In life, as in love, the truth is usually very, very simple. It is the joy that inhabits your soul.

However, having said that, it seems that the joyful journey, for many, seems to be lacking.

Why is it that in a modern world where technology has made us all related to one another as Friends, Followers and Likes, we still seem to be disconnected from our real purpose – Joy.

Has the very act of becoming so intertwined muddled up the joy-train?

Questions i do but ask as we are all on this journey together in joy. But what has come to my attention is that many of my clients seem to be missing this one component called joy. Now, i am not speaking of those momentary joyful moments, but the soulful, deep and resounding joyful experience that moves you to a new place in love and in life. It is this place that we all must recognize that we must embrace fully or decide to allow the ego to have the moments alone and settle for them as the only joy we shall have.

We are better than that, i believe.

First, you may not even know the real essence of joy. So what is it?

In many ways, the dictionary calls it a “state of being” but inadvertently, the correct implication is stated when it is alluded to as a ‘source’.

Joy is, the emotion of great delight or happiness caused by something exceptionally good or satisfying; keen pleasure; elation: She felt the joy of seeing her son’s success.

A source or cause of keen pleasure or delight; something or someone greatly valued or appreciated: Her prose style is a pure joy.

The expression or display of glad feeling; festive gaiety and as a state of happiness or felicity.

These are typical meanings and, yes, we intrinsically know them about joy. But the truth is that few embrace the source of joy, the deep reservoir within us that moves us to that place where ego is not invited, but the truth is that ego cannot go.

You see, true, deep joy is that well well where love springs forth and life becomes one glorious Now Moment after another.

Look back in your own life at moments of joy and ask yourself, “What is the common denominator?” Usually, it is the going outside of yourself in some way. it is why thrill-seekers go to the extreme to find that moment of joy; that loss of control and the letting go of all ego. The true experience of being connected to something greater than themselves. Even if it is but for a split second, they sense it. Often the continued journeys into new and even more outrageous ways to excite is not so much the extreme sport, but the attempt to reach that essence once again, even if but for a moment.

But the real truth is that joy is never garnered from outside, but from within.

As a writer, i found great joy in this quote form another writer, Henry Miller, who said, “Whatever I do is done out of sheer joy; I drop my fruits like a ripe tree. What the general reader or the critic makes of them is not my concern.”

The essence of this quote is as i tell my coaching clients, “It is not your business what other people think of you. Live the life you have imagined and live it it your joy. Only there can you find yourself.”

3 Ways to Begin the Internal Joy Process

This is not a journey for you that would be nice for you to take. It is a journey that you must take. At the heart of the journey is love and from here your life becomes the source for a life that has a new direction

The First Way: Identify the Characteristics of the Joyful Moments You Have had.

Understand the difference form joyful moments and the eternal joy from within. At first this may be difficult, but it needs to be ferreted out. You see, often joyful moments are steeped in the ego. While they may seem to satisfy, they are nothing more than the cotton candy of your life Looks great, taste great, satisfies on many levels, but it seems as soon as it is consumed, the joy has passed, it is forgotten.

However, within the joyful moments, there are characteristics of those moments that are truth, but the ego has so hid them from you that you can’t ascertain them.

The Second Way: Ask Why These Moments Brought You Joy

There is something that the joyful moments have in common, i assure you. The key is to discover the real heart of joy. Ask yourself what was the real reason the moments brought you joy. What emotions did they illicit? What were the activities that you were engages in? Were the joy moments achievement based? Or where the joys contained mostly in a relationship context.

When you identify the moments, you get a real sense of the passion you have for life.

The Third Way: Align the joys with core values and reinvent yourself in the Stream of Joy

This way may seem a bit out there for some but aligning yourself with your joy-source is aligning yourself with life itself. It may be that you are doing something simply for the sake of doing it, not because you get joy from it. Stop doing it, then.

We are all on a journey and that journey is a set period of Now Moments. Live life like you mean it. Live in the joy that every Now Moment brings to you. I guarantee that no one on their death bed looks up with regret at their loved ones and says, “If only i would have spent more time at the office…”

Live in Joy, Live in Love. Be Love.

Until then…

Be Excellent, Expect the Best!

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