There is a duality within us all that we fail to embrace that will, ultimately destroy us if not dealt with.

The duality is constant fodder for TV and movies in the way of good and evil, Yin and Yang, and our male and feminine side, among other things. It is this duality that ‘keeps us in line’ or keeps us from stepping on toes so we can have a life full of no hassle.

But is that a way to truly live?

This is what we have been taught by parents, the way we have been schooled and the way our laws are designed all in the name of a harmonious existence as a society.

While i am not here to debate the nuances of the way societies are structured, i am on a mission to embrace the inner dynamic that allows us to function and it is this inner conflict, that if fully embraced, would have a far-reaching effect on the very fabric of society.

If every soul attempted to embrace the duality that we are endowed with, quite frankly many of our laws would become obsolete. Many of the scriptural references make mention to the fact that there is a certain aspect of our nature that is written upon our heart, essentially we know all we need to know to function without senseless laws that seek to control us.

In other words, we are endowed by our creator to know the way but it is when we release ourselves to the egoic tendencies that we then tend to become more at war than in balance with life and within ourselves.

What is it that pulls us? While that is a different question for most, it is a question that must be asked.

Again, just look at reality shows, and while most scoff at their heighten attempt at drama, it is a compressed look at the nature of souls when put in certain conditions that allow the process to unfold in a way that is all of our natures.

There is a battle that wages, but it need not be. It is like we are constantly bargaining within ourselves for a certain percentage of the company so that one part can retain control over the other.

3 Ways to Begin the Process of Alignment Within


Way 1: Embrace the Emotions

I lose many men here as men, by and large, have been taught that emotions are not the realm of ‘real men’. That emotions make us weak and that we are to ‘power through’ them and ‘man up’.

Have i used enough cliches here?

This is a fairly dynamic aspect of the unification process as there is a certain aspect of your nature that must me expressed emotionally; be it happiness or sadness or frustration or whatever else we experience within. It is when we bury these feelings that we become detached from that balance.

Now, notice i said to embrace them. They are nothing more than guideposts to the truth that the emotions are hiding. That truth that is the real you that seeks a way out through the balance within.

Acknowledge that they are there. Respect them for showing you the way and then look to the way they are pointing. They are the off-ramps for the truth. Allow them to lead you for t is when you pull off within the emotions that cause you to go astray.

Get past them and see the truth they obscure.

Way 2: Understand that Life is a Moving Target

Where many get caught up is in the granite-like approach they seem to take to life. There is right and wrong, good and bad, and this way and that way and , my favorite, my way or the highway. Of course no one ever explained where that highway would lead one.

More importantly, within the very framework of this approach, seems to be an ever-increasing amount of judgement that seems to come along with this way of thinking.

Shakespeare penned in Act 1, Scene 3 of Macbeth, “This above all: to thine ownself be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.”

What is true for you, may not be another’s truth. That does not make it good or bad, right or wrong, it just is what it is. If nothing else, if we live life as our own truth, others will respect it and desire to model it.

More importantly, when we reside in our own life of inner balance there comes naturally a peace that many see in you, but, more importantly, you see in the way you now live. When you live within your own truth, you are on the journey of a life of balance.

Way 3: Understand That in any Situation, Lead, Follow or Get Out of the Way, is the Answer

In an given situation, we must understand that if we are in a state of balance and awareness of who we are, there are situations that we do indeed lead. But in other situations, we follow, not with a spirit of anger for not leading, but because we can because of our inner truth.

We know when we are able to become a driving force and when we need to simply become a team player. And, more importantly, we know when to get out of the way. The key here is not allow the ego to become involved in such a way so as to assert itself as the one who should always lead.

A soul with a sense of inner peace knows the exact moments to become the Yin to anothers Yang but it is only from a sense of inner balance.

This is a process, but all stems from within.

Begin the journey, if you have not already, for life awaits you. You await you.

Be a Person of Quality. Direct Your Power.

Until then…

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dasouthern@directyourpower.comDA Southern is an Author, Speaker, Blogger and a Personal Development Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for Coaching or Speaking @