 Ways to Position the Personal Towers of Your Tower Defense Game

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Passion is a funny thing in that it is indeed at the heart of your Tower Defense game that is life.

Let me begin by explaining what a Tower Defense game is if you are unaware of it.

As i do various writing, coaching and directing projects there are times that i need a quick diversion at the computer, where i spend a great deal of time. As i am not a die-hard gamer, i do enjoy simple flash-based games that you can do quickly, like Angry Birds. You know those quick diversions that you can do mindlessly but don’t require you enter into a full-on session as if you would sit down to play Modern Warfare.

Simply put, a Tower Defense-based game is a game in which you are protecting a treasure of some kind or advancing on a treasure.

Wikipedia says it as such; “The goal of tower defense games is to try to stop enemies from crossing a map by building towers which shoot at them as they pass. Enemies and towers usually have varied abilities, costs, and ability costs. When an enemy is defeated, the player earns money or points, which are used to buy or upgrade towers, or upgrade the number of money or points that are earned, or even upgrade the rate at which they upgrade.”

Here is the key concept, from my standpoint, that Wikipedia says about the game, “The choice and positioning of the personal towers is the essential strategy of the game.”

It started me thinking about passion and life as all games that we play are but an extension of who we are. What draws me to this type of game is the aspect that we all have a passion within us, something that defines us and as life sends wave after wave of challenges to our attempt to take our passion from us, we must set our own ‘Personal Towers’ to defend against the waves.

Now, as i have played the various games it has often struck me that one misplaced tower can cause my treasure, my passion, to be affected or taken from me. So you see, often it is our own inability that causes us to lose sight of the passion within us. We become callus and, in many ways, the ego tells us that we are invincible and that it matters not where your own personal towers are, that it, the ego, has it all under control.

That is until it doesn’t and then seeks to blame others, society-at-large or whatever is the current popular blame-game that seems to be all the rage; your bad childhood, some political system or the current state of the economy.

These are mere excuses for the lack of attention that we are to put on our Personal Towers to protect our passion in life.

The real question, then, comes from the examination of that which drives you; you fundamental reason that the Universe has you here and the core values that are your Personal Towers.

3 Ways to Develop and Place Your Personal Towers

 

Way 1: First Look at What Defines Who You Are and Why it is Important to You.

This is a strictly you asking you what gives you a reason to get up in the morning. The reason you have been given to be as you are.

Here is the thing. No one can or should define you but you for you see, it is a journey that is a singular one, but impacts all who embrace your sphere of life with you.

I recently had the pleasure to interact with a clients granddaughter and was surprise to hear her talk of the project at her school where she and others her age, the rip old age of fourteen, were told that they had to ‘pick’ a career.

Really?

At this age, most kids have no clue what they want to do, unless it is just a God-given journey that has manifest itself already in very obvious ways.To have to ‘choose’ something when they are so into themselves, generally, is a bastardization of the creative process that the creator has designed for us all.

As the young girl sought to ask my opinion knowing that i had coached her grandmother, she asked if she was bound to be this ‘whatever’ that she was to decide. I thought for a moment, knowing that it could give her some type of vision for her own Personal Tower. I simply told her that a career generally is not decided on, but finds her naturally. Essentially, you don’t choose a career, a career chooses you.

Way 2: Set your Personal Towers Carefully

Your passion is who you are and i am not talking about you being a lawyer or a doctor or a director. Your passion is the true part of you that gives you a greater-than-yourself view of the Universe, for there is no greater view to have.

Your Personal Towers are the core values that surround you and set you up to be the creative being that manifest greatness. It is the way you Direct your Power to be the you that is simply a powerful creator as that is what we all have been designed to be.

Be willing to take stock of your core values and rid yourself of the ones that are no longer working for you. Just because you have always done it that way, doesn’t mean that it is right for you.

Way 3: Upgrade Your Personal Towers

When playing the Tower Defense games, your real power comes from upgrading the Personal Towers in such a way as to get maximum effect on the hordes that are trying to reach your core.

Always taking stock and being willing to adapt and change and increase yourself is the secret to Directing Your Own Life and becoming what was designed just for you by the Universe. Take the opportunity to reach within and ‘upgrade’ your core values to Direct Your Power to become the you that is best for you.

For here is where all truth lays waiting for you to embrace.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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Lack and the Ego; 3 Ways to Turn it Around

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There is a concept that many have heard of called, “The Elevator Speech.” It is essentially a concept used more as a business acumen, but i am of the mindset that one must have a personal Elevator Speech as well.

If you are unaware of the elevator Speech, Wikipedia breaks it down as essentially, “An elevator pitch (or elevator speech or statement) is a short summary used to quickly and simply define a product, service, or organization and its value proposition.[1] The name “elevator pitch” reflects the idea that it should be possible to deliver the summary in the time span of an elevator ride, or approximately thirty seconds to two minutes.”

As i am not a fan of New Years resolutions, i am a fan of the self-evaluation and reassessment that takes place on a yearly basis that New Years inspires. However, it is not New Years Eve, but the eve of your annual celebration of one more trip around the sun that you have taken; your birthday. The eve of your birthday is a fantastic time to reassess your own value proposition.

What makes you who you are?

What is your journey, your reason for taking it?

As with elevator speeches, there is a tendency to want to allow the roles of life to define you, but really we are looking at your core values here.

Personally, as a Life Coach, and really as a child of the universe, i had to come to my own understanding as to a Creative Life Mission for myself. You see, there is what you do, your pursuits that are merely an extension of your value proposition, but then there is the real you that is what you are and what i coach as to what i believe everyone has; a Creative Life Mission.

What are the fundamental aspects of yourself that you take into every aspect of your Now Moments?

The question was framed for me by a mentor, as to a personal journey (even though i am not a fan of the word), “DA, What do you Hate?”

It was designed to help me define what it is that drives me, essentially the opposite then is my passion, “What is it that i love?”

Which brings us to the reason for this journey in this Now Moment…Lack!

That was the answer for myself and for those who i have directed and coached was simply the idea that, in some way, are lacking; that there is an overall Lack Attitude that is invading our lives in some way.

As i look back on the years spent as a director, it was not so much directing others like puppets in a marionette show that inspired me, but the idea that someone had a lack attitude as their ability to perform to a level of excellence that goes beyond themselves. I despise Lack and the attitude that accompanies it and if you have fallen victim to it, then its time to go beyond it.

First, before we address the 3 Ways to Turn Your Lack Attitude Around, lets look at the concept of lack.

While it is more often than not, a look at the material needs one thinks they desire, it really speaks to an attitude, a condition of the soul that affects all other attitudes.

From a definition standpoint, lack is simply, “The state of being without or not having enough of something: “for lack of evidence”.” From a verb look, we see it as stated, “Be without or deficient in: “he lacks imagination”.”

Synonyms for lack are; want – deficiency – shortage – scarcity – absence and from a verb sense, want – miss – need – fail.

Do you see how easy then, the ego can take every day aspects of Now Moments and turn them against you? Everything then becomes a lack in your life that often translates to “things” but, at its core, is always a Lack Attitude. The ego then becomes the defender of your attitude of needing more to make you “happy” but it is a mirage with an ever-changing oasis.

William James said, “Each of us literally chooses, by his way of attending to things, what sort of universe he shall appear to himself to inhabit.”

Essentially, what James was saying was that the way we approach things, our attitude, is the way the universe will then become. When lack is our general way of thinking, that we are lacking in some way that translates to a material outlook, then we inhabit the very universe of lack in all ways. The Lack Attitude then becomes our predominant thinking and like yeast in baking, subtly infects every aspect of our core.

3 Ways to Turn Your Lack Attitude Around

Step 1: Step back and honestly evaluate your attitude towards life.

Here is where the Lack Attitude is hiding and where the ego will tell you to “never mind, don’t look there as I have it all under control”.

This is where you ask your self questions about your general attitude; Do you feel that there are areas of your life that are lacking? If so, why? What is really at the core of that Lack Attitude? Not the things you lack, but the attitude behind them.

Albert Camus said, “But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads?” That speaks to the Lack Attitude within. Harmony, then, really is the understanding that we are lacking for nothing and starting from that premise, we advance into each Now Moment.

Step 2: Look at your Self-Talk.

This is where the ego takes center stage. It tells you that you are always lacking something; money, a good or better relationship on YOUR (the ego’s) terms and whatever else you need to make you happy in the future.

The ego is never concerned with the Present Moment, for if you are fully in the Present Moment, then you have no need for ego. For in this Present Moment you come from a place of joy.

It is always in the future where lack is, then. For in this Now Moment, no matter what your situation, you are here and whatever your ego is telling you that you need (or are lacking), matters not.

So, examine this moment and the way you are speaking to yourself. Exclude the ego from the discussion; the hurts and so-called failures of the past, and the needs of the future, and allow yourself to rest in this Now Moment alone. Speak kind words.

Step 3: Understand that You are Here for a Reason

This is a journey that the ego needs to be un-invited to; the journey within that is your journey without; Your reason for being here.

If you are reading this, then you are still important to the Universal Stream, to God. The ego need not be along here for it only attempts to tell you of your inglorious past and for a wishful future of lack needing to be vanquished.

This goes back to your own Elevator Speech, your individual value proposition. The very reason it all seems to make sense.

While it is never my course to tell you how to think, it is my mission to tell you that you matter and that you lack for nothing.

Evaluate your journey and the attitude you have, look at the ways you talk to your self and see that you are important to the Universe enough to be here in this Present Moment.

Desire nothing more than to live fully Now as it is the only Moment you have.

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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Strategic Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking directyourownlife@gmail.com

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