“Anybody can become angry, that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.”


Anger seems to be invading our very existence in record waves as we recoil in horror at the inhumanity done to one another in these seemingly enlightened days.

In my posts on enlightenment, i broached the subject on the premise that there was a reasonable amount of clarity of intent when it came to approaching a sense of enlightenment.

The displacement of anger was one of those assumptions. But as i approached anxiety in a previous post and started to look at the ways that anxiety was a factor to keeping many from feeling a sense of worth at getting to that point of enlightenment, i discovered that anger is a very real barrier to getting on with the way of love in your life.

Anger, and all of its nasty little tentacles, is keeping us from progressing as humans and as a society-at-large. Anger is at the very root of many of our inabilities to expand, as is the nature of the universe.

I look back on my own journey and i truly understand the nature of anger, although i have not struggled with it so deeply as to impede my progress and growth. But, that being said, i had to look within on my journey to see the nature of angers effects on my own life.

As is quoted by Abraham Maslow, “Whereas the average individuals “often have not the slightest idea of what they are, of what they want, of what their own opinions are,” self-actualizing individuals have “superior awareness of their own impulses, desires, opinions, and subjective reactions in general.”

Essentially, the beginning of dispelling of the various roots that anger feeds, means the look within.

The things that are so devious about anger is that it often manifest in such unlikely ways. Oh, would it not be nice if it were all so blatant as to have someone just “go off”, as the old saying goes? It is almost easier to deal with as usually the reasons for the anger seemingly are right in front of us.

But the insidiousness of anger is usually not that subtle and, to top it off, it is used as an effective weapon, often under the guise of love.

3 Reasons to Rid Yourself of Anger and Anxiety

First, the very poison of anger and anxiety is You to You.

Mark Twain said, “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”

The reason we must eradicate anger, and i am not talking of righteous anger as even Jesus had that, is to be able to become that which the Creator has destined for us all. I’m speaking of the anger that manifest in your daily life more frequently than not, as an attitude of dis-gratitude. It is the general malaise, the feeling of general discomfort or uneasiness, that one takes into life affecting all that they encounter.

Have you not experienced this yourself in a party situation? People who are “bubbly” draw people to them, right? I am speaking of a quiet confidence here, not a fake party persona that is put on to impress. Anger is indeed the acid that poisons the vessel.

Second, Anger stops you from moving forward, for it is nothing but a fearful look at the future.

I have seen this manifest in various ways, but anger seems to look for ways to always to be insulted. Generally, an angry person will find a way to continue to be angry and thereby making the future Now Moments be a place of fearful anticipation.

Third, the Past continues to be Ever-Present.

Anger is that place that ties you to a person, place or event that keeps you in the past mentally and spiritually. It is almost as if you refuse to let go for fear that the anger is the only thing keeping you grounded, for as insane a reason as that appears. Anger, then, becomes that part of you that is your constant companion.

But to move into this Present Moment is to live not in the anger of the past, but of the experience that it fostered within that will move you forward in a positive way.

In the next posts, we will look at the ways that anger manifest and ways to get to the real root of the anger within. but for now, reflect and allow yourself to become greater than the anger within, for the vessel that is you deserves to be free of the poison of anger.


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directyourownlife@gmail.comDA Southern is a Strategic Life Coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over 35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA Southern for coaching directyourownlife@gmail.com